Life is hard, the last few years also don't make it any easy.

Any decent man with sense of responsibility will know this

Remember, everytime you're sitting alone drinking your tea/coffee thinking about finances, your kids future, your wife wellbeing - know this you're not alone

We just have to keep on going

Hey buddy. I feel you .

I do not have kids yet but I still feel the pinch. In juggling responsibilities between taking care of elderly parents and wife, really sometimes feel burnt out until not interested in anything else.

Starting to reduce my commitments so that I can save more, thinking of selling my car to and downgrade to a cheaper one so that I could save more and more.

All the best.

The great thing is that the kids loves me
Can't say the same when they reaches their teens and listen to Eminem tho

I also think alot.
Wife, Mom (widow), Kids with ex-Wife, Don't forget to pray and get closer to your religion and find peace with it

Unker current mindset, ma monies doesnt belong to me but ma family. Ayam slave for ma family. Ayam will serve ma family until kingdom come.

Reporting in.

Can't rest. Wanna take one day off from operating I will keep thinking that one day revenue can go into my son's education fund or emergency fund or for a rainy day to pay for the staff wages incase another stupid virus hits or I am down with an illness.

Honestly getting tired with so much responsibility on my shoulders and no one to vent to

Yup, have to take the good, leave the bad and roll with the punches.

Thanks bro

Stay strong to you too

It's getting harder and harder for me to find happiness now

Cukur we're here now. Thank God

But we didn't ask to be born wor

Cukur we're here now. Thank God

But we didn't ask to be born wor

Life isnt easy from the beginning...
Jus have to man up and face it, even if it don't benefit you at all...

A lot of folks sacrifice health in their working life.

Without health, can we do anything?

Rest, nutrition, exercise are all key to stress reduction and maintain optimal body & brain functions.

Once health under control, then life ain't so bad.

Recently unker stressed af
Everyday work until 8pm and getting tired easily nowadays
Tak tau is physical tired or mentally tired
Really miss the good old days

JoeK opening serious thread very susah

But now since got baby i have to absolutely agree this

Work so hard also then next time dont know kid will appreciate or not

Work not hard enuf later they blame you their future sucks

Work averagely kena blame say not hardworking enuf

So all options is dead

is this the root of the evil working?

i feel the elite husbands dont have the stress of working harder, earning more money.

if all the posters here has 1m liquid cash savings, will you still have this depressing and stress thoughts?

asking for a friend

dotter almost 2 yrs old within 3 weeks

bittersweet feeling whenever they're around

however the doomed feeling when u work, hell
constantly thinking how to provide and all
especially when im not 20k earner

the thing is. How u guys treat ur father?

I think it's a cycle. What goes around comes around.

I gave up games and started reading some books

This post has been edited by alexei: Jul 30 2024, 02:34 PM

Discuss this with your wife. Don't keep it all to yourself. When it comes to family finances, everyone in the family have a role to play and that begins by understanding the big picture and doing the right thing by cutting out unnecessary expenses wherever possible. You may also consider other options such as doing side business or changing jobs.

Its not easy being a real man.

Its not about being macho or physically strong or having a big dick ....

ahh scenes from Breaking Bad, the time where wokeism ain't rampant af

thesedays with the rise of feminism and DEI, isn't that women should start picking up equal of the responsibilities? Heck they even start to take the job of protecting former president already

Only a Man is loved conditionally.

Only when he is able to provide, will the love be reciprocated.

that sudden realisation that you had been too focused on working for your 1st-born, that now there is only 1yr left to the time he/she leaves the nest.

the regret for time not well-spent over the years.

Reminder fellow dads.. we can strive to give the best to our children.. but never ever hold them accountable for all the blood n sweat u went through to provide them with the best

Dont guilt trip your kids or expect them to pay it back. In the end its our choice to give them the best

Chris rock

Always have to behave as the best husband, best son, best father, best bro, best in every role. And the moment to do something for yourself, you are branded as selfish. I know...

Reminds me of this song

https://youtu.be/tHxip2x-PLc?si=MNwwmo1nDBNzRGC2



This post has been edited by GTA5: Jul 30 2024, 08:20 PM

Take a day off

Dude need to be slaving away to pay for 4000 old people nursing home.

don't need to totally give up gaming
I play overcooked with my children, really tests my patience

Gus Fring said this to manipulate Walter to work for him.

Your boss will also say something like this so that you work hard for them.

Trust me bros, carve out time for yourself. Alone time.

You just need to fucking reset sometime.

Rest dude, otherwise you will be forced to rest and it won't be under good terms.

Hire others doctors to run it?

very outdated thinking

there have been many cases where the women provide and men shake balls at home

those men are probably happier than you lot

Sadly, some fathers are bigger charsiews than the sons they spawn....

Not so easy. Patients want HIS expertise, HIS hands, HIS experience.

Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt.

i am not a man, but i'll chip in.

even in marriage, you still need alone time. have agreement with wife, one person take a day off to reset... and some days, have couple nights.

so important to rewind a little bit once in a while.

you feel you all man here.

Be strong and patient, things will getting better at long run.

Time will almost solve almost every problem

Good morning. Another day guys

Just remember who you're doing it for

not a dad, not married but kudos to my late father who raised 4 kids and also taking care of his mother with his meagre income.

This. You are not being selfish by having some time for yourself.

Remember this: Don't burn yourself to make others warm.

Hksgmy says it right. Not easy, people come to see the person not the clinic

Agree. You need to be healthy and sane to take care of others.

anyway to increase money?
got some skill in video editing corporate montage, ae, premier and such

dayuum. need money that bad

This scene is also misleading without a context

Gus preys on Walters insecurities and uses this line to convince him to stay and cook. Leading to his ultimate downfall.

Its true in life also

Bottling it all in or going all out to earn money isnt everyones cup of tea. Some ppl may benefit more to kick back and enjoy downtime or confiding with their loved ones. Not everyone built like a tank to bulldoze obstacles

I had come to terms with the fact that people come and go in life ...

have you advertise your service in Linkedin and Twitter? those two platforms got good exposure, sometimes ppl got talents but dont know how to market themselves.

brand image is important. do you have one? would u like to build one?

currently work in goverment sector in multimedia section, so mostly my work focus on the goverment montage and gimmick event launching, and sorta stuff, i've tried using fiver but nothing working out . haha
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Ever tried reaching out to any local youtubers? I think there is opportunity in editing and making catchy youtube videos.

And there's something else that I'll say it for people of our profession - many of us, after a while, feel an obligation to keep plugging away, even after the financial objective has been long met and achieved. We feel obligated because patients, having a plethora of choices and options, chose to put their trust in us, and woe be it for us to let them down after they've given us that privilege of treating them. Sometimes, this irritates our loved ones, because they feel they can come second to our patients.

Lucky for me, wife had her own career, but since she's retired, I feel even more pressure to live up to my end of the bargain and allocate quality time for us, and not be immersed in patient care all the time.

It's my calling, but it wasn't hers.

That's because time will run out for everyone, prince or pauper alike.

fiver is a shitpool where shitty cheapskate client looking for cheap stuff

this. but i dont want marry , keep piap

It's ok, marriage not for everyone

hi bros.

do you still exersice? how do you find time to exercise ?

is it true after marriage most men will develop beer belly?

isnt constant copulation supposed to burn more calories?

Depends on your lifestyle..

My work just sitting in office, less moving and lack of exercise. Weight increase kaw2..now need to control eating

Married with 2 kids and an awesome wife.

Key to a happy marriage: compromise both sides (husband and wife). Everything 50/50. Have a hobby, allow each to enjoy their hobbies at least once a week.

Do things to make yourself happy (except cheong). Get a life.

women: not going into a relationship that needs compromise

Good morning

Another day guys

it's a life choice, you have to bear the responsibility and possible consequences if you've chosen this path.

My mantra every morning:
There ain't no rest for the wicked
Money don't grow on trees
I got bills to pay
I got mouths to feed
There ain't nothing in this world for free
I know I can't slow down
I can't hold back
Though you know
I wish I could
Oh, no there ain't no rest for the wicked
Until we close our eyes for good

Good song. No doubt, being a man take a lot of toll to your mental health, and no one care about us.

Good morning Gentleman.

Any divorced daddy here ?

Then that's a women you shouldn't marry. True story.

Smart man

Wife and I have been spending a lot of time over the past year (since she hung up her calculator) talking about how we're gonna spend our post-career years.

For me, it's easy peasy. I've booked so many road trips Down Under with the Porsche Club that I'm probably gonna be elevated to club mascot soon.

For her, well, she doesn't mind going on those trips, but she hates sitting in the car (especially the 911, because the Sports suspension is rock hard) and she doesn't enjoy long drives with the twisties as I do....

So, we compromise. I go on those trips with her (because I want her to accompany me), and she makes me do gardening and plant those succulents and herbs of hers in my free time.

I swear to you, green thumb I have not, but it's what makes her happy, so I'm more than happy to fulfill that part of the bargain.

It's a happy equilibrium for now ...

Easier said than done. But I believe I managed to achieve this. We are both happy.

Bro, never easy to find a balance. Hats off to you that you’ve achieved it

Thank you bro.

* fist bump *

Happy friday.

Lets try to focus on things we can control, instead worrying of things that we cant.

8pm quite ok.

I heard some people work until 11pm every day.

I don't know how they survive esp those with family

not sure how those singles in their 40s and 50s handling?

I lost touch with one guy in his 40s single, got few times went yum cha with him. He got so much free time, that he memorized Borat movie and can even read out the script exact words.

Dunno lah, those single fellas seriously burn their free time, dunno do what. He smokes like chimney (his own private life lah), doesn't exercise, eats a lot, watch movies at home over n over again.

TGIF had another kind of meaning once you have your first child.

Keep your chin up daddies, and hold strong.

That's typical man without life goal, don't know what they want in life, hence free time.

If one needs get married to kill their free time, that's very sad

have you met a single guy that have objective in their free time?

I met one that makes his own toy collectibles, he sells them in the internet.

single or married isn’t the important issue. Your innate drive and personal motivations are.

Just two months join this new company. Met with lots of disrespect and harassment from colleagues. Always kept low profile and carry a polite demeanour at office. All my experience working from Sdn Bhd to Berhad, never encountered such hostility before.

This Sunday night my heart keeps pounding to clock-in tomorrow out of anxiety. On my knees already but cannot throw letter yet. Bills to pay, loan to service, mouth to feed.

Deep down I really feel like want to retaliate back to them, not using words but violence. Lucky I am able to reason to myself, not snapped and go ape shit. Shit like this really took toll on my mental well being. I cannot understand why some people want to disturb other rice bowl, just cannot process their reasoning.

Other than venting here, already took action by looking for other opportunities. Pity the pay is good and the location is nearer to my home.

that's why before you join, must ask kaw kaw and check the situation there.

glassdoor no negative reviews of this co?

Mental health is a serious thing and should never be taken or consider to deal with lightly.

At the end day apart from those pros your health should be your priority and its literally the reason why u are still here

its a bit harder to motivate for a singleton (not impossible).

having someone to support and share the same motivation and goals makes it more objective.

This post has been edited by hoonanoo: Aug 4 2024, 11:03 PM

There's quite a lot actually.

Sometimes the reason they are single is because of their objectives, no time/exp to find a partner

Don't stay in a toxic place for too long, no matter how strong your fortitude is, it will wear you down.

For the time being, don't take anything they say/do personally/seriously. As long as you're doing the right thing and truth is on your side, f`k whatever anyone says/do as long as you are at peace with your own actions. Reflect deeply into why you have these emotional reactions and try to deal with the root causes internally. Anger comes from within, if you're at peace with yourself nothing should be able to piss you off.

reminds me of one guy that likes to go travelling: By Himself.

He would go to Pattaya, Komodo island, Mumbai, etc etc...

then he often take picture of himself by selfie stick then post a lot in facebook.

all his trips are by himself.

I understand that. Bills to pay, mouths to feed.
Best way is to just suck it up for the moment and continue applying for other jobs

Hah same, I don't even want any assets under my name

Everything goes to my son

You didn't ask, but it's your parents calling to have offspring and pass along the family tree.

And now it's your turn.

You need to know there are bright students in government school and bad students in private school.

Just remember to always CYA your work and decisions.

Getting really tired recently with family and work stuff. I'm not thinking about killing myself, I still love my kids and I want to grow up with them. But I won't lie, if a lorry is heading towards me, I may not try to save myself.

Early 50s guy here.

My 30s and 40s was indeed tough. As a consequence, my marriage failed and my health deteriorated.

But now I have passed the grind stage.

My child is now at final year uni. Im now prepping for earlier retirement and focusing on my happiness and health.

Now Finance ok. Health seem ok (my doctor said good!) and even relationships ok.

Life is pretty good.

I feel you.

That's why also I value time with my kids more than anything.
Hard to find happiness now, and my kids is that rare source of happiness that can make me through the day

What year and savings target to retire?

do you mind sharing what was the tough stage like? situation that you can change and can't change? feeling stuck?

we can take this private, just want to learn from someone who have experience

I hope he can share here, maybe can omit some points for privacy reasons, if any. I would like to know too.

Entering 40s & a lifelong anxiety sufferer