If more than 40 years old and still tied to work that means you've made bad decisions for the past 2 decades. Nevertheless, you can still date provided you make your schedule efficiently.

after 18 years old, educations are optional
It doesn't mean coming out as spm holder will determine the person life for the rest of it as low income earner

lol
If someone has high EQ go anywhere also can win friends
don't say just merely getting a gf
nowadays it's not just iq but the ability to maneuver under different circumstances will be what makes a real man quality

fearlessness, the ability to handle adversity
these things cannot be taught just at school

you could always save that rm300 monthly that has been used to buy mixue or cigarettes to buy a new set of clothes or subscribe for an affordable gym membership

always try something new from time to time
of course you would be static and boring because you haven't tried new things little by little

also don't put an instant label that 20s will be immature or materialistic. There are girls in their younger years they won't care if you make less monthly income than them. They mostly care is about the "experience" you give them. How can you inspire them with your presence or attitude. There are something that cannot be bought directly with money and can only earn it based on years accumulation.

If yourself is 4/10 guy, aiming for 9/10 girl hot celebrity on IG is like aiming to shoot yourself painly on feet. Instead aim for 6/10 girl and start working on your value as well

You go into a market you don't expect to buy a good instantly.
you shop for an experience

most people scare themselves choose wrongly (the partner)
Including myself
you think he dated down but it's necessary for him to choose that way, most people they choose a partner that represents the model of their own parent, so he's likely to choose his partner based on how his mom treats him

If you consciously make that choice, that's fine
but most people do things alone out of necessity, they unconsciously live in a way that represents their own trauma being triggered over and over

the conscious may I say I'm independent or I don't need anyone
but the subconscious is way powerful that most people will ignore

the matter is, you choose to listen to which voice
because sometimes your awareness is not your true consciousness

long term relationship requires a degree of compromise
and compromise doesn't mean weak
which I didn't realize this in my younger years
and if he thinks it's ok to date an average looking female that can potentially raise good values out of his own children, that's ok

Dating a pretty and entitled female comes with an unseen cost

this kind of relationship will last on its surface
a lot of relationship is just playing a facade
because if you tried to find two "complete" human being
it's like trying to find 2 out of 200,000 person

The person has to come from a solid family background with near zero trauma

cognitive bias
I've also seen CMB girls who are also looking for ONS

hookup culture has always been everywhere been since the rise of feminism where women can start taking control of their own sexual will. It's just degree of difference when it comes to culture and sexual suppression

but human beings will always act upon their desire whether it's having sex or public car crash