the highest form of freedom is being unbiased or unattached towards anything, I'm actually ashamed by the fact I claimed being beta is completely wrong in the past, but this is just the route of life that's unavoidable

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Apr 9 2025, 06:20 PM

can land you two chicks instead of one

eh asked her out again, same place same time. this time she very busy and tired, so not that good at gossiping. one problem is that last time i mentioned i like this girl we both know a bit, and i told her the only reason why i dont go for this girl is because a friend interested already. but this time i told her, the guy give up, then she ask me why i dont go for her? could be telling me to f off, or could just be bewildered at why im interested in her instead of the other girl. i didnt know what to reply, i just say dowan la.
or is she actually giving me a opening to tell her that i like her? idk maybe next time she brings it up i hint a bit lor.

but ok since this time she a bit more tired, less acting, can see what she actually thinks, and what she interested in. i take notes, think about it a bit, ltr will text her about the things she talked about but i didnt give a very good answer to. good thing is i figured out what she likes to talk about. so if conversation ever gets awkward again i just ask her something related to it then problem solved

as to confidence and making myself attracting fish la, i think im ok? this time i just walked up to her, grabbed her attention and asked whether she free. i got exercise regularly, i have been told that i am funny, lots of good jokes, am somewhat tall. the only thing i think im missing is that i am so concerned about being funny that i am bad at serious conversations, which is the only thing she does

as to making intentions clear, i think its best if i take it slowly but not too slowly because she mentioned that she got relationship issues in the past, and hearing from friend gossiping she really sensitive to it. so better ease it in la ltr accidentally hit a landmine. but to make use of this, i will try to empathize with her, and validate feelings, etc since she actually is really sensitive, no experience type. in this forum would be called a strawberry lor.

This post has been edited by Police4896: Apr 10 2025, 09:22 PM

someone's getting wiser

Haiyo... the lord of the rings (book) story moved at a faster pace than you

He think too much
Fear of losing what he don’t have. 😂

I also scared of this trade war later I no money to refuel my private jet that I don’t own. 🤦🏻‍♂️

If you always unload your drama and insecurities on her like sharing you thoughts and doubts about going after other girls, i am afraid you are doing yourself a disservice. You gonna enter the friendzone.
You need to maintain an air of mystery.
No intrigue=no spark.
Its hurts but move on start again with another girl

hah? i didnt. she ask only because last time we gossiped about other couples, then she ask anyone i liked, i say this girl in different course under same school i like a bit, but in the same course, no one in my year(she isnt in my year). then i told her, the guy who was going after this girl i said i liked a bit, give up already, then only she ask.

This post has been edited by Police4896: Apr 11 2025, 09:26 PM

Lol entering friendzone

U sudah insaf and now beta?

have 6 pack, be super jacked, girls will come after you

as lee Xiao long says, be water

you can have all the looks and money
and some girl will still reject you no matter how hard you present yourself

everybody has different thing with their subconscious mind

There is no way to "naturally" pursue, the moment you do something like replying her IG story ,she already know what you are up to, why bother to hide it?

Keep in mind that, if she is attractive , there will be may be 10 guys trying to pursue her "naturally", what you are thinking to do now might happen very often to her. So just act fast, dont fill your mind with 'what if'

faggot alert here.

the only thing you attract more than girls is homo bros.

what attracts the girls will also attract homo bros. So just need to do due diligence, as with anything in life.

But again, sexuality is fluid. There is no such thing as 100% straightness. So it really depends who you meet and fall in love first.

Well given the amount of snowflakes and wimps these days among the strawberry generation, where “straight” men are pretty, put on makeup and use handbag, maybe your statement holds some truth to it.

And then there are people who identify as non binary, and there’s those who identify as a table or whatever random object. I guess the younger generation is confused. So no wonder nothing is 100% to them. Next thing you know your best friend since high school now identifies as a cupboard.

use makeup and use handbag = girl?

are you the old fashion generation who still think play piano or ballet dancing = girly, and if any boys who does that is confused/sissy/non-binary.

I didn’t mention that word
You did.

I’m just saying they are all confused thus they are not 100% sure they are straight as you say. Cause maybe next week you identify as a crooked stool.

having a jacked body and handsome face is as good (or better for some) in attracting girls as being loaded woth money.

Don't worry about being friends first. Being friends is a good idea. Just avoid being put in the "friendzone".

What is the friendzone? It's when she considers you solely as a friend. Meaning to say, she doesn't see you sexually attractive, nor does she see you as a potential boyfriend or husband.

Key here is that, it's ok to be her friend, but she needs to deem you "fuckable". If she cannot imagine having sex with you, then you'll be put in the "friendzone", where she'll only see you as a platonic friend and nothing else.

But looking at your replies here, you seem quite desperate. Desperate guys are a big turn off, second only to stingy guys.