Thanks for sharing this long write up.

My observations/views

1. I note first date Nov last year, by May already seriously talking about marriage. Whats the rush here? Take it slow man. She is not pregnant is she? If not, the longer you delay the vows the better it is for you as a man.

If u breakup already, for your next relationship, pls wait until at least 1 year before talking about marriage. Even then, only the theoretical possibility, without going into details.

If havent break-up, tell her you are not ready for marriage. Its her decision then to wait for you or not. If she doesn't want then let her go.

2. Your "ugly face". She at 152 and 60ish kg is not so hot either bro. Fat. Fat girls should thank the stars she has a rich boyfriend like u. Rich but stingy tho 🤔

3. I have to say you at 55kg is a stick. You need to eat much more and build muscles. At least another 15kg, which is an achievable goal within 2 years for a young person without drugs.

4. More later..

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Jul 23 2025, 01:32 PM

You and your girl will never go overseas at all? Cuti2 Malaysia only for rest of life?

I thought u already FIRE?

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You are not against overseas travelling per se..just want to hold off until you reach your Fat FIRE target.When do you expect this Fat FIRE to happen? Early 40s?

The drawback is that once u reach your Fat FIRE age and be more easy with your spending, your are no longer young.

Travelling when young, one can be more more carefree, more adventure and more rough. Once older, its different, more about comfort and safety.

Im already uncle age, and recently went for overseas holiday with GF. So we had an activity where we had to climb up and down steep cliffs to get to some picturesque sites. The day was sweltering hot and, halfway back, I got really winded. Couldn't walk anymore. GF already worried and thinking maybe she has to call in rescue 😅. Lucky after a rest, I managed to finish.

Make me miss being young. On the positive side, that incident was a wake-up call to rebuild my fitness level. Nowadays my VO2 Max is pretty decent.

Other than loss of youth, there is also travel inflation which is higher than normal inflation. Like holdiay in Europe now is already so costly compared to 10 years ago. Cant imagine 10 years from now how much will it costs.

Then there are changes due to overtourism, climate change, conflicts etc. Some places will no longer be visitable or to be avoided.

Im glad that I have travelled all over..with my SO, with family, friends and even alone. Great memories for a lifetime.

Tldr dont wait too long.

Good to hear that you r not stingy with health and food.

Stall, food courts and fast food regularly are affordable but not healthy.

If one choose to live a FIRE lifestyle then the partner must also want the same. Otherwise going to.be problems. Like TOS2 there.

There is frugal and there is FIRE frugal.

Frugal is living below your means, usually saving 10-30% of ones income monthly. This one is already tough for many people as can see people bank account gone at end of month.

FIRE frugal is living WAAY below your means, This is saving more than 50%, maybe like 70% of ones income monthly.

Just connect on instagram, and then look at their lifestyle. holidays, activities, fashion taste.