sometimes ayam sked.

time seems to pass so fast. remembered 2015 so free n young, now ady 10 yrs .

but seems ayam life not figured out yet. others koliks ady have babies , sending kids to school, etc , bought nice houses, etc .

n here is ayam , still chilling . not much saving as well . just life on autopilot . work is decent but just coasting by . living in old house since had to take care of elderly . what stopping me from doing the above? coz not sure can handle if can handle n take care both . felt like wasting waifu time as well .

anyone ever have these kind of thoughts?

Just piap and have some children, then life will automagically get you figured out.

And yes, this is serious /k and the answer above is semi-serious.

Mid life crisis is real, it’s perfectly normal to not figure out the purpose of life (cause it doesn’t exactly have one). What you can do is to love and live the fullest since YOLO.

This post has been edited by msacras: Apr 18 2025, 10:24 AM

no one knows everything since he/she born.

the thing is you dare to take the responsibility or not?

you need to sacrifice one thing in order to get another thing.

eg your colleagues having babies/buying new house, their finance and time are sacrificed.

are you willing to sacrifire your time and money?

I feel you

I guess this is what they call mid life crisis

I bet some of them are going to be jealous at you.

Those who bought house feel burdened because the guilt and regret of buying a house starts to kick in after the honeymoon of "I bought a house!" already passed. They might start to wonder why I need to buy in the first place? It's so expensive and I already can live at my parents house. Why buying at the first place just for the swag to show to society you can buy a house?

The one who married started to feel their money is not theirs anymore because almost all the money they earned goes to kids and wife. Even though their wife got earn, but it feels like they are still responsible to provide because that's what husbands must do.. unless you don't love your wife...

They started to live in survival mode instead of enjoying life. Life is not about entertainment anymore. It's about responsibility and duty as a husband.

They just imagine what if they are free. Can just come back from job and play games until midnight. Can just use their saving to buy new phone, new GPU, new PS 5. Can go restaurants and eat whatever food they like. Can just go out with friends good brothers to binge. Can go vacations multiple times per year because they just need to pay their own ticket.

Now they are slaves who earn money for family and paying debts.

But again yes, by society standard, they are ahead but that doesn't mean they are living happier. And they will start to quietly regret following such standard set by society but there is no turning back. But I believe in the 50's they might be grateful they passed the storms. But they have suffered for 20 years to finally get freedom again. And they are already old.

At least you dah kawin?

I'm here no saving, no gf, living in a rented room, auto pilot 6 days a week.

This post has been edited by ihavenoidea: Apr 18 2025, 10:37 AM

Have you discuss this with waifu? Does she want to have babies?

as mention above, its true and i agree.

anyone ever have these kind of thoughts?
last time got, but now no more.

legit. im married with kids. i can say 100% correct. I have a fully remote job. if i was single i could be working remotely from thailand and enjoying there.
but given the choice again, i would still choose family over being a playboy in bangkok

i think most ppl can relate to this.
we all just travellers figuring out where & what to do next.

No. Still a loser and a bigger one than ever before

adulting is about making big decision, moving out from comfort zone

at least once a month i'll take my time sit down and track my growth

thinking about my career decision, my life planning, current problem etc

start making big decision, you'll start feeling the pressure and hence move fowards, for the better or the worse, who knews

Unker already 4 keping, also auto piloting (even though ayam is trying to break free), staying with parents still.

Waifu quit her factory job and come work with me. Ayam can also provide them with the bare minimum lifestyle.

Yes, feeling wasting their time too.

Ya...some ppl keep thinking they gotta sort out their lives... Getting marry, have kids, buy house...
Yet few friends that tell me earlier u gotta marry early, have kids...BLA BLA BLA...now sudah divorced...
Bodoh...while I jus crushing my life , eating what I wan, doing what I like, freedom and peaceful... Don't simply rush in...many crash n burn but still many found happiness lah

Life is whatever you want it to be

Don't let others dictate it for you

Example, you see some kids or parents in public, you sometimes feel like dang these people shouldn't be breeding if they are clearly not enjoying it at all

That also means you shouldn't let your old people dictate your life for you.

They haven't figured out shit as well

Don't make hasty decision in this turbulent time & AI era.
How sure r u that your job n income will not be affected.
I foresee more downsizing in biz, jobs, n economy.
In 25 years time, will there be jobs for your children after spending tons on education.

life is either a comedy or a tragedy.

when u try so hard to avoid tragedy and it still happens, then u don't know want to laugh or not.

Job? Checked.

Health? Checked

House? Checked.

Wife? Checked.

You have a good life bro.

Chill.

i figured childless is the way to go. 100x easier to divorce and plan for retirement when kids not in the equation.

So much time to do what u want. More disposable income.

You always can become part time parent by helping taking care of nephew/nieces. Go volunteer at local orphanage also can give u the similar fulfilling feeling from raising child. Minus the headaches and heartaches of actual raising child from birth till adult.

By the time i figured out all this already stuck with 4 kids.

Now everyday i wake up go do the job i dont really like to do, just to sustain the family i regret having. My only aim now is enough savings for all kids until they graduate, then enough retirement savings to sustain myself and my wife.

Most just piapz dulu , membiak 3-4, buy house, buy car, hen only think of future... whether they did the right thing with the income their earning...