why your stories all feel like horror stories?

Go out talk to girls and guys, you will see all kind of people.

There is a fine line between frugal and stingy. Being frugal means you are able to pay more for quality items. I don't know how to differentiate stingy and fungal until one girl pointed out to me.

I don't want Chinese educated girls as my furure wife. I want they are like in their own world. Men must be provider. If you cannot be the provider you fail already lo. That is my believe.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Jul 23 2025, 07:05 AM

There is an implicit meaning when an individual is doing such — they are not decisive. And when things go wrong, it becomes “someone else taught me,” “someone else said” — the blame goes to others.

Among so many things in a relationship, refusing to be accountable or unwilling to take responsibility is one of the ugliest traits. Those who think they’ve diverted a problem by shifting the blame are actually planting a time bomb within the relationship.

This trait if not change, it will invite trouble.

This post has been edited by nihility: Jul 23 2025, 10:48 AM

Thanks for sharing this long write up.

My observations/views

1. I note first date Nov last year, by May already seriously talking about marriage. Whats the rush here? Take it slow man. She is not pregnant is she? If not, the longer you delay the vows the better it is for you as a man.

If u breakup already, for your next relationship, pls wait until at least 1 year before talking about marriage. Even then, only the theoretical possibility, without going into details.

If havent break-up, tell her you are not ready for marriage. Its her decision then to wait for you or not. If she doesn't want then let her go.

2. Your "ugly face". She at 152 and 60ish kg is not so hot either bro. Fat. Fat girls should thank the stars she has a rich boyfriend like u. Rich but stingy tho 🤔

3. I have to say you at 55kg is a stick. You need to eat much more and build muscles. At least another 15kg, which is an achievable goal within 2 years for a young person without drugs.

4. More later..

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Jul 23 2025, 01:32 PM

Like I said have a list of non negotiable. Abide by those list. Do not accept her if she didn't fulfil your non negotiable.

That's what I did. I make sure the girl fulfilled my checklist. Being fungal is my number one priority.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Jul 23 2025, 02:39 PM

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This post has been edited by TOS2: Aug 12 2025, 07:03 PM

she win liao lor.
also TOS2, get out fast. she have issues and you need to get going fast.
not sure which part of those chats will affect her safety.

This post has been edited by Chobits: Jul 25 2025, 05:27 PM

“父教不善，女之过也；女教不善，孙之罪也。”

“If the father’s teaching is poor, the daughter will err; if the daughter’s teaching is poor, the grandchild will be at fault.”

~

A failed match, a bitter home, a broken vow—
these are not Heaven’s games.
They are the harvest
of careless hands.


This post has been edited by nihility: Jul 24 2025, 10:59 PM

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This post has been edited by TOS2: Aug 12 2025, 07:03 PM

I have deleted your post as per request. Won't delete my replies

I been thinking how should i guide my sons to find the right wife in future..... So maybe share here:-

1) Mother education would significantly impact next generation IQ. X chromosome is related to IQ which provided by mother for both daughter and son. Meanwhile Y chromosome is from father. Daughter == XX while Son == XY.
--> to get highly educated wife, make sure study hard to get into the circled

2) Dating a period for both to know each other beyond surface level. Does the partner would take initiative to spend money from time to time? If no, move along. The girl is not for u

3) Find a responsible and right valued girl. Marriage cannot be sustain with love alone. Life is not bed of roses but full of up and down. The right one will to stick with u through it all and resolve issues at hand

4) Hope for a girl that love u more than u love her. U will hv a blessed life

Do test. Tell the girl no overseas trip, no high class meal, if she can buy reduce to clear fruits and vege or second hand item. That's how know you know you got a good girl.

Do simple dates like walking in parks. Don't to very extravagant dates. Girls which dump you because no expensive dates or expensive gift are a blessing.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Jul 25 2025, 06:21 PM

TOS2 I guess it's TMI when you mentioned their family background involving certain businesses.

If your ex is still reading, then this is my message for you:
Please be assured that I never had any intention from the beginning until now and ever to harm you or anyone in reality. If you felt that you could be identifiable from the divulged information, I did not, will not, share them to anyone else in the future. I hope to be respected the same way so that we can both feel safe in our private lives.

IF you ever want to talk privately, then I'm available on this forum. I will not take back what I say but I'll listen to your side of the stories. I don't think it's fair for what you've said to TOS, just as how you don't find it fair I'm calling you fat. Not nice to be judged by looks, right?

well, if you are thin and pretty girl.
it will be hard to understand fat people thinking. its different.

A generation that cares about the wellbeing of the next — a loving parent, spotted.

1) IQ ≠ EQ. There is a flaw in this recommendation. I’ve witnessed highly educated individuals — both male and female — commit deeply unethical acts. Intelligence alone does not equate to emotional maturity or moral integrity.

2) Time is of the essence. The timeline for truly getting to know each other beyond surface-level traits often differs between men and women. A man may wish to take more time — but how long is “longer”? And what if that extended period comes at the expense of delaying another family’s daughter? Even if the man wants more time, would the future bride or her family accept such a delay?

3) Words are easier than reality. Giving advice is always simpler than navigating the complexities of real-life situations. When the time arrives, it would be tested.

4) The girl will hope that the man loves her enough to give her a blessed life.

I strongly believe that parents bear responsibility for their children’s character and behavior. If each parent fulfilled their role properly, at least 50% of miserable relationships, mismatches, or divorces could be prevented.

You and your girl will never go overseas at all? Cuti2 Malaysia only for rest of life?

Exception maybe honeymoon use wedding expenses to earn miles. After that likely no overseas trip until FIRE. We both agreed for delayed gratification. Being FIRE is more important to use than spending money.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Jul 26 2025, 06:02 PM

I thought u already FIRE?

I am LEAN FIRE. We aim for FAT FIRE.