Oh? Dats good for someway...just dat is one way only and ur bf is not acted dat way...but i and my bf at least hv 2 ways...but if miss out something...den i dunno lor...but i tell all la...ehehhe...

Erm...seriously, from wat u hv tell us here i tin u oledi know da answer in ur heart...but is either u not dare to do it or u r not believe it happen somehow...does it sound confusing?

Ok..i simplified it. U know oledi how he hv treated u...and u also know dat ur current position in his heart...and u also know dat da importance of u to him...and u also know the reason of ur existence in his life...
and...NOW is either u dun accept the fact OR u oledi hv solution but u dun dare to do it and u wan us here to find u a reason for u to hold on on him...

If i not rite, just ignore it la...is just say wat i tin only...^^

This post has been edited by QiQio: Jan 8 2008, 09:20 PM

TS, if the gal B1TCHY enough...once give SMTH for ur bf..i think he sure cant tahan..trust me..ask guys here.....

i think it is time to let ur boy choose carefully...either u or gal...going out without let u know...sounds fishy...this guy not worth for u to love him if he keep going like that..think wisely, TS

yes, i do hv my answer juz tat i not dare to face n accept the fact.. i cant accept the true tat he can change so fast from a person to another totally different person tat i feel scary of.. some times i wil asking myself izzit really tat i think too much n they r juz fren.. but every times when i start think positively sure hv some thing stopped me to do so.. like seeing both of them contact each other very frequent..

i do admit tat i not trust him anymore.. he hv lie too many times to me n keep on hurting me non stop.. tat's really very hurt..

This post has been edited by @lice~~: Jan 8 2008, 09:51 PM

if you don't mind telling his and yours age ?

early of 20.. not more than 25yo.. we r same age..

y??

I think both of you are already tiring with current relationship. The only reason to stay on this relationship is just you dun dare to challenge the rest of ur life alone; u've paid too much on this relationship and on ur bf side, he owed you too much and he dun wish to take the first move to break up with you (perhaps he dun wish to bear the responsible).

Well, above statement is totally based on my thought (of course i dun hope it to be true, but remember world is always cruel)

Last but not least, wish you can be stronger and remember a chinese idiom: Shorter and deeper pain is always better than long pain. Hope you can settle this pain asap.

I was about to say "What's wrong with that?" until I saw you said she confessed her feelings to him. Yikes.

Yes.. when i m reading up ur reply suddenly just like got a bulk shine very bright on my head.. i got the idea n i believe wat u thought maybe is correct..

As i mentioned b4, i always think he is the best gift tat God have give to me..


P/S: tis morning when hearing to MY FM suddenly heard a chinese song.. by Micheal n the song title is "Fire work".. i cried.. the song really sing out every part of my feeling.. Found it: http://www.crunchyroll.com/showmedia?id=202244



This post has been edited by @lice~~: Jan 8 2008, 10:17 PM

well that settle the things here, he still need to enjoys his young life (like how does it feel to have two person loving me at the same time) (how does it feel to flirt with somebody if i already have gf), well good luck girl, i guess the people in here already give the answer, the rest is up to u, cheers

Thanks because of u agree with me and I feel so sorry that my thought is the truth that happen to u (cant say is true maybe still got hope but i believe the percentage of true is for sure higher now)

This morning, my gf and i were also listening tat while on the way to work, undeniably it is a very touching song.

TS, after reading ur story, my advice, ask him what he want actually.. tell him to make up his mind and make a decision.. and at least give him a day to think about it.. tell him it is either you or her.. you have to face the reality.. if you are sure about the conclusion.. make up your mind and make a decision..no point dragging on

Thx all for ur reply.. yesterday we argue again.. some more the gal called him n complaint to him wat i hv posted up in my friendster n hv harassed her.. then i did argue wif the gal on the phone.. n she keep on sms n calling him since yesterday (she sms/call him to show her caring like ask him eat adi?, r u ok? n etc)

anyway, my bf n i hv make to a point tat he wil stil wif me n at the same time he wil go n clear out everything wif the gal.. n he wan me to stop suspect him n trust him.. so do i wan him to know his own limit to every gal tat he meet..

but i know i stil doubt of something.. wat really i wan now.. i oso can't answer it..

This post has been edited by @lice~~: Jan 9 2008, 11:08 AM

U can give him a chance to prove himself or u dont give chance.

Yes, i wil give a chance to both of us.. n c how's going on..

way to go... give it a chance before letting go something. This might strengthen the bond btw u both instead. for a better r/ship. good luck and be happy.

Assume I am a girl. I do mind if my boyfren do like this. It just feel like sharing a man with another gal, if not frequent actaully still can acceptable. But then, I guess u shud voice this up to him. Argue is unavoidable, but of coz please let him know what is your intention and tell him what he does that make u not satisfy with him.

And to those who already attached but have opposite sex close fren,

Is nothing wrong to have a opposite sex close fren after u attached, but then, dun get too close or meet too often. Please do care for your partner feeling, even if your partner dun mind people might say things behind. Human do need face to go socialize.

thx

yes.. everyone hv to care for your partner feeling n know the limit.. n to avoid all kind of misunderstanding o jealousy which might happened..

well.. you've both decided to give it a try again.. i here wish you luck.. i know the pain.
and whatever you do.. always leave some space for you..

it's wiser to give 90% and keep 10% for urself rather than always 100%.
love yourself more.

There is no way a guy can be so close to another gal as what you said but yet still maintain it as just a friendship. His actions speaks everything. I am a guy here so take it from me.

For him to go out secretly with the other gal and then give one of the lamest reason ever which is "I scared u misunderstand" already point out the fact that he know u will be upset if u know he go out with the other gal but yet he still go on with it. A guy who love u wudn't do things that upset u.

Another thing is, the gal confessed to him and yet he still didn't draw a line between friendship and a person that have a feeling for u. Especially he got a gf, he should know how to draw a clear line without u even mentioning it to him. Come on, he can't be that dumb unless he wish to have 2 gfs?mistress?or maybe still trying to explore his options?

Love is selfish, love yourself first before u expect to be loved by others. All this crap where as long as ur partner is happy n therefore u are happy is nonsense. Don't let ur emotions get the better of you juz becoz he make u believe in love. You should believe in love yourself, not let others make u believe in love and when he is gone, ur believe is gone too.

If your bf doesn't know the right thing to do after all this mess, maybe you should confront that girl and tell her she's making you all depressed. Well if she is really a byatch obviously she ain't gonna care... but if she is only a friend of your bf's .. maybe she'll know what to do?