But if grandparents mau grandkids... shouldn't they at least help

Daytime my parent will take care of them. My father is the one insist us to send my child to them as he said last time he miss out the time me and my siblings grew up. I will send my kids to school in the morning and in the afternoon, my parent will fetch them from school. At 5pm, my wife will take back the kids.

Thanks bro. We plan to prove the theory on how to get a boy or a girl. Let see how it will turn out.

hehe, do let us know if it works, and can open a thread on it

all the best, brother

I never regret.

Ragrets not having love.

Owaiii...

You need to sacrifice time and money.

It is worth it.

You need to be patient.

Only troublesome first few years, once the kids learn to manage themself then it’s superfun to the family..lolx

Most MNC ain’t gonna give u certain higher posts unless u got proper fam or kids..

People without children are miserable when they get old.
My superior is a childless and unmarried man. He is so free that he even works on weekends and kacau us, all my colleagues who are married all share the same ill feeling towards him. We all agree that these unmarried middle aged people are miserable and immatured, despite their age.

Probably miserable because unmarried

Yes, I know one old spinster as well. Always look for things to do. She will go holiday for couple months at a time by herself. Just wandering from country to country, stay in hostel or any cheap lodgings.

If you don't want children, at least get married. Humans are social creatures, no man is an island. Once you get older you will realize is so lonely.

No offense, but what I have seen so far among my friends with daughters, all 8 of these couples, the husbands are afraid or should I put it in a more polite way "respectful" of their wives.
As for other couples where the husbands are not as respectful of their wives (myself included), somehow tend to have sons instead.

I would also love to know how to conceive a daughter, if you have anything to share.

At least her life appears more interesting that way, but is she truly happy? Only she herself can tell. I personally can't imagine travelling by myself, it's just so boring. But whatever floats one's boat I guess.

Having children is not for happiness. It's for meaningfulness.
Having 2 kids myself, there is nothing more meaningful than getting unconditional love from your kids.

Well, have to sacrifice "me time". For a long time didn't go cinemas, then probably once a quarter managed to go out yum cha with friends as most of my friends also with children, now always blow water through chat group only. Still able to exercise, but have to adjust and reduce the time slot accordingly.

After 2nd child, only know no money to buy rm6k iphone pro...

then also no govt subsidy or help to feed your child milk powder lol...

None taken bro. The scenario is not appllied to me.
The theory is behind on how long the male and female sperm live and how fast it swim. The male sperm will swim faster but female sperm will have longer life. You can search more towards this. In my current two childs we did try to conceive 3 days before ovalution to increase the possibilities. In the coming child, we will try to conceive from the ovulation day and 3 days after.

I am more on science and data guy so not really believe those theory that said wife is stronger than husband and etc.

This post has been edited by de.sengal: Apr 26 2024, 04:26 PM

See that's why you can cope. You only take care of them less than half a day every day.

That's too sweeping a statement to have any credibility behind it bro.

Different people will see and do things differently, and who are we to dictate otherwise?

Huh?
That is normal I think for most of parents what do you expect? The kids will go to kindergarten and school from 7.30am until 3.30pm. Maybe you can share what is your routine which is different from others? Unless your kids home schooling and your wife is a housewife. Even housewife, the kids will still be in school for half the day.

This post has been edited by de.sengal: Apr 27 2024, 09:51 AM