Oh. Im not so sure about that, but religion do play its part too. Most religion don't accept it. But anyway, its quite hard to find people to talk to with this topic. Most people are closed minded about these topics and would rather not talk about it. Not sure why too. But I think most races are the same. Maybe religion for Indians too. Not so sure.

If you need more info I can always share with you. Besides races demographic. The level of education and social status also play important roles in their social acceptance. For instance, transgender who received higher education such as master and phd tend to get less rejection. In fact they are all welcome at some case. Those transgender who linger in high end society also tend to get less prejudice. In contrast, those who work as everyday labour and living in the lower income group will tend to be discriminated.

Based on my observation from people around me, Indians tends to be more 'pious' compared to other races, regardless of their religion.
Disclaimer: This is not a generalization, but just based on personal experience.

I've read 1 of the books and own all the volumes so far in the picture (Heartstopper series) and I adored it!
I've never met such an eloquent and open-minded person as you Giga, you make me believe that open-minded folk truly exist in Malaysia.
Also, any advice for a young bi guy (19 y/o) like me in seeking romantic love? Recently (2 months ago), my bf dumped me and was I devastated but I realized that his love for me was just superficial. Now, I find it difficult to seek serious relationships be it guy or girl

I know a few Indians too and they are very proud of their culture and traditions which are totally fine. I don't think accepting LGBT means sacrificing your beliefs... Looking at recent trends in India itself the society is getting more open-minded. There was already a legally-recognised lesbian marriage in India in 2017. If India can accomplish this, I'm sure NRIs can achieve the same if they rally and demand their rights in their respective communities.

Aww, thanks man. Wow you sure are a bookworm huh? Not much of a reader myself but good for you! Haha.

Have you fully gotten over your ex yet? It's okay to take as much time as you need to grief. The MCO is good in a way because it offers you time to self-reflect. The good news is you are still young and you will meet lots of cooler people in your life... One of them could potentially be your future romantic partner. Just take it easy.

Any lgbt here? How u guys normally find each other? Some sort telegram group? Fb group???

I'm LGBT lol.

Being online is the best way to meet other LGBT people these days because it isn't monitored much by the government. There a several apps that can be downloaded in Google Playstore and Apple App Store that cater to gay and lesbian dating. In social media like Twitter and Instagram, people will put recognisable symbols in their profiles like the rainbow flag to indicate they are LGBT.

People who are more adventurous can go to bars or saunas.

Sorry, I think it is okay for the moment first. Yeah, usually i think that should be the case. But at least I know now the difference about transgender and fetishism.

Oh. Im not so sure. Because mostly my friends just talk about other things, we never talk about gender differences or things like that. Haha. Most of my friends talk about cars, work, expensive drones etc. Haha... And gaming. That's all. Plus the jokes and trolls. xD

Of course. I dont mean all time talk religious stuff but for example this colleague of mine, she's a christian and never miss all those services etc. Her fb postings etc all Jesus related thing. Same with few my hindu staff. All if not most of them kaki rock like but sembahyang tak tinggal. 😅 Since we work 7 days, some of the days where they have to work got mintak cuti need to go to temple etc. Even muslims, generally I see indian muslims more pious that malay muslims. I'm talking abouy average joes that I know.

Sure. Just sharing my knowledge. BTW if you really have either transgenderism or fetishism, go get help from psychologist. It need to be treated. For transgenderism, they will guide you the proper way for transformation; for fetishism, they will guide you to eliminate the bad habit.

The rise of domestic abuse during COVID-19 in LGBTQ relationships and how you can get help



I have been successfully practising as a Barrister for over 20 years at the English bar and yet only once have I represented a client who was in a same sex relationship, and was seeking protection from the Family Court for an injunction to prohibit their partner from using or threatening violence against them.

I have often wondered over the years why I have never represented more lesbian or gay clients seeking protection from an abusive partner. Seemingly, same sex relationships aren’t infected in the same way as heterosexual ones are by the poisons that infect and create the virus that is domestic abuse; for example, alcohol, drugs, stress, or a personality disorder. Perhaps it’s the same phenomenon that exists in the football sporting world where there are no known homosexual premier league players, nor for that matter, in any other country’s equivalent football league!

The data I have been able to collate tells me this: that 1 in every 4 lesbians and up to half of gay men have been a victim of domestic abuse at one time in their adult lives and that this figure is nearly at 80% if you are a transgender. The Office for National Statistics collated “experimental” data that informed the reader as of 2017: 1.1 million people over 16 identified themselves as LGB (there is currently no data for those identifying as transgender) out of a UK population aged 16 or over of 52.8 million, just 2% of the population.

Perhaps those suffering the abuse in same sex relationships do not believe that they are victims? Many victims are manipulated and or brainwashed into believing their circumstances are either a fault of their own making or just a normal part of the ups and downs that come with being in a loving relationship. Many heterosexual victims of domestic abuse don’t consider themselves to be victims, but only seek assistance due to a statutory body intervening such as Social Services, hospital or the police. Even if you do realise something is wrong, let’s be frank, you are gay, which means you are more likely to feel unsupported or unable to seek assistance from those statutory bodies whose job it is to protect you.

If you’ve answered yes to any of these questions then perhaps you are a victim of domestic abuse. Does your partner constantly check up on you, wanting to know your movements and have access to your phone and/or emails? Does your partner regularly accuse you of flirting or actively pursuing romantic attention from others? Does your partner belittle you, try to humiliate you or even hit you? Maybe you have even tried to change your behaviour so as not to suffer your partner’s abusive behaviour?

Read more: https://www.gaytimes.co.uk/community/134246...u-can-get-help/

It’s Okay To Be Worried About Your Weight During Quarantine



Like any anxiety-riddled modern bitch, I experienced a nauseating thought-spiral upon hearing that I would be required to stay in my home for the foreseeable future. One of the first thoughts I had was, “Oh no, does this mean I’m going to gain weight?” quickly followed by, “Omg wtf is wrong with me? People are dying and I’m worried about getting stretch marks.” Then the spiral stopped right there, and I decided to be happy, carefree, and at peace.

Lmao, obviously joking. I swan dove into a whirlpool of panic about my morals, self worth, thigh gap, and death. But once I was able to take a step back, take my meds, and talk to my therapist, I was able to see that worrying about my body image during this crisis doesn’t make me a bad, superficial person who doesn’t care that people are dying. In fact, as someone who has struggled with eating disorders since the age of 12, my reaction makes a lot of sense.

I first stumbled upon anorexia when I gave up sweets for Lent in the sixth grade and every teacher, classmate, and their WASP mother at my small town Catholic school commented about how much weight I had lost. The attention felt good, like I had accomplished something. But with that high came what never leaves you after struggling with an ED: the fear that you will lose the control you currently have over your weight. What would people say—or worse, think—then? Being thin was *my thing* now, and being in control of that was my number one priority.

Being confined to your home with no real end in sight is overwhelming. Knowing you can’t go about your daily routine is stressful and anxiety-inducing. Not having access to your usual workouts and being stuck inside where you’re likely to eat and drink out of boredom is scary, especially if you struggle with an eating disorder, or any type of body image issues. These reactions are normal. Unusual circumstances are going to trigger the ways in which stress manifests for you, and that’s okay.

Also, hear me out, it is possible to be upset and worried about two things at once. You can be anxious about your weight and disturbed by death at the same time. I would argue that many of us worry about both of those things at once on the regular. So, during a pandemic, it’s reasonable for both of those concerns to intensify.

It’s also important to note that the obsession with body image isn’t something *you* came up with. A little bitch I like to call society can be blamed for this one. I don’t think I need to launch into an entire TED Talk about how society has brainwashed us into valuing our looks and a certain standard of beauty, as we’re all pretty familiar with that concept and Jameela Jamil has me covered there. So, being concerned about your looks during a pandemic is also just a reaction that you have learned to prioritize.

Read more at: https://betches.com/its-okay-to-be-worried-...ing-quarantine/

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Disproportionate amount of gay people are struggling with body images issues (incuding myself, sadly). If you are currently worrying about your weight, do realise that it's completely normal. So worry away.

Ah.. xD haha. Yeah.

Does it have to be done at the psychologists place or can i do it online? Honestly I'm still in between. xD And helpful links that I should check out? Thanks.

Perhaps you have a fetish. Cambridge define it as · behaviour in which someone shows a sexual interest in an object, or in a part of the body other than the sexual organs

So some people like feet or dress up as nurses, things like that. Nothing wrong with it, just personal preference. It's like something that you do to make the sex more exciting.

Transgender means you feel more like the opposite sex than the sex you are born with. Is this what you feel? If you are a guy, you feel like you relate more as a woman?

I’m not sure if it can be done online. But it is more efficient if you can talk to the doctor face to face. Don’t have to be shy because they are there to help you. What you can do is to go to any home clinic, tell the doctor that you have such problem and require a specialist treatment. The home doctor will then write a recommendation letter for you to refer to psychologist which he/she think is appropriate to your case.

If you have transgenderism, public hospital cannot help you much. They can only provide counselling session because transgenderism is forbidden by the Malaysian Laws. Private hospital on the other hands can help you to do mental and physical diagnosis, including blood test to evaluate your hormone level. They will then prescribe you with medication aka HRT. After 3 years of HRT, you may eligible for SRS, but it has to be done oversea. The nearest to do such SRS are Singapore and Thailand.

The best public hospital for such cases, either transgenderism or fetishism, is UMMC. If you opt for private hospital, you can go to SMC or ADMC.

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Maybe. I know I have fetish for women clothing.

Yep, that is true.

This i am not so sure. I honestly feel neutral. lmao. but anyway, sometimes i do feel womanly and sometimes i do feel manly. xD So yeah. Hence why I said i'm more in between.

Ah. Okay then. Can't do much now with the MCO in effect. xD

I do not think I would go on that far honestly, because at this moment it just feels to be okay like that. As in closeted and in my own world. xD That's how I put it.

I will check it out soon.

Thanks again!

Actually, you can read the series online for free! https://tapas.io/series/Heartstopper maybe I'm biased since I've read most of the authors works but she does a great job in including and portraying LGBT characters correctly. I don't really know what it feels to "get over someone" since this was my first ever relationship. I don't miss him at all, in fact I'd rather not see him but I do miss having company and having someone by your side constantly. Yeah the MCO is rly giving me more time to get in touch with my feelings.

I have a dilemma. I just make it short. If you're the 3rd party will you interfere into your married lady boss relationship? Let say she likes you and have been WhatsApp you many times.

LGBT HARAM!!

Just wow