TS already knows but still choose to cling on to her. WHy? god knows.

Some women are still gatal after marriage. When sudah ada kids... they become easily irritated and fedup. Some cant handle motherhood as well as others. They missed being single again when many batangs will shower her with attention and gifts. It doesnt help that she sees her husband as a boring person at home either. What she craves is male attention and she is looking forward to that as often as possible.

I have seen these kind of women many times. heck... one of them was the wife of my ex schoolmate! She was clearly delighted with all the attention from so many batangs everytime she goes out and 'hangs out' with the boys. She is the only female among the group. Imagine la... all the Vultures waiting to fuck her everytime she meets them and she of course happy la cos she feels so desired by these vultures. So she flirted with them.... touched their hair.... their arms...let them touch her legs and waist.

TS... your marriage is over. Learn to man up and go for the kill to protect all your assets before she does anything. Strike while you still can and not let her take over your house.

TS...1 more thing: what makes you think she REALLY went to any gathering at all? She could very well say it is a 'gathering' and use this as an excuse to go to the hotel room with a guy or a few guys and have a threesome. Do NOT be surprised if what I said is really what happened....cos this has happened to my ex schoolmate before.

Which decent wife will go back home at 1am?? WTF!! 1am?? Many Hotels have day use rooms for rent where you are given 4 hours to use the room. So the guy (or guys) rent the room starting 8pm and have fun in the room til 12midnight. After the fun is over, they proceed for supper downstairs...and then your wife goes home after 1AM. Sounds very logical to me.

I know I am very blunt about this matter. hey... I am not affected cos she is not my wife. You brought this up in lowyat about your wife... so you clearly are prepared to hear anything from us....so I give you the full uncensored and the highest possible scenario.

HOWEVER.... we didnt hear her side of her story.... so I am not going assume that she is 100% wrong for now. Who knows...you could be a very hot tempered guy with some really terrible attitude yourself? Or you could be earning a lot less than her until she could not respect you ? Or you could have caused her agonising pain with your harsh words at home?

There are 2 sides of the coin. What we hear now is only 1 side...and that side is from you only.

I have seen this with my ex neighbour..she gatal type even after married with 3 kids....husband at home take care of kids, she go out for dinner with a bunch of guys....next is history lar...but funny is no breakups...until today still married...

Whoa. That sucks. So you're stuck with the responsibility every day or do you have a nanny that handles them for you? I used to have badminton sessions 3-4 times a week but stopped after having kids. Wife had a lot of social activities with her friends as well, but she reduced to once in a few months nowadays. We spend more time with the kids and give each other breaks because handling them is so stressful. Can't imagine my wife being out 4-6 days a week leaving the 2 kids for me to handle alone.

I take care... No nanny
I wake, make bfast, send to sch. Used to bathe, wipe ass when they smaller. 50% meals we cook at home, the home cooking can say i 6/10 she 4/10...

Then i accompany the kids to bed...

I can onli say after all i do for the household, her actions are unforgivable and extremely cruel

because the said person is his wife. His beloved.

That's why he cannot accept all these are real and true, because if it is really true, it will be very devastating, not only to his mental health... also his children. The whole family as he know and have right now will be fallen apart.

Reading through all these answers, TS must be very upset and scared.

to anyone who has real knowledge and experience, can i ask

can i sue the guy for wrecking my marriage? i have voice recording of him admitting what he did, and also of course, all the messages he sent to my wife

itu perempuan gedik. not suitable to be wife material. just play2 with her only la.

So confirm already?

Pls help him

mind chat in pm?

should we chat in pm?

As a woman who only had brothers, I'm used to being around guy groups but not to the point of having you care for the kids while I'm out, sorry.

Sue the guy if you have to. Also what did she say about the whole thing? If it was a mistake, fine but if she has had done this before, the cycle will repeat.Just my 2 cents.

Ok but unker forever alone nv divorce before, but rtk is divorce so I think he knows better or can recommend a lawyer to help

Think he better talk to a lawyer.
Srs.

Esp if ur Muslim, a shariah lawyer specialising in seperation would be best.

Even before be falling a 'talak' like how they use I think need to do some stuff in the background.

Not gonna be easy man.

Lets chat over PM...

This post has been edited by LDP: Aug 28 2025, 07:49 AM

just dont blow up in public the the Doctor case.

keep evidence to protect yourself, take full custody of the kids since you are the one taking care of them and all.