maybe she choosy

how do you do this during pandemic lockdown?

women need to lock down a guy as soon as possible
there's a classic saying why women will still prefer to choose a mate who's 5-7 years older than her. Even stephen chow tried to woo an 18 year old model, recently.

We enjoy our struggles, and reap it after decades of hardwork (hopefully)
women have to capitalize on their beauty, primarily.

I like the elaboration on the misleading advice.

Just to add on to the misleading advice from another angle - the advices given by the generations before us. The yi mah, gu mah, aunties & uncles used to advice the female siblings or cousins to open their eye big-big, take their time slowly to select the good candidate for husband, select the good one, handsome, don't make the same mistake like them to get married to the yi gong, gu gong, etc. Also, when still studying time, don't get involve with love life or else later get disrupted & cannot focus in the study. It will be a very typical advises not only from your own family but your friends family will tell you the same craps.

The ideal candidate for husband as per their elaboration is almost non existence. Even if there is, the competition will be tough. This is just like the value investing. You are ready to wait for value to emerge for certain stock but everyone else also know when the value will emerge also & they also want to grab. That's is why the value investing is almost non-existence. The poor girls really took their advice seriously to wait & wait , pass due their golden age without given a thought to compromise on certain parameters. Take the time slowly advise got some flaw to it.

Futhermore, the nature arrangement is in such the way that the female to male birth ratio is always higher to enable the population growths. Due to this, if the monogamy is practice strictly, there will always be some female being left to be single for the rest of their life.

The traditional advice probably need some updating just like the apps.

Because for kicino, some people daughter married same like walk-in to lamborghini car shop.

Not counting love for their daughter between soon to be son in-law, but they treat their daughter like investment.

Same like sell daughter, want this want that, 100 table, emas kahwin puluh ribu, so the guy just stop everything and YOLO to get fresh siham / renewable siham supply for a fraction of the cost / price.

Walao so many answers some PhD level thesis also got.

Answer damn simple.

Comfort zone.

If it’s not comfortable they will get off their ass and do something about it.

If they complain cannot find, complain single, but they are still on their ass, their actions show you that while they are uncomfortable being single, it’s even more uncomfortable for them to go find someone.

So in conclusion, comfort zone. Itu saja.

Occam's razor

Fuhhh powah, any advice for a 31yo single lady? i wonder if its works the same..2 more on the way. lol

I saw one 46s not yet marry.
But got girl friend, young girl friend. Change from time to time also.

He is Leonardo DiCaprio.

the gossip says because he loves Kate winslett and she is married so he cant get over her.

Whatever the reason. I think you get it.

i got a friend just got out of 5-10 years of relationship recently,
she is ''playing the field'' in her mid 30s, enjoying life.

most people are not rushing to find a permanent partner, let's be honest
esp if they're self sufficient making money.

cause got $ and enjoying social life a lot

also being picky.

This is incorrect info. Do a simple google search, you will find that the world population, there are more males than females. This is also the same for Malaysia's gender population...same goes for China too n many other countries This is why u will find way more single males than females. Personally, from my own frens/family, ratio is almost 10 single males to 1 single female. Am always getting "Eh intro me to girls la" from my male frens, but never from my female frens. In fact, i find that most males are quite eager to be setup and the females are always rejecting me when i try.





source:
https://www.dosm.gov.my/v1/index.php?r=colu...klWdzQ4TlhUUT09

https://statisticstimes.com/demographics/world-sex-ratio.php

This post has been edited by Sensualpassion: Sep 16 2021, 03:50 PM

Yes, from the latest data , the statement made by me in the previous post may not be accurate/relevant anymore. Sorry for that. Most likely another generation to come , the population starts experiencing stagnation.

China & India ratio cannot be used because of gender selection preferences. There could be unreported illegal abortion carried out.

Within my family & friends - females higher number. Accounting / auditors field contribute the most.

Chinese very pantang these 2 roles
1) match maker
2) guarantor
avoid if don’t want to invite any trouble.

What do you mean by "playing the field"??
does it means just looking around without committing to anyone?

being single has its good moment

Stephen Chow got money, got fame can lah. Ada duit, ada Ah Moi.

40 is old to you?? Jeez. I dunno how old you are, but here's something i think you should know, being married or having a partner is not a sole lifegoal that the whole world were born to do. Some just could not be bothered, some due to past trauma, relationship, responsibilities, job, and a million more reasons to not hook up or marry. Face and body has nothing to do with getting a partner. If you think this way you are probably very young or might be just immaturity talking. No offence, am saying it in a sincere and no ill intention meant.

Our culture lumps marriage and having kids as a success together with wealth, education, title, etc etc. An age-ist and judgmental culture as well. It is rather sad to see people who are really enjoying their lives, content with who they are and their status are being made fun of and ridiculed by the rest just because they dare to defy the trend followed by the masses.

Let's put it this way. Would you rather be in a marriage that you r miserable and in constant pain or being alone and live your life with no bother? Most in the society would rather be dead than be caught single after a certain age limit, so they just grab any ali muthu ah hock, settle down and make kids. They just believe somewhere down the line, love will be stronger and grow old together, have companion, kids take care of them. Vicious thinking. It becomes circle of toxidity because humans are unpredictable. Go into any plans in life with eyes wide open, that's ideal. Married or not, who cares? and most importantly, it is your own business and no one else should say otherwise. I am happily married with grown children by the way, just so you know where am speaking from

Getting married and having children is not the only purpose in life. IMO, it's better to not marry than to marry the wrong person. Imagine if a couple eventually splits up after having multiple children (very common nowadays). Also, it has emotional and psychological impact on the child's upbringing. Studies shown that children of divorce tend to cause many social ills and also tend to divorce.

I'm still young and never entered into a serious relationship before because it's difficult to find a girl that meets most of my criteria. Even if I found some, they are already in a relationship. Before you judge me, I'm not exactly chasing a super stunning model like girl. Just above average looking, brought up well, well read, and preferably from a T20 family. Reason for T20 background is because my family is also T20 and I would want a prenup before marriage. A girl from a similar financial background will know that it's practical, would also want to protect her assets, and is more likely to agree to a prenup.