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>40 years old. Where to find new bf/gf?
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kawa_e
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 Sep 30 2025, 10:52 AM
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Hi guys,
Just want to chimp in. There are many ladies in their mid 30s who are also looking for companionship. It is not just guys. It is a lot harder for them because men are date younger women due to fertility.
Also, mind share why some of you guys divorced ?
I have a friend who probably downloaded CMB/Tinder/Bumble/etc and matched with a girl. They are already exclusive in a month. He is in his late 30s too and the girl is in her early 30. To me he date down. He just wanted to settle to have kids.
My question is finding partner using dating apps hard ? I have never used it before.
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kawa_e
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Sep 30 2025, 11:21 AM
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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Sep 30 2025, 11:15 AM) most people scare themselves choose wrongly (the partner) Including myself you think he dated down but it's necessary for him to choose that way, most people they choose a partner that represents the model of their own parent, so he's likely to choose his partner based on how his mom treats him Yes. Because he has a history of dating beautiful women. Of course his values may have changed. He intends to settle down asap for kids. |
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kawa_e
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Sep 30 2025, 11:27 AM
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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Sep 30 2025, 11:24 AM) long term relationship requires a degree of compromise and compromise doesn't mean weak which I didn't realize this in my younger years and if he thinks it's ok to date an average looking female that can potentially raise good values out of his own children, that's ok Dating a pretty and entitled female comes with an unseen cost I have seen a few of your posts before. I hope you are doing well. You have plenty of dating experience. As for my friend. He doesn't mind as long the lady is fertile. That's about it. |
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kawa_e
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Sep 30 2025, 02:02 PM
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QUOTE(Skylinestar @ Sep 30 2025, 12:00 PM) he's too desperate for kids. I don't. some women don't too. so it becomes harder. In your opinion do you think this kind of relationship will last ? |
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kawa_e
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Sep 30 2025, 02:22 PM
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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Sep 30 2025, 02:05 PM) this kind of relationship will last on its surface a lot of relationship is just playing a facade because if you tried to find two "complete" human being it's like trying to find 2 out of 200,000 person The person has to come from a solid family background with near zero trauma Yes. My friend will make the relationship happen as he is quite a stable (from a relatively large and supportive fam) I wish him best of luck. Since he can do it with dating apps, I am sure many guys can do it too. Lower the bar if you want to settle for marriage and kids. |
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kawa_e
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Sep 30 2025, 03:14 PM
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QUOTE(Ramjade @ Sep 30 2025, 03:05 PM) Both my friend and I are the lucky ones. But we took like 2y+ to find one on dating app. 2y is quite a long time but I am glad the relationship turned out well for both of you. I knew a few successful stories too. But this friend of mine just within a month. Very lucky. He is also not a paid user. |
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