ahyo...sorry to sound so professional. TS, let him do it himself the "breakup" wif the other girl.

if you stand there tapping your feet, arms folded and sour-sour, you not only malu him no face, he also will find it very difficult to speak freely to the other girl. also, it means you are also "punishing" him, and also control him at the same time.

from this, of course, he gets up set and threatened to cancel your relationship with him.

for now you've "won" (aka got your way) at a price. let him win something also.

i dun wan his body.. wat i wan is his heart n mind on me.. not other way round..

Juz like a chinese statement, u hv him not mean tat u wil hv his heart n mind too..

Eeemm.. i admit i quite dependent on him.. he is the one make me believe in love again.. n i always think he is the good gift for God to me.. silly me... hahahhaa...

Yes, the gal confessed..

i really hope i can be more open-minded (can go out wif other guy at the same time i hv my bf), not tat soft-hearted, not tat loyal.. hahahaha... maybe tis way can make me more better..

Punishing??? U mean Pushing is it?

i do not mean to control him o anything.. i juz wan to make sure they really clean n clear after tat..

btw he do admit tat he hv some little "feeling" on his so called gal fren.. n she did know abt it.. so when both of them hv the "feeling" there, do u think they should continue tis kind of so called friendship?

This post has been edited by @lice~~: Jan 8 2008, 04:37 PM

yes, punishing as in punish. not push. see, bf made to choose and TS won, having won it is time to...and control. maybe i'm wrong. i've been wrong before and will be wrong again now and again.

Wat about u gv him a week time to come clear with dat problems he created? I tin no use to push him dat hard lar...maybe he needs time to think away to reject her and at the same time they can be fren again like usual days...dis is not easy to gv an explanation like dat, dun u tin so? ^^
Afta 1 week only u tell us the result ya? Curious to know coz somehow like me also but not yet thr...ehehe^^

BTW, how u know the gal confessed? Ur bf told u? If yes, I tin ur bf also come clean about dis kind of tin wif u at least...is a good news rite? ^^

I think u already on the losing side.

There's no true friendship between opposite sex..

Me and my bf is havin dat now...

The gal hv sms him at early morning when i stil wif him n i read the sms myself.. n after i asked him for few times he juz told me the true..

Yes, i m happy tat he told me but after he know the gal hv crush wif him, he is not stopping to contact her.. wat all is this means?? giving hope to the gal??

seem like from start he has the upper hand and he is using the "upper hand" right now, no wonder he has this kind of attitude, if he treasure u more he won't propabaly do something that would hurt your feelings rite ?

omg ! he admit the feeling, well at least he is honest, the only thing is give him some time to forget his temporarily infatuation, else erase him slowly lulz, cheers

I hate to admit but I totally agree with your statement. Give him some times, else if he still continue to be so, then you have to part your way instead of suffering.

easy..dont giv him sex or kiss him..everything goes as usual minus the sex...then u go out wit other guys and let him know but pretend like its nothing.. then sure he boh song liao...get a tase of his own medicine

Ouchh...I'm somehow can feel how ya feel as we're both same sexes.

Hmm...I tin I still suggest u to gv him the 1 week timeline...dats the max he got...no nego...

But.....pls be prepare for the worst outcome...my bf wan me to tell u dat...probably ur bf wan to hv u and his fren both as his gfS...he tins he cant lose both...and he cant choose one...he said dis situation happened coz ur bf c the "tins" which u dun hv but found on his fren and wat his fren dun hv found on u...

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Added on January 8, 2008, 5:17 pmHey...I started to get piss off wif u guys saying about sex all da time...
WE gals is not sex provider k?
Thr is no rule saying dat we gals must gv our boys sex for everytime we meeting dem k? Am I rite TS?

This post has been edited by QiQio: Jan 8 2008, 05:17 PM

i mean IF you guys are doing it then stop.. alot of guys just wants that..
i aint saying girls are sex providers =.=

i'm not trying to put u down but i feel it won't last.. getting close with other friends especially with opposite gender must have a limit if they're not single anymore..
did he spend more time with you or with the other girl? you feel that he's enjoying himself more when he's with you or the other girl?
if he can fall and develop feelings upon another when he's with you.. it more or less proves that he has the tendency to cheat. if he wouldn't end up with this girl, there is still a long road ahead, who knows how many more girls he might meet in future.. does he love you enough??
be sure you're not to get hurt..

U and ur bf is having what?
U have boyfriend and he have girlfriend?

U aint seeing nothing sister...go visit the sex thread.

I have my own male frens and he has his own female frens lar...

Dear Alice, you must be going thru a very bad time now. All i can say is:

1) Let him settle it by himself as he wished but tell him to be true to you. No hanky panky as a r/ship needs honesty
2) Everyone deserves a chance and so does your bf and also give ur r/ship a chance as well
3) That girl's a real B*tch!!! Pure B*tch
4) Finally, I believe that you love him dearly to let him go now. So give the r/ship another chance but this time, be prepared. If anything happen, at least you wont be that hurt and finally realised that this guy is not worth your love after all.

Cheer up. okay

well..regarding this question...erm...act is depends on how u believe in your bf ....but for me is ok....as long as they din over the limit..
haha....and of cuz when i go out with my fren he also cant say cant....
haha...

we r staying together, so during day time he wil only contact me when he need me to do something for him.. he very seldom wil call me up n ask me wat i m doing o some sort of this.. but in another way round i m the 1 contacting him n chat-chit wif him.. but always got rejected by "i m busy", "i got customer" n bla bla bla.. not even out call can last for more than 5 min..

but with the gal he can keep sms n calling each other very frequent n almost everyday.. and he still dun wan to admit tat he got contacting wif the gal always until i found out the proof then he juz said i oso need fren to chat-chit n share thing.

more worst is when i m back to my hometown, i m the 1 contact him at nite always.. n he will call me up only when he need something from me..

he n the gal do go out together without my knowledge.. n only after tat he juz told me abt it.. wat is tat means? i asked him n he answer is i dun wan u too think too much n misunderstand..

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Added on January 8, 2008, 8:42 pmhow do u know they r not over the limit??

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Added on January 8, 2008, 8:46 pmI do hv my own male frens.. but we r jus online chating n mayb just once a week or a call in few month times.. n i wil told my bf everything tat i hv chat o do wif my male frens..



This post has been edited by @lice~~: Jan 8 2008, 08:46 PM