Just choose reject or accept and suffer the consequences.

What? U looking for enough moral police to stop u?


Oh waiiiiiiii

Yes I admit that we CROSSED the line, it was a spur of the moment thing. We just finished visiting the Opera House and she asked if we could have some private moments.

We promised that we would put it behind us, what happened in Oslo remained in Oslo.



She was not happy with her marriage. Not happy with her husband. Not happy with her in law. Not happy with her family. She was going crazy and decided that if she was going crazy, she might as well unleash her insanity on me.

I dont condone her behaviour but I can empathize with what she is going through.

I told her Im also seeing other girls but she assured me that there is no strings attached. I can say Im gullible. I never connect to anyone like her. I was struggling with my moral and religious compass too.

The needle went crazy.

I dont meet her anymore like I told her in the text

She kept luring me, telling me “daddy is sick, can’t go out” etc

There are eyes around. I dont wanna take the risk.

I just wanna let it out of my chest

I feel bad for getting involved. If I wanted to reject I should have rejected earlier.

Not when the rice has become the proverbial porridge

Did you know she was engaged prior?

nah no way the k troll also has setori in romance

but whatever, is not me to judge whether ur story real or not, just see this base on a case basis, if true story

u cant fix her or anything around her, her husband that's her matter, she consented to the marriage, she chose that path to follow that man, even if she complained to u about her husband matters, what can u do? persuade her to divorce her husband? morally, dont do it, that's her business unless ur in it for the lust

and the gangsta story, distance urself if u dont want to become news material, find other girls but not this one, u dont want to mess with gangstas

She initiated crossing the line and you accepted it - I've said enough about her by now, but you've been thinking with your small head so far... What does your big head think?

Whatever you guys said so far holds no weight at all, you both have been eating up your own words lol. "Whatever happened in Oslo stays in Oslo"? Bro you're sharing a saved photo on your phone to the internet of your porridge and you both continued to talk about things you shouldn't (the sex talk in your previous post).

"no strings attached" konon, she's literally STRINGING you to be her shining knight in armour to save her from her broken marriage with all those words.

If you truly feel bad then end it and throw the porridge away. Change job if you must but do not contact her anymore. If she values her face so much, she should know better: cheating is a huge embarrassment to herself and it hurts everyone around her. You as the third wheel, will be condemned by society. Everybody loses.

You'll only have your chance after she breaks off her marriage and dealt with her emotional baggage. People will raise eyebrows if she immediately jumps into a relationship with you after divorce, so you'll have no choice but to wait it out a few months.

I knew her way before she had sugardaddy

She asked me to support her financially but i couldnt afford to pay for what she wanted

So she went to get a sugardaddy instead.

This is a different girl. Not the colleague

I definitely can’t and not in a position to fix her problem.

The way i see it now, I can only be a sanctuary for her to be herself (she said she can’t be herself with her husband and also her in law, staying under the same roof)

She said her only escape is when she is with me, free to be herself without putting on a mask of a goody wife and a goody daughter in law

She felt restrained in that house, with rules n regulations, family events every weekend, entertaining guests, cooking, preparing meals for guests, and long golf games.

Whenever the husband is busy, her in law send her to office. She doesnt have her “me time”.



It is like prison. Or under parole. Or surveillance.

these kind of stories
-trying to woo a girl from own working place
-trying to sleep with someone wife

all stemp from lack of security, seeking validations
It feels like a trophy being able to temporarily get a physical thing, ie money or a married woman attention (in your case)

ive been on a period where sleeping with a female who seems "higher" quality than mine (primarily from her looks) i thought its going to enhance my status. It could be, but the state is always like a tidal wave. It will crash at anytime

Do you really want to live like this where everything outside yourself, is able to influence you with the fact that you dont even realize who are you/why are you coming to this earth?

I gave you a deep perspective to start thinking.

Talking about your colleague you banged in Norway.

Didn’t know she got engaged.

Didn’t know she got married

Knew her for a year. Hi bye

life's short, go for it and enjoy the ride while you can

Not really seeking validation or a trophy or anything.

She didn’t even tell me she was married in the beginning.

We were just colleagues, hi bye colleagues.

Texting only started when there was a project that required collaboration between our department.

I dont like small talk. I didn’t ask personal questions in professional settings. She did most of the talking. And the conversation flow naturally.

I dont know how to flirt. Im not far from kayu, 🪵 or blur sotong 🦑.

People say “bertepuk sebelah tangan takkan berbunyi”. I feel stupid for fueling the first spark of infidelity.

Was just curious....

Sorry to hear that

So what are you trying to achieve?
Do you want to smash or just being a keyboard righteous warrior?

This kind of scenario very simple & straight forward. Married ppl = these ppl have taken their vow. We do not interfere with their matters. As simple as that. If simple thing like this also so hard to make decision, you are going to have a lot of trouble in your day to day decision making.

Before this you don't know her marital status - that was history. After you know about it, is it still so hard to make a decision?

It is hard to make decision because we are made from flesh and blood.

If she was robot & I were washing machine maybe it is easy to unplug and switch off.

Married people who made the vow live happily ever after. She is not happy, and what she wanted in a marriage was not there. Her husband needed a trophy wife, keeps her in a cage, and chains her on a leash.

I know thats not my role or responsibility to meddle in her marriage. But now it has already happened. We had a long talk. U can see she is trapped in between a hard place and a hard wall.

We enjoy each other’s company. It is not easy to wake up from this dream.

You is the problem. You can ignore her but you decided to continue, as simple as that.

Assuming this story is true..

Best thing for TS is to advice this woman friend to remember her marriage vows and to work harder to be a good wife.