Just broke up too, he said i m dominating him with a lot of requests.. i hoping for his come back but i think the chance is so slim.. i hurt him by saying he was not putting effort and sincerity in our relationship, but deep in my heart i know he did, just me being too greedy want more from him.. he's right i m too dominate in this relationship and continuously hurt him by my words.. i regret.. does him really love me? heartbreaking..

He no more reply my sms. Sigh...

For my case, i just hope to have a little bit more time to spend together rather than we just meet once a week for that few hours only.. while, he was always full with schedule with friends and other stuff, this made me feel i am not so important for him to spend some time with..

Just broke up a couple of weeks ago. Almost 3 years together. It's my first relationship, so I know I made a lot of mistakes. I'm willing to put more effort and fix things, but she said she's tired already... I didn't even get a chance to improve myself. It's very painful and sad. I love her so much.

I'm trying to move on, but it's so hard. The day goes by so slowly. I tried keeping myself occupied with work and other things, but when my mind idles, I start to think of her again. Although we didn't contact much after the break up, I can feel she's trying to avoid me now. Half of my FB friends are mutual friends with her. I feel sad whenever I see her interacting with them... sigh

Please knock some sense into me. I need to get over this badly...

Thanks guys.. i still need some time to get over it.. saw him online, but i cant like usual chit chat with him, that feeling is killing 

Damian , your very experienced as I can see. Still felt a bit down but getting better. What I want to ask is, based on so many breakup's I have seen lately?

Is there any chance in winning back the ex-girlfriend(in my case) or ex-boyfriend? I mean like several breakup's which were very painful but still end up together. Will that be possible? As in a redemption for past mistakes, become better. Or just move on? I'm still curious. It's hard to determine true love.

I don't really go into love life until 2010. My first love is all there is starting back from there. Breakup the second times and it really makes me can't accept the long story held within. I still wonder if there's chain reaction cause this year is pretty unlucky with all my friends or related breakup quite as well.

Are we "The Sims" being controlled partially? I wonder hahaha. It hurts me bro, Damian. Life. But I really want to be with the one's I love.

Yeah about the promise and change. Argues usually tend to involve those stuff.

Have u talked to her? Dont push, just talk.

Yeah, we do say things like 'leave me alone', 'i cant take it anymore' and (many more), but sometimes we would love to see how hard u try to win us back. To see if there is sincerity left in u before we could consider to give u another chance.

Try, but u have to be sincere, if things really doesnt work as u wish, i think it's the best for u to let her go. Maybe she's not meant to be with u. Whatever it is, have faith okay?

Sniperz, pls dont rely on what i said totally. It is just my 2 cents what happened btwn u and ur girl might be a different case from what i have shared within my friends circle.

But based on what we have shared and what i have listened from those around me, yeah, i have to admit it. We would always that crave to change u guys

I believe u r a nice guy sniperz. Think wisely, things happen for reasons. If u have tried ur best to be a better guy for her, then it is not ur fault anymore if she cant see it. U know urself better than anyone else, u know exactly when to hold on and when to let go.

Like i said, u can try but u have to maintain ur pride too. I know u love her, still. But if things doesnt work out despite putting ur best effort to win her back, u have to learn to let her go. It is the hardest part, but i believe u can get thru it sniperz

every time i broke up...i came here...i just broke up again...

this is my 2nd one... 1.5 years..

she gave me reason --> she prefer to be alone and wont paktoh again...right now..she is flirting with my friend and my friend show me!!

what can i do!!! just 1 week and she is already nothing! normal!

Hi guys. I've gotta very pathetic friend who cries over his stupid first love. In any case, he was that super pushy kinda guy who pushes for calls at night, pushes for frequent stupid goodnight sms's, pushes for i love you's etc any cheesy think u cud think of. Well that pushiness earned him a break up, and i heard he broke up and got back with this girl for more than 20 times!! I always try to advise him to change his stupid self but nuuuu... he still wanted to be like that.. so every now n then he keeps calling me to mengadu plus always cry like a shitty shit.. until one time i shout at him at the phone saying i dont wanna listen anymore coz i also so damn tired of stupid stuff like this..

so, lesson no.1. lots of guys dont realize that this pushiness is among the best reasons for girls to really get ANNOYED/RIMAS with you. please dont act like u own the girl, like she ur public property until can always mentally abuse her every now and then. keep a relationship open and free.. dont let ur girl feel like always kena kongkong. otherwise u can go up yours for not respecting that freedom.

and then, this quarrel break cry drama continued on for like almost a year.. and i was really getting pissed off.. i told la my fren to move on.. i personally think moving on was the fastest way to forget. i mean, so many girls out there dont have to be such a fail romeo think only one girl can make u happy. bluergh make me sick la hear stupid shit like that..

so, lesson 2. just move on. find a new interest. let ur lust drive u for other women. i dont mean it in a bad way, but cmon la be real. just take 10 secs look at other amois, others can be fascinating also right? if u got that right, u have made ur first step in forgetting ur stupid ex.

just so you know, my friend really stupid idiot, one day we had a big exam and had like just a few days to study *my friend also a bit slow, but thankfully he rich boi*... so everybody else were up their asses burning midnight oil, but this dumbass decides to moan and sob while waiting for ALREADY-EX-GF to call him at night.. and then some more tell me in crying tone, "aku sanggup xstudy sbb tunggu panggilan dier" hey stupid fcuk wake up la shithead. u dont waste ur future over stupid shit like this seriously!! cmon la parents all pay for your education and u go take a dump on their face by telling them "aku SANGGUP x study sbb tunggu panggilan dier" aiyaaaa... really misuse that SANGGUP word.. but ya la stupid people we dunno right? can waste everything in their life for womenz.. in the end that girl end up with someone else and u end up mntk sedekah potong kaki duduk tepi jalan.

so lesson 3. please be a man. u live for a reason. gf/womenz all side track u only. live your dream, pursue a good future.. i put it policy that i will never fail becoz of gurlz.. becoz that is the stupid idiot reason to fail in life.

fyi, just so you know i also last time got KO by girlz also. ya laa, puppy love gila2 one.. really took me 360 around the world. i also had my share crying pasal girlz, but life has to go on maa.. guys, u gotta remember that! if this one failz u go look for another one!! easy peasy.. dont be such a fail romeo.

I want to contact my ex again. Long time no see but don no what reason to call him. What do you guys normally do? Just normal hi bye or make a excuse?

what to do if your ex text u back just saying that she is depressed, while at that moment she has left you and moved on with another guy. u became the good guy, and try to make her happy. at the end of the day you end up buying her a sony mp3. the next day she forgets bout u.

how to get over loving a girl that u cannot love?

Strong enough, i guess. Glad to see this comes from u.

Cheers!

Hi..
I'm new to this thread but i love reading all the advices that's been given..
Some are seasoned veterans, giving solid and practical advises..
Well some are more green to the love fray, so more emotional advises..

Well, i'm not really a love guru or sorts, but i can conclude something from my own (little) experience and from observing others..

"Common sense is not so common now days"..

I'm quoting from a lyn member post.. (forgot who odi, if anyone knows pls tell me)

Well, love though has alot to do with emotions should also have sprinkles of common sense..

I have to confess, there were times when i was so enclamored by emotions and got carried away..I even wasted my parents money go chase my ex to KL just to be close with her..

Stupid? Yup..

Regret? Nope.. I never regret..

Status? I prefer single for now..

Why? Well, as noonies_naruto pointed out, a woman shouldn't be the reason why a man fails..

That's just plain lame..

It should be the other way around.. ;D

My dad use to say, "in everything boy, sprinkle a little salt on it.."

I only figured that out when i was in my 20++

What my dad was trying to say was, no matter what ure in, never forget to think things over rationally.. So once you decide, the least you could do was to remember that it was your decision and as a man, stand on it till proven wrong.. ;D

Haha.. So my advice to all friends out there, "sprinkle a little salt on it.."

And yeah, I love you Dad.. I'm sorry i was a fool for chasing that woman whose Dad hates my guts..

Haha.. Now, my fam are my close friends, critique and  counsel..

Well, i got my own close knit friends community, but for me, family first..

I know some don't have such privilage for certain reasons..

But there are "friends that are closer than a brother.." -Bible-

It's hard when someone who you love deeply.... broke everything up.... and turn his heart cold, no longer wanting to talk at all, becoming total strangers.

U sure u r cold blooded now Damian?

There was a problem.

Ptoblem made u cry everyday.

Instead of fixing the problem he chose to run away from it.

Shows he couldnt care less and is selfish in his selfless seeming action

Not worth hurting over

All i can say is someone that i used to know stole my heart away, and she's dead right now and there is no way i can get my heart back.

Makes me feel i don't want to start anything new again at all. If risking my heart to be crushed again into dust.
I feel very hopeless right now. That special person in my heart don't even want to become friends at all. I mean what's so hard just being a normal friend again? 

IMHO , break up should always be clean....... be friends ? is it even possible when u have feelings and 'memories' of being together ? Honestly i don't think so,

I am now single for exactly a year after my partner left me for some1 else, AND we r so called 'friends' but, i can say it is very unhealthy for me, cuz i keep on holding on to the past...hoping for a tomorrow when that person will just run coming back to me............ hanging out together and listen to her telling me bout her new relationship and problems.....all i know is ....i die a little more after every meet.......

I'm weak...unable to let go of her.......given a choice it would b better to not have kept contact so that i could heal the wound properly.....

e.g if u got burn by fire...would u still put ur wound near to a fire ...or would u put out the fire straight away ???

Of course it's always easy to give advice........but it never is a simple or easy thing to put it into an action.....

I for one is still trying and strunggling.......................

Never thought it would be that bad. I mean 1 year and still not able to let her go completely? Hmm..I need to think twice now if i should keep in touch with my ex. He promised not to show me anything about his new relationship, but i don't know how long that would last.

Well, for me it is, but it might not b the same for u or anyone else, just sharing my experience...in the end my advice just follow your heart.....do what u think is best and dun live in regrets.....
Thanks, like i said easier said then done, u have no idea how many times i've thought of giving up on her completely, even as so called 'frens' but every single time i think of doing that she contacts me, telling me things like, 'i missed you' ,
'i've seen this movie and i thought of you' , 'That reminds me of you, i feel touched and blessed to have you in my life'......well after hearing this words coming from her, back to the starting point i am...and struggle and suffer all over....not that i mind or anything..cuz i really do love her and all i want for her is the best....and sometimes the best might not be me........what i am saying though is that it is unhealthy for me..mentally or otherwise....