well I understand that there are some things that are just too awkward for guys to talk about with girls so...
but my bf pretty much tells me everything except the dirty secrets he most definitely has. XD

QUOTE(PeNNyPupZ @ Nov 19 2007, 06:09 PM)

it's a male thing.

i don't think guys understand us girls most of the time neither. but their common mentality is "ok she's upset. better not disturb her".  when on the other hand, we girls want them to ask and SHOW concern.

same for us girls, no? we see our boyfriends upset but when we ask why and all, what is the usual answer? "nothing" when it's bloody obvious he's troubled. what do we girls usually do? bug him rite? telling him you care and all so he must let you on what's bothering him. IMO, guys prefer to keep things to themselves or share it with their friends.

So don't worry him not telling you his nightmares doesn't mean that he doesn't care

PeNNYPupz :

i am absolutely agree with what you had said...[i don't think guys understand us girls most of the time neither. but their common mentality is "ok she's upset. better not disturb her". when on the other hand, we girls want them to ask and SHOW concern.

same for us girls, no? we see our boyfriends upset but when we ask why and all, what is the usual answer? [[[/B][/B]when it's bloody obvious he's troubled. what do we girls usually do? bug him rite? telling him you care and all so he must let you on what's bothering him. IMO, guys prefer to keep things to themselves or share it with their friends. ]


somemore, once if he has felt upset, you ask y? he said "nothing" . when you are quite for whole days, he would said why you are not concern me or whatever,,, WAH LAU.......

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Added on November 20, 2007, 10:02 amKVReninem,

Are you guy or girl? Thanks for your suggesstion..actually i know what should i do, but always i already do my best to be gf roles, at the end,you would never got appreciate by him, but blamed??


felt so sad sometimes, that y i am here to asked.

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Added on November 20, 2007, 10:06 ami am agree with you !! wat your guy want???

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Added on November 20, 2007, 10:06 amthanks!!!

This post has been edited by daminoster: Nov 20 2007, 10:06 AM

Hahaha..... i always care a gal..... care until i fall in love with her.... but didnt get accepted as GF.....

Always ask her why ? Answer = Dont worry..... Boring answer

Dear daminoster..

Gal.. i also had that situation before and i almost end the relationship.. u said that ur bf n u are in de relationship for 7 months rite ? mine is almost 2 years.. yet not really 100 % understands him.. i juz wanna share that ppl always said "you should talk to him and problems will be solve" but i totally disagree coz i tried that before and i really try hard to save the relationship but at the end we end up quarreling and tears..
but who knows, my bf talk to me and solve the whole situation and now we don't really have any argument and we now "dien dien mi mi" o..
so happy..
so i think u should let you bf know wat u feel and tell him how much u meant to you..
automatically you will be like me.. dien dien mi mi.. haha

Read more on Men are from Mars Women are from Venus by John Gray
this will help u to understand ur bf more

thanks you!!!

i rather keep low profile ~
how hard you try in your relationship; hopefully dont it end miserably later ..

a guy will appreciate a girl very much only when she is gone~...

i always share my problems with my ex

my gf owez dun un me.
i owez wait her beck fr PT until 1-2 am.
but she just type sms "g9".
i so miss her.

lucky u...i told him everything..i did everything i can..2 years plus relationship i dun want it to ended up in a rubbish bin...he treat he cold..then he apologize for mistreating me...yet again he treat me cold again...again n again..it all happened for 3 times continueious..i really dunno what to do...i ask him whether he still wears the ring that we bought 2gether...but he didnt reply for a long time so i thought i made him angry so i smsed him saying that its ok if he dun wanna answer..n whatever he plans to do with the ring its up to him..u know how he replied me??he got so deffensive that his tone like wanna beat me up or challenge me..he said if i dun belief he 3g n let me see...so i mah explained to him i didnt mean that way i just thought i made him angry..he said i was suspecting him in loving me..n said that think of whatever i wanna think about he dun care....it really hurts like shyt u know....2 and a half years of relationship...suddenly like that....

To TS,
I think i can help you in this case. Erm...not that your bf doesnt wanna share your problem with you. Sometimes it is hard for them to express their feelings. It will be easier for them to express it among male friends than female friends especially gf.

The harder you force them to share out their problem,the annoying they will be and there will be an argument.

Just let them be. When they are ready to talk,they will. Dont put pressure on them. Sometimes they can behave like a little boy and wanted to be pampered....hahaha..You can do your part here.

They will be ok. Just try to be understanding and thats all.

Hope this will help

yea; you are right..most guy sometime really like little boy.

hello to all members who replied my questions...
first i would like to thanks to all of your answers here, yours comment, yours suggestion is useful for me. now i know what should i do,i found that actually all the answer here is almost familiar, and it is true for all guyz who trouble in work,love,money, & etc, they would really choose to be silent and dont want to speak out to make you worried. For this, i think i need to learn to be understanding gf,and try to accept for those case.

Actually i did very confuse these few days, because i'm thinking that should i stop for this relationships. We did always argues, the reason is we lost our communication skills to each others,even a small case we would argue as well... (That y i m posting a question forum here to discuss). After read all your replied, i found that actually some of peoples is still facing the same question like me. Now, i'm trying to solve our problems slowly, and trying to cancel the mind of <STOP> and <END>

Because If i'm really choose to end this relationship due to those situations, others people would scold me. They said i'm too happiness to had him...? hmm.... others views and myself Felt is different ?Correct?

Anyway,THANKS YOU ya.......

This post has been edited by daminoster: Nov 22 2007, 11:19 AM

well; there is always way to solve problem damninoster =)
boys are ego....ego tats keep strong within
sometime; we do let our loves one know
you gotta pampered him...make him comfortable and enjoy first...dont attack him straight..attack softly abit...

he will not care about u at the end..if u keep asking and bugging and later relationship end..

boy always got their thinking too.
not easy if unless u got lotsa boy friend
a boy will just flush out in bar than infront of wife or gf...regarding the issue they faced..

good luck

after reading this thread, i realised it's true that guys normally keep quiet when they have probs..
but what about when a couple has a relationship prob, and then the girl decides to discuss abt the prob peacefully but the guy keeps quiet? no 2-way discussion to solve the prob..
he doesn't want to solve the prob? not interested for the betterment of their relationship?

the guy is PERIOD COME liao! lol......

This post has been edited by capcomfly: Nov 28 2007, 12:13 PM

yeah they just keep quiet most of the time, but it will pour out after awhile when u kept on insist in asking...

i think its pretty unhealthy if they keep all the problems inside them and not bringing it out for discussion

sometimes insist too much ..then end up quarelling..no longer remain a peaceful conversation..
really don't understand guys...

From a Male perspective :

(1) That's because he's a guy. Guys when they have problems, they walk away and sit down and think. Females, when they have problems, they call someone else and talk. I don't know how you're going to get it out of him. Just leave it, he'll tell you if he wants to.

(2) Um.. those are his friends. What he talks about = computers, cars, girls... you wouldn't be interested anyway.



Er.. no.



Because they're guys.


This post has been edited by wodenus: Nov 28 2007, 03:02 PM

guys they only think about dota.