remember how it feels when finding something you've misplaced

finding gf/bf also same
same in the sense....as in give it a while
try putting this finding for it aside cos it'll never appear IMMEDIATELY

POOOOOF!
one day it's right there

all of the above is absolute BS

key takeaway
when you're looking very hard for something, with all that anxiety and tension pent up, you'll tend to unnecessarily work things up towards the goal with indirect stress that'll mess up the whole strategy of searching - so go slow, can take YEARS!

not to mention ladies have this special radar for DESPERATE MEN
they'll split the scene so fast before you can even say Jack Robinson

wish you well on your love journey

sidenote: there's this one middle aged lady that joined one of the companies i SOMETIMES work with
3 years n counting....
just her presence overshoots the needles on my gauges
REDLINE ALL THE TIME!

not to say there's anything going on, cos it can't
but the desire to work has totally changed

very
if one fishes long enough
how long is long enough idk, but may eventually hook on someone