first,after read all the reply from u guys to TS and listen to wat she said(actually.. donno TS stand for wat.. but i think is to the 1 who create this topic).. i feel your bf is quite selfish... if your bf wan you to trust him but at the same time he hide anything from you.. izzit sound weird here?? why don just he tell wat he did on his day?? especially with that girl ...

second,when u say...when u at hometown just u called him.. and he never called u.. really piss me off.. he not worry bout u? but instead he can call his `friend' to chat and sms with her?? wat the.. just like my last time.. so that feeling.. really like.. why i am the 1 keep calling him/her to chat but... he/she never call me??

anyway.. i hope u can decide how the relationship continue.. since the problem had occur and he like.. cant decide how to settle with his `friend'.. so u better prepare the worse result might happen... but for sure.. i hope your bf will get back to your side... cheers~~

i think... u have alot supporter at here too... if u wanna chat.. i think all of us.. will stand by your side !!

He lied to you about clearing things up with the girl.

And he will not clear it in front of you coz he will tell another lie to the other girl.

And he did say its the end of the relationship if you want him to clear things up (in front of you) coz all his lies will be broken then.

When his all his accumulated lies break, there's no point to lie to you anymore. So of course its a bye bye.

Now he is having both girl to pleasure him. And if you wish to continue to do so, by all means continue.
If you dont, stop being so blind

ya.. i started to learn it previously but i failed.. bcoz others say i m too soft-hearted.. i dunno.. maybe correct mayb no.. but i will try again.. thx for your wish..

i dunno.. i m thinking the same way like u.. but he always said me think too much n over sensitive and can bcome a movie script writer..

now wat i can do is think positively, the reason he done all this is bcoz of his "logical/rational" hv take over his "feeling".. he act according to his feeling.. i feeling better when i think tis way..

thx..

i do confronted her last time.. both of them hv the same outcome - fren.. now i regret to met her face to face.. bcoz she went over to told my bf everything tat i hv told her.. including those not-so-good-to-be-hear words.. n last few days, she called my bf to complaint i harassed her n at tat time i m there so she n me argue again.. n i asked her y she go n tell out everything to my bf.. she answer bcoz she dun like to do thing behind other.. n i replied then u go n tell my bf all this thing not consider do thing behind me?.. she quiet for a while n angrily answer bcoz u r not my fren, n r u satisfy wif this answer.. i m speechless..

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Added on January 10, 2008, 5:17 pmyes, TS = thread starter..

the calling part (when i at hometown) adi occur since long time ago.. when i asked him he always said i m busy, i think u sleep adi, my phone no credit, n etc..

dun worry, i always think worse.. so how worse it is i think i can accept it..

i m thinking tat way too.. so tat's y i request to be face to face n my present.. but he refused..

yesterday he told me he adi settled wif the gal.. n i asked him wat u both hv talked.. he only ask me to go n check his handphone.. i didnt do so.. but in tat gal's blog she update something like "to someone special, we both believe in fate, n the fate wil manage to come when we hv together faced all the obstacle.. n bla bla bla" i dunno who is the special one tat she meant mayb is my bf.. if yes, y she posting in her blog? to angry me? i m thinking to block her friendster n dun wan to see her anymore.. wat u all think?



This post has been edited by @lice~~: Jan 10 2008, 05:17 PM

no.. don blocked... continue to c wat is she doing.. wat is her intention.. mayb from there u can find sth else..

one more thing, do not lie to urself when u smell sth k

take care

Words fail me.

Be strong girl. Just remember that life is about so much more. Stand up whenever you fall.

Well I don't wanna make things worse here, but isn't it pretty obvious that they are hiding something? I mean, if she has nothing to do with him, why would she be angry and tell your bf about you confronting her instead of saying sorry to both of you cuz of the misunderstandings?

And secondly, your own bf~~ he's not clearing things up. He's not helping you in trusting him. Cuz I don't see any effort from him in clearing up this mess according to what you have said.

Solutions? If you trust him that he has settled things already, then forget about the other girl . If you still have doubts that he is still cheating on you, then why not get out of this tiring relationship?

sure.. but i really feel the hurt when i start thinking they hv "something".. the pain is really from the heart.. i hate tis kind of pain..

Thx

Yes, i do told him.. proof to me tat u 2 hv nth.. n he reply me by how i going to proof.. in ur mind n heart u adi confirm me n tat gal hv something..

i m giving both of us a chance again.. n i m trying my best to forget the gal n the incident.. n back like previously..

this shows how irresponsible ur bf is.. ts, sorry to say, if im u i'll forget about him..

regardless of what people tell you.. i think if you really like him you will still give it a chance.. most girls will

but people do not simply give you opinions and replies. sometimes truths hurts.

if you're up to do something, you have to accept it no matter what is the outcome

This post has been edited by paranoid: Jan 11 2008, 01:13 PM

Do you trust your boyfriend that he won't be cheating on you? Do you know this girl well enough that she's not trying to steal your man? Have you ever joined them before?

If they're just good friends, I wouldn't mind at all. Guys don't like their girlfriends to get too jealous, they get annoyed Give him some space... he has his own life and you've yours too and a couple doesn't have to spend 24/7 together. I always hang out with my guy friend often (we work in the same company and we even live together) and my boyfriend doesn't mind that at all because he trusts me.

Sometimes I do talk/chat with some of my clients female employees around my age. Just doing that to improve the customer relationship and secondly to understand the thinking of young gals.

Honestly, I dont mind going out 1-on-1 on a dinner or something but to have her calling me asking if I ate, how im feeling everyday, I guess there's more than friendship in it. Besides the gal already confess to him. For me, sometimes we will hit the bottom side of a relationship and might fall for traps like these. For me, I will made my stance clear.

agreed....
Sad to say not many guys can do tat...

personally, i really dont like my bf to be very close with a gal, especially with his ex. It's really frustated. Wat's for still so close with his ex? and this make me hate that gal very much. Just like wu lei jing. Even though she know i dont like them to contact with each other so much, but still she do so. Really hate her lah. Wu lei jing

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Added on January 13, 2008, 9:40 pmsome gals are really b****es woh... they wont care and will keep contacting with other's bf and make the couple argue always. this is called b****es and wu lei jing loh.

This post has been edited by moonlight2: Jan 13 2008, 09:40 PM

The girl updated her blog again.. and this time still the same he blogging abt my bf again.. some more wrote up his name.. wat make me surprise is my bf hv brought her a crystal bracelet n other items.. refer to her blog, she wrote out all the sweet words tat my bf hv told her.. like "i will give u all my money so tat u no need go for study".. n wat he hv done to her to make her happy.. i m speechless.. kena boom bcome few thousand pieces..

he told me they r just normal fren now n seldom contacting each other... but from the blog she wrote... hahahhaa.. everything is totally different..

I've read from page 1. Nothing to add.. just that...

The answer should be obvious now,
Be strong, girl

This post has been edited by neogeo85: Jan 13 2008, 10:49 PM

well, if they are best friends, im ok with it. but they should have a limit right?
thats what im facing now too!!!!!!!

good but how many fellas can as stance as u ?

it's very obvious now..
cut it off.. it's painful but it's for ur own good
the earlier the better..

don't always trust what the guy has to say.. look it from your point of view and from the other girls reaction..
it's not fair to you also

He said he didnt brought the crystal bracelet for her.. n the reason he told all those "sweet words" to her is just joking.. n he said again they r juz normal fren n he is just "normal" caring toward a fren only..

he ask me stop go n read her blog n let her write wat she like to do.. he cant stop her to do so..

scolded me for using his account to sent msg to her..

u still trust him???
wake up !! girl

he scold you coz he wants more privacy??