Agree. You need to be healthy and sane to take care of others.

Early 50s guy here.

My 30s and 40s was indeed tough. As a consequence, my marriage failed and my health deteriorated.

But now I have passed the grind stage.

My child is now at final year uni. Im now prepping for earlier retirement and focusing on my happiness and health.

Now Finance ok. Health seem ok (my doctor said good!) and even relationships ok.

Life is pretty good.

Target to retire in 2028, should be quite comfy financial wise.

Some of the more serious challenges.

Unemployed for 8 months with a family to feed

Breakdown of marriage and divorce

Dad got into a coma and required full time nursing care.

All.3 didnt happen all.at once but were quite close.

What I did was get a sugarbaby 22 years younger.

At the same time still continue to date until I found my current GF.

A few first second dates, of which one became sort of like a situationship. She was from outstation, so we met up when she comes to KL.

At same time, iwould regularly meet my SB. My SB place is like my 2nd home, I have a car park and keys to her place.

Wife wont take care of u if you fall sick?

Means bad selection of wife.

Learn to appreciate the small joys and achievements.

At work, at home, personal.