Hi, Can any girls here tell me, do you understand what your bf's thinking always?

example :

(1)IS your bf looks moody, but he never want to tell you what happen to him?

(2) Always when come back from work, he did no much thing to talk with you, but when outside mamak, he did got a lot of thing to talks with friends?

Why always i cant get understand what's men thinking ? If being a couples, we need to share thing to each others,correct?

Girls is always worry,care,concern and love to tell everything if she is facing some funny ,sad,happy happens, but why guys wont? Is they really so good and everything is keep in mind and dont want girls(gf) to worry about??

so many questions am i, because i am confusing.

This post has been edited by daminoster: May 22 2012, 01:22 PM

I also want to know...haha though im a guy...

When a girl has trouble, she'll talk about it with people she's close with.

When a guy has problem, he retreats into his cave and talk about it with fellow cavemen.

This post has been edited by feyhime: Nov 19 2007, 02:52 PM

Guys alwayz wanna be strong in front of their gfs. So even the gt probs they wont tell thier gfs.

thanks for the reply..

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Added on November 19, 2007, 2:59 pmisit only that want to be strong infront of gf? he used to answer to me with the same answer, but it always happen, i can pretend like nothing, but i cant do that, because as a gf we need concern him as well? he speak nothing, how to help???

This post has been edited by daminoster: Nov 19 2007, 02:59 PM

ask me...i'm male..

usually 2 main factor that affect males' mind...

1st:money

2nd:money

generally la...for those who just came out from Uni and start to work...making money is not easy...and usually male face problem...we never discuss with female...main reason may bcuz we dont wan female to get worry about...

main consideration...we want female to be happy...so we dont share unhappy thing together ...

hengtiam: so great you guy are!

Coz he dun want u to sad together with him ........... So, he willing to solve by himself....

isit only like that?

Ya, I do agree with HengTiam coz i also in the similar situation.
Just started working for 1-2 years, everything also don hv, hp also use an old old antik 1...
Besides of $$, there are still other thing to worry (eg: career, buy car, buy house, saving $ for marriage); but majority are related to $$ lo..

QUOTE(hengtiam @ Nov 19 2007, 03:02 PM)
ask me...i'm male..

usually 2 main factor that affect males' mind...

1st:money

2nd:money

generally la...for those who just came out from Uni and start to work...making money is not easy...and usually male face problem...we never discuss with female...main reason may bcuz we dont wan female to get worry about...

main consideration...we want female to be happy...so we dont share unhappy thing together ...






Ya, I do agree with HengTiam coz i also in the similar situation.
Just started working for 1-2 years, everything also don hv, hp also use an old old antik 1...
Besides of $$, there are still other thing to worry (eg: career, buy car, buy house, saving $ for marriage); but majority are related to $$ lo..


maybe all man trouble's is related money.... but once if you never speak out what your worry or moody about, girls will always think the negative way? m i correct?? in the same way, if girls always keep thing in the mind, and dont want to speak out,even if she is moody, what your guy think then?

That's why observation is important. If they are unwilling to talk, their actions will speak for them. If you notice he is spending less on things he will normally splurge & spoils you less (or let you eat spagetti but he makan roti kosong), they are probably having money troubles. Then you pandai-pandai belanja him sometimes, spoils him a bit. It's do wonders to help cheer them up and supporting them when they are down. Not only girls need to be spoils, guys love it as much too.

But I personally think if you are in a relationship, you should at least let your other half know your problems. Sharing is essential or a lot of trouble may cook up due to miscommunication and misinterpretation.

feyhime :

thanks for your reply. For the question u had mention,actually i did sharing with him my thinking n problems. But after few weeks, it remain the same. that y it make me so hard to understand wat guy thinking.

Yes, i m in relationship now and almost 7 months. I did had a lot of best guy friends and girls friends. i did can understand all my friends attitude ,patterns and anymore in short times. but with him, i m so hard to get understand him???how come? sigh....

sometimes really confusing..

Actually, he do something wrong, if henunhappy he should share with his GF...... but he willing to hide and suffer himself

yes lo, that y make me so unconfident...... why?

it's a male thing.

i don't think guys understand us girls most of the time neither. but their common mentality is "ok she's upset. better not disturb her". when on the other hand, we girls want them to ask and SHOW concern.

same for us girls, no? we see our boyfriends upset but when we ask why and all, what is the usual answer? "nothing" when it's bloody obvious he's troubled. what do we girls usually do? bug him rite? telling him you care and all so he must let you on what's bothering him. IMO, guys prefer to keep things to themselves or share it with their friends.

So don't worry him not telling you his nightmares doesn't mean that he doesn't care

well; when he is down...try to be soft abit with him and be little more confident of urself..
sometimes; he will look up to you as his cave...
try slowly to find out why ..but dont make him upset when you finding it out..
coz guys dont like girls to know their problem and always he tend to hide and let it cave in and move on with it
as time goes by; the situation get worst; he will show signs; tats whr u have to be aware off

so daminoster; you know wat to do yea...

totally true man...aihz..guys..wat u all want?? i'm so confuse now...do this also wrong..do that also wrong...pls la tell us whats on ur mind.we're cant read ur mind..i dun ask much he said i dun appreciate..i ask too much he like thinking i'm very annoying..like asking me to leave him alone..aihz...dunno what he wants la.....

but it seemed that all didnt work that way...suddenly told me something that was really shocking...i also gone speechless ad...but still accept for who he is la...what to do...sayang him no choice lo...

this is very indeeed playful..
playful...
while playing *hide and seek* he is just also playing with ur feeling...