This is the problem with the mentality of Asian people.

Judgemental towards individual that decided to become single and they don't want any marriage or children.

Do you know that person may experienced life trauma during her life? Abuse from family members? Sexual Assault? Confused sexual orientation and many more?

Marriage is not a solution.

Who cares on what she wants to do with her free time. At least she has her own hobbies and money to spend.

This post has been edited by xpole: Apr 27 2024, 09:56 AM

Those unmarried or no kids will have a very very sad and miserable life when aging..don’t even need to be really old to feel this too..

Additionally, u gonna feel sorry for your parents too (when young won’t give a fxck..)

This post has been edited by swanlover: Apr 27 2024, 10:05 AM

i think chinese parent. they prefer char siew

To clarify, she was the one who complained to me nobody wants to go with her. She is lonely.

Forever alone can only last so long. You will be miserable after a while, of course you can hide it but we know.

Life without love or home is pretty sad..

Especially if you fall sick. You will realize how fragile you really are when old, sick and alone. When young and strong you feel invincible, don't need anybody.

So those determined to be forever alone, make sure you're filthy rich when old. That can alleviate some of those issues. Otherwise...

Who the hell biggest achievement is pancut dalam LOL... Just wondering how u guys is here if ur parent have the same mentality... this also sad... owh well this what we call free will... everything in life has a risk. Depends on your choice...

People who always bragging about their kids.

I mean nigga come on, don't you have any other achievements?

Having child is a long term commitment.

My child help me growing up.

It is tiring but worth it.

Young ain’t give a shit and thinking it’s a cool thing not to have kids , burden like shit…

Wait til they sick or injured …too late already..lolx.

Yes there are many reasons, and your choices are your own, so you shouldn't need to justify it with things like "most people with kids regret it".

My only concern for people who choose not to have kids, is that they better have a really good reason for it. They are basically denying one of your primary biological imperatives. Unless the reason/purpose is stronger than the imperative, they're going to end up in misery.


I'm not saying kids will guarantee happiness. I'm targetting this at people who already have kids and are not happy with them.

Like you said, its not the kid's fault. The problem is with the parent. Here you have a being that starts of entirely devoted and loving to you. So if that bond is broken, its 100% the parent's fault.


Sorry, but there's no such thing as no regrets in life.

Even you can't be certain you won't regret your decisions today, a few decades from now.

For myself, I won't regret having kids, but I may regret not doing enough for them. While you don't want to live a life full of regrets, you can't run away from some of it.

What's yours?

Stop being a selfish bastard for once?

You membiak so others can take care of you when you sick of injured? Disgusting.

No wonder people don't respect parents anymore lmao

I'm not comparing the kids when they go to school. Those are the times when life is easier compared to newborn.
I'm comparing newborn.
When your kids were babies what was your schedule like?

0-3years old - would send my baby(s) to my mom in the morning before work, finish work have dinner at mom's house and bring baby home, wife takes care of baby while i clean the house, do chores until bedtime, wake up 2-3 times every night to make milk for the baby. At the time my daughter was born, we had to bring in a maid just to help around, she follows wherever the babies went
4-6 - send kids to kindy, mom fetches them in the afternoon, finish work have dinner at mom's house and bring the kids home, playtime watch TV while we take turns doing chores until bedtime, wake up once a night to make milk for the younger one sometimes both
7-12 - send kids to school, they go to daycare tuition after school and i fetch them from there after work, go back to mom's for dinner and go home to clean up, check homework etc, playtime before bed. No longer need to wake up to make milk but due to 6 years of doing that, i've gotten used to sleeping very late, i'd wait for the wife to get home and i go out to workout until 1am
13-now - I have much free time after work now, arranged transporter to take my kids to and fro school, i'd go buy some food for dinner, go home and hit the gym for some training before dinner, after that, do some chores or go out to socialize for business networks or job opportunities for 2 hours and go home before 11pm to sleep

each to their own meaning of 'happiness', having kids does not guarantee happiness

ppl nowadays care too much of what others think of them

both runs deep coz both happens when people are older. it doesn't matter, what matter is if they reach their dreams.

All women can give birth, but not all women can be "mother".

If a parent say to some1 without kids they regret wish no kids, 99% dont want to make the some1 without kids hurt only.

Takkan go say you will never know the feeling seeing the jewel and purpose of your life growing and hugging you each day feels damn syiok.

I regret. Should have stayed single and childless. Can YOLO and worry only about my parents. Now have to worry about parents, wife and kids and cats also. Life was a lot easier when I only need to worry about myself.

Its not too late to divorce and let your child go, YOLO man..YOLO think about it, life will be so much fun without those bastards in your life