guys and ladies, if a woman, be it gf/wife, frequently hangs out with a group of male friends, does it cause side effects? example, does it affect her affection towards her spouse?

do appreciate answers from real life experience and not standard google answers tq

Not sure. But kind of red flag for me. Possibilty of hanky panky things to happen behind your back.

Id chase a crush before that always hangout with his male best fren beta orbiter…

Put yourself in women shoes. Do you like your bf/hubby have lots of female best friends and always hangout together?

Just ask yourself this question, if nothing between you and an opposite sex individual, would you hang out with her frequently?

very often? sure got something with one of the males already

once a while gathering with friend still ok la

This based on my experience with my ex.

My ex had quite a number of male friends from uni, workplace. At the end of the relationship, I dumped her after noticing her behaviour changes, she would hide her text messages and ask for space and more personal time.

Final comfirmation come to me when one day I noticed her sexy romantic chats with one of her so called male friends.

most of the time

if its gf, she is looking for better bf.

if its wife, she is tired/bored of current husband.

Yup, women will always find better version of men while still being in relationship or married.

This behaviour is already hard coded into women.

so would you leave if she refuse to reduce these gatherings? lets say almost on daily basis, up to 4 hours each time

so would you leave if she refuse to reduce these gatherings? lets say almost on daily basis, up to 4 hours each time

Yes will leave as I sense it as a red flag.

If she spending time daily up to 4 hours with her male friends, in my opinion her relationship priority has gone else where and you entered her 50 50 zone.

u need to see what kind of guys is in this group
if the guys are all like playboy and they are rich and is the type that ur girl likes then u connect the dots
if its from primary school and they are all in so so condition, got normal job, just the avg m40 kind, maybe its emotional cheating coz its their first love or something
but usually i think its the kind where the guy is their type but they cannot be tgt coz the guy dont really like her but if she opens leg they wont say no those type

in short is opportunity created
think? how often do we meet anyone to develop a closeness?
in work or any given situation when opposite sex spend enough time with each other and given the correct chemistry, someone will attempt to curi makan
last time work in project, long hours and involved travelling.. lots of inbreeding will happen. both side married.

well you dont have to leave, just you devote enough as what you feel. invest your resource on yourself and kids are fine. never... never invest on your spouse / partner. unless you fel he or she do the same.. this sound cruel but world indeed is cruel

This post has been edited by x_suncai: Aug 22 2025, 03:41 PM

if no children , still young, easy ...can always find another.
if i can turn back time , i will tell my younger self , not worth the time, anxiety, stress from a broken trust relationship


if got assets/children tied together, different story
- sit down discuss first, then think deeply for children sake , can tahan tahan lo... hope for better in future

Often, these girls love the attention from guys. They always give the same stupid excuse : 'I dont like hanging out with girls cos they are bitchy!' Never trust any girl who says this as it is merely an excuse to hang out with her guy friends who are all waiting to fuck her...and she knows it!
Girls are not stupid to realise her guy friends are all waiting for the moment she says yes. If your GF hangs around with many guy friends... chances are she already fucked a few of them behind your back....but she is still keeping you for the time being until someone better comes along.

thanks for all the replies. indeed many answers had been expected, but i needed to hear from others, to know i am not alone in feeling what i am feeling

its bitter to acknowledge. but i think there is absolutely no need for a spouse to have opposite gender good friends

I don't have such experience myself.

But if I discover she spend time often with one or more opposite gender on daily basis, yes, I also will leave her for sure.

Another way to see it. She is giving you chance to hang out with your other girls too.

they do it mostly for attention.
If the girl hangs out with mix of male and female then it can be more normal
I've heard stories like a girl can suddenly have group sex with the males because it just appears to be more convenient

that's why a solid male figure in core family plays an important role. I'm taking about a solid, not authoritative or controlling father