well... to understand my bf's thinking.. i seriously need to brush up my observance skill leh... he's always telling me nothing. but from his voice or facial expression.. i always know there's a problem... but i won't force him to tell lor.. i duno what he is thinking la.. but i at least i always know he got problem. though sometimes i really pressure him to tell him... which i think is good la.. cos he really did feel relieved abit after telling me the problem n listening to my advice... . but i do support pumpkinn. haha!! i always support my bf silently one n neva pressure him... but i think... he sendiri cannot stand the pressure of his problems and that caused me my happiness
but i think guys always have their own problems and they won't tell out bcos they dowan to worry their loved ones...

guys dowan to tell out their problems to their gf..is because they dont want the gf to get worry and stressed up with their problems..they prefer telling it to their friends..so just let him be the way he want..can just ask lah..but he dowan to tell then just dont ask him again n again lor..coz it will makes him sick...

Dont be confused little lady , We men think about 2 things , Food and Sex , If we are the religious type then god comes in the mix , Work sometimes , If you want the attention of your man , arouse him , no man can refuse arousal a little dance , some foreplay , try it !

maybe he dont want show his gf that he failed something?

if any1 has the perfect answer n convince me, i wld appreciate it... my bf is exactly the same... NEVER tell me ath at all.. esp how his mood is. mine will start shouting if i ask too many questions.... unbelieveable..!!!
wht kind of guys are these... useless bastards.....

when your man comes home from work, he's stressed out and of course, when you try to talk to him, you try to make him talk to you about what he's so stressed out about. Men don't like to do that. We as women, always discuss our stresses. Men only do this if they need another man's help. SO what he does is he shuts down. When he does this, LEAVE HIM ALONE.

If you want to talk to him about your day while he's in this state, give him a specific time interval that you want his full attention and he'll be glad to do so. Don't talk to him about your troubles and ask him about his troubles when he's quiet.

When he's with his friends, they talk about everything BUT stuff at work that's stressing him out. Obviously, they would have lots to talk about. He's not shutting you out, but when a man is stressed out, all he wants to do is FORGET about it.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Jun 6 2008, 11:29 PM

sometime i at work i dont like to talk at all ~ happen during panic mode
ya my job is very stressful... i hv think of solution by myself, coz nobody know it

i know if we slient during stress, we r scaring many ppl expecially ppl who concern about us. but our brain is connected tat way... hard to unplug

hi ts..hmm..i duno how ur situation now..i hope it wil go wel between u n ur bf..jus 1 advise..dun alwis argue in a serious way..wen argue mayb try 2 smile???i dunoler..but wen i argue..i look at my bf..i was talking in a argue tone but i cant help but smile n laugh..he noes i laugh n smile cuz i tried 2 hide it from him..he laugh 2..den makes it look like a topic we debate den jus joke bout it..but this is jus little arguements
if big arguements...like u were saying..u dun understand what is he thinkin..i aso noe sumting is bothering him..i wil ask him whether he wants 2 tel me anot..if he 1 2 tel me..he wil tel..but i think he wil feel more comfortable telling his frens cuz they have those guy's thinkin..so i let him go mamak with frens lu..
about work work work..my bf tells me everything bout it..cuz im familiar with his works..like which clients,colleagues n places..(im stil studying)wen he started working at 1st..(sales) he duno how 2 go those places..so i wil be holding a map of kl,negeri sembilan,melaka,selangor,cheras guiding him 2 look 4 the places he needs 2 go..thats y i noe his working stuffs...mayb u need 2 try find out a little bit bout his work cuz i think he dun tel u cuz he think its no point telling u cuz u dun even noe whats happening...or mayb jus take him 2 relaxing places so he dun need 2 think bout his work during off days...

i totally so agree

i din get to read all of it, but wat i can say is that sometimes guys too hav sort of 'period' and stuff, probabbly u read it at post before, anyhow i had always had this thought:
Since us guys doesnt wanna make u unhappy, so we don wanna tell u, but we would often share it with our frens, wat u can do is ask the frens and try ur best to comfort..

thats wat in my thought.. cheers

good gf....

sometimes i feel wanna ask and he will say nothing.
i be very happy that he talk to his guy friends, but the it hurt me a lot when he prefer to talk to his gal friend.

More on hiding in cave with the cave clannies.

if u want guys to be worry,care,concern lyk the girls do.. end up.. u also will get fed up lah. boring and always fighting with ur bf. i dun know what my bf is thinking..but i'll try my best to understand his feelings. women are complicated. guys are simple. women say 10 words to get at one point,guys say a word maybe. n so on..

i think,women.. get to know ourselves first. because sometime.. we always blame the guys for what we did. i wanna say thanks to my bf for being such an understanding bf and sincere to guide me whenever i do wrong.

dun get confuse ok. think easy n simple!

But that's a little wrong leaving the girlfriend is curiousity right?
At least share a little bit or more with the girlfriend.
If not, things would just get worse and the girlfriend also will be worried what!

guy wil say nothing..just like me...but end up,i also tell she..cos really can't control already..hehe

I don't know why the more i expressed to my gf the more she gets mad easily, mood swing, sad cuz of me, whole day lembik , no mood chit chat, makan....

So i kept all in my heart, listen to her mood, try pamper her. If she's happy, im glad i did a great job, thus i felt alot more cheerful.

Guys dont really like to trouble their gf, not selfish, just a little over protective. Or only me?

for more info, you shud read man are from mars, woman are from venus, very good book and makes me realize the difference between guys and girls, and why guys behave in a way and girls in another way ><

disclaimer : i dont get money for any book you buy......

very well said

the reason i don share my most of my problem with my girl :

a) sometime it is a small matter, but when she over reacted, it became a big problem

b) most of the time she could not give me constructive suggestion, instead she will telling "don be sad lar, it will be fine", "why you so stressed? try to get a sleep and it will be better." What i need is not comforting when i share my problem, i need constructive comments and critics which most of the female tend to lack of. (sorry to offend the female)

c) when i share my problem, she ended up more worried than me, and now i have an extra problem to dealt with

i know this does not apply to every girls out there, not every girl is as naive as her, but at least this is the reason i tend to keep my problem to myself and perhaps, few of my fellow out there who is more matured.

This post has been edited by fx_53_xt: Jul 3 2008, 12:44 AM

well said. i cant agree more