Mau regret apa? I’m very happy to see my daughter is now a pok-pok chui young woman, the stuff that /k salivates over, and my son entering his teenage years to become a handsome young man, much like his father.

First few months when my son was born I almost fell into depression because of the sudden change in my life. I did have regrets.

But now I’m glad I have him in my life. He is 1 year 5 months now and he’s the most important person in my life. Seeing him after a tough day at work truly makes me happy.

Is he annoying sometimes? Yes especially when he’s having a tantrum. But at the end of the day I absolutely love having him in my life.

We have a daytime babysitter back then when my children were babies until 5 years old. Daytime she jaga, nighttime we jaga. So, yeah , went through all that diaper changing, milk feeding at midnight and dawn phase.

Then when kindergarten time, even kindergarten nowadays have after school jaga hours where they feed and bathe the kids until we pick up in the evening.

Then when they go to primary school, after classes got tuition centre to fetch from school and bathe, feed, do homework with them until we fetch in the evening.

And before you know it, they have grown up and are independent enough. Less headache already.

What I did to cope was I had a schedule with my wife. When he was a baby and used to wake up every 2 hours we used to have shifts at night to take care of him.

Now that he is a toddler, we take turns as well for chores, who to entertain him, etc. This way we have more time for us. I am also blessed to have a job that only requires me to work 10-12 days a month. Thus for the days that I do not have work I will take care of him fully and allow my wife to rest. Then I will catch up on sleep in the morning/evenings.

Wait until one reach 45-50+ u will understand what’s like without kids…lolx.

When my wife was pregnant, I always had doubt, uncertainty & pessimistic about having a child and its impact on my personal "usual routine" lifestyle.
Now my baby is almost a year old, I would say worth the sacrifice for it despite unforeseen major setbacks during in labour.

My wife and I, we are the one decided to have children. We are also lucky enough to conceive both of my daughters when we want them.
For us, we have almost everything we want at that time and we decided what is more worth it is to share everything your life and wealth with someone you love. If you already instill the thought of children is not a burden but a form of way for you to share your joy and life, it would really make your life nurturing them a whole new experiences. I admit sometimes it is challenging but at the same time you would learn a lot of thing.

And early this year, we decided to add one more to share all of our joy and life.

Daytime my parent will take care of them. My father is the one insist us to send my child to them as he said last time he miss out the time me and my siblings grew up. I will send my kids to school in the morning and in the afternoon, my parent will fetch them from school. At 5pm, my wife will take back the kids.
Thanks bro. We plan to prove the theory on how to get a boy or a girl. Let see how it will turn out.

Huh?
That is normal I think for most of parents what do you expect? The kids will go to kindergarten and school from 7.30am until 3.30pm. Maybe you can share what is your routine which is different from others? Unless your kids home schooling and your wife is a housewife. Even housewife, the kids will still be in school for half the day.