I was in your shoes during my earlier days of studying. Dont waste those years man, if you want to improve your social skills just try and do it as earlier as you can. Unless you will be working in communication related field later, most of the time you wouldnt have much time to socialize after you went out from the school

and i saw those introverted and shy term you labelled yourself, i would say those are fucking bullshit man, same as horoscope or personality test. Don't limit your potentials.

Everybody can say be confident
but realistically, how many people can do it consistently over a period of time?

It's like asking a patient just bear the pain or ask someone don't cry
but as a doctor, you know this is just a temporary solution
we as anonymous do not know the whole story of TS
ie what are his defense mechanism etc

sharing the "techniques" are just top of goods
the bottom is more important
what are his belief system
how do someone see the world through the lens of past experiences

a woman also can like a weak man (seemingly from a superficial exterior judgment). There's a photo of muscular fit woman married a chubby guy viral on the internet. Yes, the fact that he's not physically built up seems weak, but do we know the whole story? Never.

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Apr 9 2025, 05:53 PM

You remind myself back in my 18-28 years old period
I was clueless just as you in this dating marketplace
the point is the fish seems big in your current eyes now
because you have never had this kind of experience
once you have ABCD experience, your perspectives will grow and your emotional maturity will strengthen

that's also the point of us going to gym or go get rejected by tons of females (but be mindful about it)

Instead of seeking ways to catch a fish, feel it out about how to attract a fish instead.

There's an idle period for every person it depends how lengthy it's. Without rest the whole humane experience crumble and the recovery will become even more difficult.

the highest form of freedom is being unbiased or unattached towards anything, I'm actually ashamed by the fact I claimed being beta is completely wrong in the past, but this is just the route of life that's unavoidable

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Apr 9 2025, 06:20 PM

as lee Xiao long says, be water

you can have all the looks and money
and some girl will still reject you no matter how hard you present yourself

everybody has different thing with their subconscious mind

There are certain times where desperation is necessary
but it also has to calibrate to how you view the girl as well
Ie, if a short trip girl already made decision to meet you from overseas, and a guy is not trying to fuck her on first date, he's not realizing the equity that has been given by the girl

If a girl doesn't block you on social media
it doesn't matter whether it lowers the guy "value" or not
you can still choose to initiate conversation but sparingly
there could be numerous reasons why a girl not replying the guy text back

like TS already said
he doesn't mind continue being friend and also texting other girls too