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>40 years old. Where to find new bf/gf?
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calvinteh
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 Sep 30 2025, 03:01 PM
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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Sep 30 2025, 11:20 AM) If you consciously make that choice, that's fine but most people do things alone out of necessity, they unconsciously live in a way that represents their own trauma being triggered over and over the conscious may I say I'm independent or I don't need anyone but the subconscious is way powerful that most people will ignore the matter is, you choose to listen to which voice because sometimes your awareness is not your true consciousness that's a very good point. i on the other hand often get caught in dilemmas because i'd like a companion, but i also prefer my inner peace instead of inheriting my new partner's problems or drama into my life. i have things to deal on my own but i will never make it as my partner's problem, but does my partner have the same mindset as me? so ultimately, i end up choosing inner peace instead of an "adventerous" life hahaha |
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Ramjade
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Sep 30 2025, 03:05 PM
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QUOTE(kawa_e @ Sep 30 2025, 10:52 AM) Hi guys, Just want to chimp in. There are many ladies in their mid 30s who are also looking for companionship. It is not just guys. It is a lot harder for them because men are date younger women due to fertility. Also, mind share why some of you guys divorced ? I have a friend who probably downloaded CMB/Tinder/Bumble/etc and matched with a girl. They are already exclusive in a month. He is in his late 30s too and the girl is in her early 30. To me he date down. He just wanted to settle to have kids. My question is finding partner using dating apps hard ? I have never used it before. Both my friend and I are the lucky ones. But we took like 2y+ to find one on dating app. |
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kawa_e
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Sep 30 2025, 03:14 PM
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QUOTE(Ramjade @ Sep 30 2025, 03:05 PM) Both my friend and I are the lucky ones. But we took like 2y+ to find one on dating app. 2y is quite a long time but I am glad the relationship turned out well for both of you. I knew a few successful stories too. But this friend of mine just within a month. Very lucky. He is also not a paid user. |
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calvinteh
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Sep 30 2025, 03:24 PM
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i tried tinder earlier this year coz i felt i'm ready to maybe try a companion instead of a full on relationship with marriage as the end goal.
so far nothing real, a couple of scammers....i'm starting to think maybe it's my marriage's trauma is not fully over yet, i keep seeing red flags whenever i start talking to other women....
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Ramjade
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Sep 30 2025, 03:24 PM
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QUOTE(calvinteh @ Sep 30 2025, 03:24 PM) i tried tinder earlier this year coz i felt i'm ready to maybe try a companion instead of a full on relationship with marriage as the end goal. so far nothing real, a couple of scammers....i'm starting to think maybe it's my marriage's trauma is not fully over yet, i keep seeing red flags whenever i start talking to other women.... Tinder not for serious relationship. |
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TSSkylinestar
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Sep 30 2025, 04:03 PM
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QUOTE(Ramjade @ Sep 30 2025, 03:24 PM) Tinder not for serious relationship. why do you think so? |
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Ramjade
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Sep 30 2025, 04:11 PM
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QUOTE(Skylinestar @ Sep 30 2025, 04:03 PM) If you see reviews online it is mainly for hookups. This post has been edited by Ramjade: Sep 30 2025, 04:21 PM |
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TSSkylinestar
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Sep 30 2025, 05:34 PM
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QUOTE(Ramjade @ Sep 30 2025, 04:11 PM) If you see reviews online it is mainly for hookups. I don't think MY has hookup culture (especially among Chinese). |
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-mystery-
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Sep 30 2025, 06:27 PM
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QUOTE(Ramjade @ Sep 30 2025, 04:11 PM) If you see reviews online it is mainly for hookups. cognitive bias I've also seen CMB girls who are also looking for ONS |
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-mystery-
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Sep 30 2025, 06:28 PM
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QUOTE(Skylinestar @ Sep 30 2025, 05:34 PM) I don't think MY has hookup culture (especially among Chinese). hookup culture has always been everywhere been since the rise of feminism where women can start taking control of their own sexual will. It's just degree of difference when it comes to culture and sexual suppression but human beings will always act upon their desire whether it's having sex or public car crash |
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Ramjade
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Sep 30 2025, 11:31 PM
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QUOTE(Skylinestar @ Sep 30 2025, 05:34 PM) I don't think MY has hookup culture (especially among Chinese). It's there but rare la. |
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Chastain
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Oct 2 2025, 04:08 PM
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Social media
Telegram etc.
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machomama
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Oct 3 2025, 04:02 PM
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Getting Started
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QUOTE(Ramjade @ Sep 30 2025, 11:31 PM) very if one fishes long enough how long is long enough idk, but may eventually hook on someone |
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