This issue of infidelity isn't exclusive to LGBT but personally I won't interfere.

Thanks for your insightful comments.

As you work there, things may get complicated and uncomfortable. You know what they say, you don't mix personal and professional lives together.

Hi, this is not kopitiam for you to troll, if you want to troll and all those stuff please go to kopitiam as this is SERIOUS KOPITIAM. Also if you have nothing better to say just keep your comments to yourself as no one wants to hear it. Thank you

These guys had only been on a few dates before being forced into isolation together. Now they’re living a fairytale lockdown romance
Source: https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2020/04/14/aaron...ay-love-dating/



Aaron Hussey and Reed Badman had only been on five dates when they found themselves plunged into coronavirus lockdown together.

Three weeks later, they’re officially a couple – and they both say coronavirus lockdown has helped them get to know each other without the usual distractions.

Aaron, 34, and Reed, 25, first stumbled across each other on Instagram a few months ago. They started chatting and both realised early on that they liked each other. There was just one stumbling block: Reed lived in Cardiff and Aaron lived in London, so meeting in person wasn’t all that easy.

Despite this, they met “a couple of times” and “talked a lot”, and then Reed got offered a job in London. He moved to the capital quickly, but rented his own place as he still hardly knew Aaron. They knew they liked each other, but they were adamant that they wanted to take things slowly.

“And then the coronavirus stuff started,” Aaron says. One day, while visiting Aaron, Reed found out that his housemate had come into contact with a suspected case of COVID-19. They decided to exercise caution, and Reed spent the next few days in Aaron’s house.

“He stayed for a few days to protect himself and see how that played out,” Aaron says. “And then in the middle of that time, the lockdown was announced and it just made sense for him to stay until Boris Johnson told us otherwise.”

Aaron and Reed have loved every minute they’ve spent together in coronavirus lockdown.

Going into lockdown with someone you’ve only been on a few dates with could easily be a disaster, but it has been a huge success for Aaron and Reed. Three weeks on, they’re officially a couple and are loving every minute they spend together.

“When you’re suddenly locked in a house with someone 24/7 it definitely accelerates the ‘getting to know you’ phase,” Aaron says. “Luckily we’ve not annoyed each other too much and haven’t run out of things to say yet.”

Reed echoes this sentiment. “We’d already had some really nice moments together, but suddenly being forced into lockdown certainly accelerated things. But in the strangest way, it’s been kind of nice to get to know somebody without any distractions.”

Adapting to the “new normal” wasn’t easy for either of them. Aaron is a “planner and a worrier” and usually tries to “schedule and fix everything”, so getting used to lockdown with a new boyfriend was a challenge.

“But there’s something about a global pandemic that makes you suddenly realise that sometimes you have to just go with the flow and let things happen as they happen,” he explains.

Reed adds: “In a weird way, I’m really happy that this is the way we’ve started our relationship because we have really been able to get to know other with distractions. And it’ll make for an excellent dinner party story.”

The new couple have kept busy during lockdown and have spent plenty of time cooking and baking together. They’ve also started watching Schitt’s Creek from the start and have been going out for their government-sanctioned daily run together.

“We were going to learn a language and write a book, but then Disney+ launched and that all went out of the window,” Aaron jokes.

Both men say they have learned a lot about each other in three weeks of lockdown.

“I’ve learnt that Reed is incredibly thoughtful, and funny and looks frustratingly good in all of my clothes,” Aaron says. “And we’ve both learned that patience is king and that the new Dua Lipa album can get you through anything.”

Meanwhile, Reed says Aaron always “puts everybody else before himself”.

Gay aerospace engineer wins £175,000 payout after his ‘worst nightmares’ about coming out at work came true
Source: https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2020/04/14/gay-a...-out-work-true/



An engineer won an employment tribunal case after he suffered harassment and discrimination at work while looking to start a family with his husband.

Peter Allen, who has worked in engineering from age 16, joined aerospace component manufacturer Paradigm Precision in 2012 as a quality manager and rose through the company over six years.

The married 41-year-old explained to PinkNews that he was in line to take over as general manager of the company’s UK site in Burnley — but things went awry when he came out at work in 2018 and made enquiries into adoption leave.

“I’d started to come out to select people in my team, as well as the HR director,” he said. “I confided that we had started to look into adoption. That’s when everything changed.

“They felt they couldn’t have a general manager where I was in a position where I was going to be off for 12 months with parental leave.”

The engineer continued: “A heterosexual couple thinking of starting a family would have just never have been in the same situation that I was. I was forced to choose between whether we become parents or whether I had a job, which is ultimately what it came down to.”

After he was passed over for promotion and his marriage to a man became common knowledge, Allen faced a string of homophobic incidents — including derogatory emails and “limp-wristed hand gestures” from colleagues.

He said: “I’d taken a leap of faith to come out at work, and all this horribleness was evolving in front of me. It was almost as if my worst nightmares about coming out at work were happening. These were senior managers, people above me, these weren’t people who were part of my team.”

He continued: “I was in a whirlwind of torment, really. I was getting these emails that were inappropriate, there were post-it notes, all of these things were happening around this time. I felt devastated, because [the company] weren’t backing me up on things that were happening.

“I was in the position of ‘what the hell do I do?’. I’d gone from being quite a senior manager in that business to being excluded and isolated. It’s quite sad, because I did have a good career. I was devastated at the time. I wanted just to get out of there.”

Allen eventually did leave the company and decided to pursue legal action for harassment and unfair dismissal.

He said: “When I was looking for other jobs it was always in the back of my mind, about how the company would be with me. Can I be as open as I’ve built myself up to be?

“I spoke to solicitors and family and my friends, but I didn’t know the task that I was going to be undertaking [with the legal challenge]. It was so daunting, but it was a fight that I wanted to take on.

“I was fortunate enough that I did have insurance company backing [to cover the court costs]. But I felt it wasn’t just about me, it was about holding them accountable for their actions. I felt like it was my duty to do that.”

The case hung over Allen for two years, but in a decision last month, Manchester employment tribunal judge Mark Leach affirmed that the engineer had been “subject to harassment related to sexual orientation” and was passed over for promotions “because he sought to take additional adoption leave.”

He was awarded a total of £174,645, including £96,645 for breaches of the Equality Act and £23,873 for unfair dismissal.

Employment tribunal judgment has helped bring some closure.

Netflix has been releasing lots of LGBT-related contentss in their platform lately. It's great.

This looks interesting. Wonder if it'll be on our Netflix since it's such a controversial subject.

It's nice to see hetero people sharing their stories being involved in the LGBTQ community.

But yes, having Netflix is great since we now have access to stuff that we otherwise wouldn't have access to.

Unless you have very high EQ, I say stay out of it. Things can get very messy when one party is married.

This post has been edited by ashangel39: Apr 16 2020, 10:48 AM

Lots of stories of people getting forced out of the closet via social media and others these past few weeks, probably because people are having nothing better to do during the quarantine.

If you are openly LGBT in your social media/dating apps, please be aware of the risks involved.

Stay safe everyone!

You may check this out. I got a feeling this is similar to what you experiencing now.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/condit...vestic-disorder

First question are you male or female? Secondly, are you into lesbian?

Anyone like to use buttplug here? Lol

I got new of mine around 4.5cm size and now my ass twitching quite some time

Bosnia and Herzegovina take small steps toward recognising same-sex couples
Source: https://www.gaytimes.co.uk/community/134691...me-sex-couples/

The government of the Federation of Bosnia and Herzegovina isset to start a consultation that could mean the government starts recognising same-sex relationships.

However, the country is divided up in two self-governing entities, and only the Federation is considering the move. The more conservative Republika Srpska, which covers less than the Federation, is not considering it.

The Federation agreed to hold the consultation after demands from same-sex couples who had gotten married or registered abroad. Currently, neither region offers recognition of same-sex couples.

The Federation has appointed an interdepartmental working group to look at these rights. The group’s chair, Sead Lisak, said the group would have its first meeting later this month. The group will meet with LGBTQ activists to discuss the issues faced by same-sex couples before drafting legislation.

If it goes ahead with affording same-sex couples recognition, Bosnia and Herzegovina would be a trailblazer among the Balkan states, with none of its immediate neighbours offering these rights. Nearby countries like Serbia and Croatia even have constitutional bans on same-sex marriage.

Last year, the country’s capital, Sarajevo, finally held its first Pride parade, the last capital city in Europe to do so. However, the event had to be guarded by police, and a poll found 58% of people were against the Pride going ahead.

Samra Cosovic-Hajdarevic, the Deputy of the Party of Democratic Action called the march a “terrible” idea aimed at “destroying the state and its people.”

She then added that LGBTQ people should be “isolated and moved as far as possible from our children and society.”

LGBTQ rights aren’t great across the Balkan nations, and earlier this year crowds of people cheered in the Croatian town of Imotski cheered and danced as an effigy of a gay couple was set on fire.

Zoran Milanović, President of Croatia, slammed the festival for promoting hatred and violence.

“The symbolic burning of the same-sex couple with a child in Imotski is inhumane, unpleasant and totally unacceptable under the cover of the carnival celebrations,” he said in a statement on Facebook.

“Hatred for others, intolerance and inhumanity are not and will never be a Croatian tradition.”

Eurovision fans are rising like phoenixes to raise thousands for queer charities with a new online phenomenon



When news that the 2020 Eurovision Song Contest was cancelled – citing concerns over the coronavirus pandemic – LGBT+ folk across the world shed tears by the bucketload.

For weeks, the future of the pan-European contest, which was set to take place in Rotterdam in May, was thrown into jeopardy. But its postponement was confirmed after the Netherlands joined other countries in placing restrictions on concerts and mass gatherings.

While Eurovision organisers and some broadcasters have scrambled to craft substitutions that might net the 180 million viewers the contest typically does, none quite have the sparkle of the real thing.

That’s why Rob Holley, a keen Eurovision aficionado based in England, started #EurovisionAgain, an initiative all about re-watching archival Eurovision contests every Saturday night.

“I started #EurovisionAgain a few weeks ago as a way for a few pals to watch an old contest together through Twitter on a Saturday night after Eurovision and life, in general, got cancelled,” Holley told PinkNews.

“We’re now on week five and it’s snowballed to the point that the watch-a-long on a Saturday evening is trending globally, and beating shows like Britain’s Got Talent – it’s bonkers.”

But in syncing up and watching tiny recordings of camptastic singers, they’re actually raising thousands of pounds for LGBT+ charities.

“Last week we thought it might be fun to try and raise £500 for Mermaids, and before the show had even started we’d smashed the target and ended up raising nearly £4,000,” Holley said.

Read more: https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2020/04/18/eurov...-higgins-trust/

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As an Eurovision fan, this really warms my heart.

Hmm. Its true, I started when I was a kid, yes, I think fetishism too, I like certain fabrics and cloths. But I dont think I suffer from anxiety, depression, guilt. Shame maybe, because when I was young my sister caught me wearing her clothes and told my mom about it. And they caught me about once or twice after that. So since then I started to do it quietly. xD It doesnt affect my work though.

Yeah, because if you are suffering from transgenderism, you may not only love to dress like a woman, but you will also hate yourself as a man. Anyway, hope that you can go to see a doctor soon. Because when drag long it may cause other implication.

Yeah, but occasionally I will feel like dressing up like a woman. I dont hate myself as a man, I love myself. xD Sometimes when I look at woman I'll see the way they dress. xD And besides looking at their faces i will see how they dress. Honestly I've been like this for a very long time. About 20 years, safe to say. xD What other implication would it cause? Because recently because of this MCO, i feel more keen on dressing up. Since there's nothing to do at night.. xD And once I'm dressed up, I feel like not taking it off (sometimes).

Because seem like you are into dressing up. Any make up you like? I’m asking this because they are also some man that love to dress up in female clothing and masturbate with it. It is not a very healthy thing because prolong it will encourage them to do further like get into female washroom, peeping upskirt, etc. But since you are only desire in dressing up then I assume it is OK. You still staying with your family? How old are you BTW?

Yep, seems like it. So far make up no. But I do have a wig. If that counts.. Oh. I don't think i would go to that extent of dressing up and peeping upskirts. Yeah. Staying with parents actually still. xD haha. Erh. early 30s. Hehe..