Don't confess, later you fall in the same pit as me, get to know that she is not single.
You would not want the feel of wanting to call/msg her, but you cant. 
In your case, he/him.

depend on how you gonna handle it.
never confess you never knew the answer, confession either u success or fail doesn't matter.
at least you didn't regrets and you did what you should do.

Yea I confess, I don think its a fail, but she's already taken.  I respect her relationship, but haizz....
But sometimes, you don't want to ask for answer that you don't want to know...

Bump this thread if u found it useful

Simple..get a new super awsome gf/bf! and ask your parter to hit you hard on your head whenever you start talking about your ex...

Coupled with him for 2 years, broke up, suffered for another 2 years. I couldn't stop thinking about him at that time. I cried myself to sleep almost everyday.

Finding new hobbies, doing new things, meeting new friends/hanging out really worked. Eventually I moved on and found another one without desperately looking for one.

Don't give up, make yourself busy and good things will happen soon.

Actually, no matter how hard currently you all facing.
please do remember that, this will be a cycle that keep on and on.
It will not stop until you found him/ her.

This is life, everyone go thru it daily.... Just to remember to enjoy your life.
Everything happen for a reason, and those reason you will or might see it in future.

  apa pula aku cakap ni~

if anyone remembered my thread about paranoid girlfriend, we now officially broke up. I think it is a wise decision since she has another guy since the moment I treated her badly and the guy came to rescue. lol

But breaking up is still sadding. I know i was not ready for single again. I tried to mend the broken heart for a week and a half. And now i think i can move on. But still i dont have any interest with the girl. I just cant love anyone at the moment.

For some reason i feel like I want her back despite of all hatred I threw towards her, and what she has done to me (third person) because deep in my heart i still love her.

But some says, try to find a replacement but i dont think i would because my heart is still in healing state.

Now i am trying to keep myself as busy as possible even though sometimes i still remember about her. Yea, all the txting, calling, fbing, anger, happiness, sadness; about everything.

I still confused with myself, should i get a gf now to help me forget her or should I just stay single as long as possible and try to heal myself so that my future gf will not be jealous because of this thing. Well, a girl might get jealous even if it has nothing to do with her. If i show more love about the former one than the current one, she must be thinking that i still love my ex. (note: still no future gf or current one)

So, guys, I know a man should be strong but doesnt mean i cant have emotion. I want a gf but sometimes i feel scared i cant love her sincere enough. at the same time i hope someone would help me mend all the broken pieces of my heart. And she will know my suffers and hard time and will appreciate me a lil more than anyone else. who knows.

And do you think, keeping your story of your past like broke up, sex life,  things you did with your exs, and what she/they did to you is a good decision? Would you tell all about yourself? Or would you just tell her that its better not knowing all. But end up with she doubting you.

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Added on December 31, 2012, 5:20 pm
so true. the cycle will apparently stops the time we found the one. hopefully my life has no infinite cycle.. haha
I hope i can get an awesome one as my wife. The thing is, every awesome girl now has boyfriend. haha

Your situation is just like my Ex bf, but his story is different as he look for me after we broke up for few months. He do share his feeling and ask for forgiveness. Yea... I do felt touch and almost wanna to forgive him but my current bf treat me very good and be like a adult I have to put my responsibility toward my current boyfriend. I thought I could be forget him but I'm not. My current bf helping me every time I cried because of him. Time passed and he having a new gf few WEEK after he looked for me. It is hurt me the most. All the promise seem to be nothing again and again. I'm regret that I still keep my heart waiting for him to change that time. I'm felt frustrated, sad or even more down than the past. But for now I will felt lucky as I didn't choose back my ex and my current bf is still be with me and always helping me heal all my pain.

To TS, If you no ready to said you will changed for her and hope for couple back, please do not hurt her twice. It's just based on my opinion. If she could found someone is good for her, just don't look back and let her go.

After all of this, I believe that the most easier of guy to forgive the ex is looking for the next partner.

Good luck TS!

I dont know if it's good to share my sad stories here, but i really want to move on, like really so badly and completely disappear from her. I dont want to think of her anymore, is there any tips to move on?

Hi bro. How long since you broke up? It takes time also. Moving on is not something we can do overnight. Plus if we really still love that girl(assume you are a guy). I just experienced it a few weeks ago, furthermore its near to my exam week. It was so stressful.
Here is some tips, on how i manage to control my feelings but some might not agree with me but i'll just sahre it anyway.

1) Never let yourself alone in your room.
2) Keep away all the stuffs that will trigger your memory with her. Put everything in a box and seal it.
3) If your room reminds you of her, all the chit chat/ what you did in the room while talking, you position of sitting or laying down while calling her, while txting her might remind you of her. Try to stay out from your room for a couple of days. Like staying at hotel/ friend's room/ relative/family house.
4) If you cant bear the sadness, please just release it all out. Cry until you cant cry anymore. Until you feel better.
5) Talk to someone. You might not know there is someone who cares about you. Your friends still care about you. Tell them your story so that you will feel better. eventually they will try to comfort you and give you some advice. But I know the effect wont last long, you will feel a bit sad after the chitchat but dont think too much about it.
6) Do a lot of outdoor activities. Jogging, swimming, snooker, or even go out and flirt with other girls with intention to play around laa..Nothing serious, just for you to have someone to talk to even its strangers. Flirt i mean not trying to get laid or something. just do it so you have a reason to smile. if you are lucky enough, you might get replacement sooner than you have ever imagined. XD
7) The next tips only works for me *at least - I called her sometimes to listen to her voice, and she also still contact me while she has new bf. she admits that she still loves me, but there is nothing much we can do about it. I am trying to accept the fact that we are not together again. and this situation makes me feel better. Knowing that she still loves me is something good, but we cant continue our relationship. Even sometimes jealousy killing from inside well, just smile lah
8) Go find a girl, or not necessarily A girl, might as well MANY girls to accompany you everyday. If not in real life, txting or whatsapp also good. Because from my experience, to much of "bromance" sometimes makes me bored. Like too much of hanging out with guy friends sometimes make me feel foreveralone.haha. I need to talk to someone with opposite sex.
9) Think positively. My bro once said this to me. "sudah-sudahlah tu. There is more to life". Well, i accept his advice because he is my role model in life. He also expereinced this a lot.
10) Last but not least, keep yourself busy with something. Looking for new friends, find replacement, talk to your dad/mom, watch movies, go ice skating, travel to other places and so on. Your world is not going to stop there. Just assume it as a new beginning of your life. Its time for you to find another awesome girlfriend.
Chin up and look forward bro. There is more to life!!! Go find awesome girlfriend! haha
ps: If you believe in God, talk to Him. He will be your loyal listener. He will give you the best
pss: just tell us your story. Dont keep it in your heart.

Today, 11-01-03 is her birthday, i called her sharp at 12am, she doesn't pick up, well, so i just sent her a msg and wishes her. she just replied in a really cold way. not long after that, she posted that she really wanted to hug him so badly, thank him for his caring and asked her friend if she should moved a step further with him.

I'm drunk now, its like the whole world crashing down. I'm really so depressed.

but im going to make it straight, it's the last night i should let myself down, and i will completely disappear from her. i even bought a present for her which i thought of waiting her on 10-01-2013 after her party and hand her. lucky i dint as she went out with the guy.

i dont know what im typing, im just, down. 

i feel you bro. sad..just sad. well, bro, after u finished drinking just go straight away to bed. dont think about your feelings anymore. Be a man. Hand it to her whn you are ready. Showe her that you are still care for her. If you love her, just let her happy with someone else. I feel sorry for you.

Because now and then a new thread appears asking how to get over a relationship, and always the regulars advising the same thing, i've edited this thread a little, and invite all to post any advice on how to "get over" a relationship here. This should also save the trouble of people creating new threads and us reiterating what we said


Baronic�s tips on how to get over a broken relationship.



Step 1: Deciding to get over it.
The most important fundamental step in getting over someone, is always, step 1, which is actually deciding to actually get over someone. Many people actually forget or consciously decide to skip this step. For example, they'll go around saying, "how do i get over this person? what should i do, i just can't think anymore!" After listening to a long lecture filled with advise, they suddenly turn around and go, "But i still love him/her! I'm not sure if i want to get over him/her!". In which case, why are you even asking about how to get over the person, when you haven't even decided if you want to? Step 1 is a step where noone can really help you. They can give you various advice, (eg. he's a d*** get over him already! or he's not someone who comes everyday, try to work it out!) but yourself have to decide whether or not you feel its over. My own advice is try thinking rationally about. Follow these simple rules.
    * When weighing the pros and cons, never ever mention to yourself : I still have feelings for him/i think he still has feelings for me.
    * Think about the cause of the trouble in the first place. If it was trust issues, like you found your partner two timing you, if your partner says he/she's sorry, and you forgive him, do you really think you can continue for the rest of your relationship and trust him whenever he/she is out of sight?
    * Think about long term compatibility. Do you think he/she would make a good husband/wife, a good parent? This forces you to think about personality traits, and habits, that may have appeared or become more noticeable only after getting into a relationship.
    * Tip: Use pen and paper in writing out pros and cons. Ask friends to help list any additional cons if you're worried you may be biased. Then decide.
    * Avoid asking yourself questions that have no answers. Eg: Was he/she lying to me all the while? Will i be forgotten? Will i find someone new?
Only when you've decided, "Yes, its over. We may/may not love each other, but the fact is, as two separate individuals, our lifestyles, habits, simply cannot match, and this relationship is over". Contrary to popular belief about love being able to conquer all, it cannot. Compromise must be reached, not plain tolerance. How long can you tolerate something, or even ONE bad thing about that person? A year? Two years? Certainly not a lifetime. You must compromise, and reach an agreement you're both happy about. Compromise. Not tolerance.

Step 2: Acceptance

Completing step 1 helps greatly in step 2. If you can decide that "Sigh, i want to get over him/her" it means you've accepted reality. You've accepted the fact that the relationship is over. You've accepted the fact, that while you've had some good times, some happy, laughing moments together, a future together, as life long mates, simply will not happen. It's okay to cry, take what time you need, get it all out of your system. Crying doesn't mean you're weak, and can't live without the person. I usually advice my friends to set a dateline, perhaps by the weekend. Cry and mourn all you want, but make a promise to yourself, that by that deadline, you will stop the period of mourning.

Metaphor: You're walking in the countryside, cool breeze in your face, the sky is brightest blue, yet sufficient clouds in the sky to make the sunlight on your skin feel just lukewarm. Suddenly, a bird flies overhead, and down comes a spray of shit, all over your head. How long will you stand there, and cry and moan and curse? Or will you decide to get yourself cleaned up? Just the same, your relationship is over, there is no true use in living in self pity, get yourself cleaned up. Wouldnt you advise anyone else to do the same?

Step 3: Methods of getting over someone

Step 3A: Power of the mind

Often people forget the power of the mind. It is certainly possible to brainwash yourself. What you say, can affect your moods and emotions. A good example is during studies, i was taught to look in the mirror, think about the subject you hate most, (in my case geography) and repeat to yourself, "I love geography". And i'd do this every single day, until geography became a tolerable subject, and even enjoyable in certain topics. By telling yourself you love the subject (even if u didnt), it encourages a positive attitude and outlook, which eventually becomes the core of your being.

Now after many break ups, i have many friends saying "I WANT to get over the person, i know it won't work out, BUT i still love him/her!"

From now on, use the power of your mind. From this very instant that you read this, make a pledge, that you will NEVER say "you still love him/her". Tell yourself everytime, "I'm moving on. I feel happy". No buts, no arguments. If in your head the thought "i may say it...but i still have feelings...", stop right there, shake your head vigorously, and tell yourself again, "No! I feel happy. I'm moving on."

Tests: So, after reading this, how do u feel, about your break up?
If you answered, still feeling down, still missing her, i still feel horrible, then read this entire step again. Your answer, should have been, "I'm starting to feel better." "I am recovering." "I'm moving on, i feel free".

Remember the power of the mind.
Step 3B: Power of the body

Few people realise that when you're in a relationship, oxytocin, a powerful peptide that makes you feel happy, contented, when you're with your partner. Have you ever felt, "Ah, the world could end right now, but i don't need anything else as long as he/she is by my side". Thats the oxytocin talking. After a break up, we often feel as if something is missing in our life. Not to ruin romanticism, but thats oxytocin missing.

Just like how a junkie gets manic depression when deprived of his drugs, lack of this feel good chemical can make you feel depressed, useless, and lonely.

So what can you do? Get substitutes! Exercise! Any form of exercise, from strenuous to the slow moving yoga, can help release feel-good hormones, that will actually make u feel refreshed and fight depression as it fills in the gap of the missing oxytocin.

Step 3C: Power of music

You KNOW that music has the power to influence your moods. You've heard the stories and metaphors a thousand times, how music can soothe the savage beast. And yet, you choose to listen to emo music, break up music, or simply music that remind you of your ex. STOP. Start listening to a different genre of music, more upbeat music. It influences your mood, it can make you happy, it can make your sad. Music is a powerful tool. Don't jab yourself up your ass with it.
Step 3D: Take time off away

For some people, step 3A, B and C may not be enough. Time heals all wounds, so if you must, feel free to take time off away from your partner. Of course, if he dumped you and he's a bas3rd, then that isn't much of a problem. But perhaps, it is a mutual break up, perhaps it was a circumstantial break up. Whatever the reason, if you wish to remain friends, perhaps, tell your ex, that your need some time alone, and you'll contact that person again when you're ready.

Done, then take your own sweet time, no rush, enjoy life. Sometimes talking to that person can bring back bad and sad memories, so take time to get away, so that step 3A, B and C can take effect. You should never need to get permanently away. A, B and C will work. Time heals all wounds. It is true. And if you disagree, and feel down, and feel you can never get over this person, please read step 3A again: Power of the mind.

Get away, meet new people, go out with friends, spend time at the movies, get a hobby, and even treat yourself, perhaps that ice cream you've been always wanting to try. You deserve it. As you've taken a huge step to self improvement. Congratulations!

So how are you feeling?
Better, much better, you're recovering, you're feeling better, you're getting a new lease on life.

I dont want to be friend with her anymore, as I dont want the  tears anymore. I made my decisions clear. I guess you should too. What's the point of still being friend when deep down inside, you're hurt? Let's make a move!