Not yet 40.

U still.hv like 20 years career wise. Thats still a lot of time for you to progress. Imagine a baby who cant even crawl now will be at university by then.

As for life partner and family..still very much possible.

Dont waste time thinking the what if of the past, its the future that matters. You stagnate or progress is by your own choice.

To look at the bright side, at least you have minimal burdens. Having wife, kids and house loans is not fun, but could be a major burden and an obstacld to your happy progress in life. Just be yourself, come and go as you please and spend only on yourself without anyone else sharing your money and telling you what to do.

Benda biasa kalo bukan jenis daddykasi jutawan....

"..he completely dismantles the picture of the puzzle of the world map he throws it on the floor in hundreds of pieces he said, son when you put that picture of the puzzle of the world map back together I'll take you out to play father leaves that office surely thinking he bought two, four days no questions asked. Not even two hours later that kid comes back in, interrupts the father again bangs him on the knee and said, "Dad, I did it, Dad I did it". Dad's thinking to himself [__]impossible he walks back into that office and sure as the day is long, the picture of the puzzle of the world map's put back together. Father in complete disbelief, said, "Son how did you do it ? Son how did you do it ?" Son looked at dad and laughed he said, "Dad it was simple Dad it was so simple" son said, "You see Dad on the back of the picture of the puzzle of the world map was a picture of a man I put the man back together"

Nobody has life figured just don’t be a bitch.

You live in PJ single storey old house near ex EPF building?

But if you think of it: when you reach 50 to 60, what are you going to do?

If you're single, there's no one to hang out with. Most people in 50s and 60s already want to slow down.

Life's pretty boring when single at that age.

and that's the problem with your mindset.. why go and try modifing a proton. change yourself and change that car. it's you yourself not the method.

i keep hearing this but i would like to say this to all who thinks the same.. unless it's cancer, stroke or any kind of shitstorm like natural disasters. your actually in control of your own life.. don't tell others otherwise. health conditions? take care of your damn mouth and move more. relationship problem put in more effort, it's always about how much you give.. how much effort you've place.

This post has been edited by kidmad: Apr 20 2025, 11:06 AM

Its gonna be the same question even if one is married.
People do get divorced, separated, widowed.
We just gotta manage our own affairs as well as possible with the resources we have, the experience and circle of friends and acquaintance.

Things that I learnt recently about life is life full with surprises and unexpected events.

In your life, you have to be grateful on things that you have right now. A place to stay, a car to move around, sufficient savings and a job or business and good health

If you read the news about government retiree that lost his houses to the gas leak. You see, that old guy already ready to have a comfortable retirement life, but life happens and he lost everything.

Another thing is I surf reddit frequently and check the sub for r/jobs, r/recruitinghell, r/layoffs. Too many people especially American lost their job struggling to find a new job due to the terrible job market on Trump administration.

They lost their savings to pay their bills and rent and still unable to find a new job. Most of them need to restart back their life again after getting new job.

I don't want to complicate thinking about my future. Just focus on the present.

Another thing that I learnt is don't judge other people too much. Things that you judge too much eventually will hit and bite you back. You may thinks that there's nothing going happen to you RIGHT NOW, but who knows when god want to test you when you're in golden age.

It's going to affect you badly when that thing happen when you're old.

This post has been edited by Alternate Gabriel: Apr 20 2025, 04:46 PM

my life is already boring at 20yo. I'm sure 60yo will not make much of a difference.

Can join those hobbist kind of clubs, singing club, dancing, car clubs DLL.

Quite fun cuz it will be from your interest.

By 30s you should've figured out who's your real friends. If you were lucky you would have figured it out at mid 20s but it can be complicated to summarize cause we all have different family background and personal experiences

This morning i read very meaningful quote

"不同的态度，决定不同的结局。"
"Attitude leads to different outcome"

Always be passionate, or else life will slowly kills you.

Everyone live their own life, comparison is the killer of joy.

Do what you can do, with what you have,

But most importantly is stop opening tered in k about what car to buy k thx

Divorce are in the minority, no doubt getting more, but there are more lasting marriages than divorce here.

With family there is a sense of having people close to you, care about you, you care about them, foster better motivation in life.

Friends come n go. Soon even keeping in touch with relatives would be like once every quarter, what more friends? even more distant. You can't maintain consistent friendship meet every week or month for the next 20, 30, 40 years. Unlike family.

will not stop car tereds

Don't die before your parents. Bare minimum thing to do.

im reaching mid 30s soon, right now engaged planning to get merrid soon

right now im kinda on autopilot on work, where while there are difficult moments, its relatively sailing okay so far and dont need much heavy working on my side can still clock out 9-6 on time daily. call it slacking or stagnation, but it helps me alot in work life balance. job security ofc always remain a threat, last time i got retrenched because entire department shut down from company reorg

alot people advised i should be focusing 200% into career and improvement at this age. while this is true for the future, but i feel like i dont want to go higher into management roles or other roles with insane levels of responsibilities. money would be better, but the other trade off will be drifting more towards work liao. saw so many of my friends all went hardcore into career and they disappeared behind work and other responsibilities. not sure on their social life but i daresay with kids + bigger workload, its only getting smaller and smaller.

im quite happy to stay at current role despite it being considered "stagnating" then focus more on hobbies and other life stuff as i age. i got a house still on loan, reusing my old parent's car so my finances/savings are relatively stable IMO, dont really need to chase the next greatest whatever to keep up with the jones. like many said, alot people like to chase for more money then they just kept spending more and more and kept chasing the infinite loop, not something im keen to do at all.