You are straight man. To be a real transgender you have to pass several test. First you have to see counsellor, then proceed to psychologist, then psychiatrist, and lastly you will be referred to the endocrinologist. The hospital will give you a few paper test to evaluate your emotion and thinking. This of course including your sexual preference and desire. There will be a lot of blood test involved too; to check your chromosome, your active testosterone vs oestrogen, your liver and kidney function, etc. In conclusion, to be recognise as a true transgender, someone need to get a proper medical procedure, because many thinking that they are transgender but ended up regret and revert back. These group are probably caught in the fetishism.

Some man just have fetish toward female lingerie, they love to wear it. But that does not make them a transgender.

Yes. Can be any clothing of the opposite sex.

It may lead but most of the case it is just fetishism. Refer to my previous replied. You need to go and get ‘approval’ from a psychologist, a psychiatrist, and an endocrinologist.

A true transgender will have characteristic inclines toward the other gender, be it from emotion, acting, thinking, the way of talking, etc. You need to pass the transgender test set by the doctor.

Many men just love to wear sexily like a woman, but deep down they still love woman. Or to put it more precisely, the still prefer to have sex with women. Or the second question, will u remove your genital to be like a woman? If your answer is no. Then sorry you are not qualified. You may just be ‘hamsap’.

The reason to get approval from the 3 panels is, the psychologist is to confirm your behavior is inclining the opposite gender, the psychiatrist is to confirm that your body and mental is readily for the transformation to opposite gender, while endocrinologist is to confirm that your blood hormone level is at the opposite gender. Once u pass these 3 stages, the hospital will give you a confirmation letter. Something like a pass for you to wear and to use female facilities at public area. If you are caught entering a female toilet or changing room without this proper document, you will be sentence to jail.

Anyway, from your response and reply I may make an assumption you are just having ‘fetishism’. You can also go seek help from psychologist on this matter. Thank you.

Being details because Im working close with the transgender community to help the society to break the bias toward them.

At the same time, please be aware that this is a serious kopitiam. You are not allow to troll here sir. Kopitiam is other side.

Thanks. Most of them are afraid being marginalised by the society. But based on my experience, the Chinese may tend to be more open to accept trans community, while Malay-muslim community is more restricted to their religious believe, hence the less acceptance. But sadly to say the Indian has the most bias toward trans community. Not really sure why.

If you need more info I can always share with you. Besides races demographic. The level of education and social status also play important roles in their social acceptance. For instance, transgender who received higher education such as master and phd tend to get less rejection. In fact they are all welcome at some case. Those transgender who linger in high end society also tend to get less prejudice. In contrast, those who work as everyday labour and living in the lower income group will tend to be discriminated.

Based on my observation from people around me, Indians tends to be more 'pious' compared to other races, regardless of their religion.
Disclaimer: This is not a generalization, but just based on personal experience.

Of course. I dont mean all time talk religious stuff but for example this colleague of mine, she's a christian and never miss all those services etc. Her fb postings etc all Jesus related thing. Same with few my hindu staff. All if not most of them kaki rock like but sembahyang tak tinggal. 😅 Since we work 7 days, some of the days where they have to work got mintak cuti need to go to temple etc. Even muslims, generally I see indian muslims more pious that malay muslims. I'm talking abouy average joes that I know.

Sure. Just sharing my knowledge. BTW if you really have either transgenderism or fetishism, go get help from psychologist. It need to be treated. For transgenderism, they will guide you the proper way for transformation; for fetishism, they will guide you to eliminate the bad habit.

Perhaps you have a fetish. Cambridge define it as · behaviour in which someone shows a sexual interest in an object, or in a part of the body other than the sexual organs

So some people like feet or dress up as nurses, things like that. Nothing wrong with it, just personal preference. It's like something that you do to make the sex more exciting.

Transgender means you feel more like the opposite sex than the sex you are born with. Is this what you feel? If you are a guy, you feel like you relate more as a woman?

I’m not sure if it can be done online. But it is more efficient if you can talk to the doctor face to face. Don’t have to be shy because they are there to help you. What you can do is to go to any home clinic, tell the doctor that you have such problem and require a specialist treatment. The home doctor will then write a recommendation letter for you to refer to psychologist which he/she think is appropriate to your case.

If you have transgenderism, public hospital cannot help you much. They can only provide counselling session because transgenderism is forbidden by the Malaysian Laws. Private hospital on the other hands can help you to do mental and physical diagnosis, including blood test to evaluate your hormone level. They will then prescribe you with medication aka HRT. After 3 years of HRT, you may eligible for SRS, but it has to be done oversea. The nearest to do such SRS are Singapore and Thailand.

The best public hospital for such cases, either transgenderism or fetishism, is UMMC. If you opt for private hospital, you can go to SMC or ADMC.

You may check this out. I got a feeling this is similar to what you experiencing now.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/condit...vestic-disorder

Yeah, because if you are suffering from transgenderism, you may not only love to dress like a woman, but you will also hate yourself as a man. Anyway, hope that you can go to see a doctor soon. Because when drag long it may cause other implication.

Because seem like you are into dressing up. Any make up you like? I’m asking this because they are also some man that love to dress up in female clothing and masturbate with it. It is not a very healthy thing because prolong it will encourage them to do further like get into female washroom, peeping upskirt, etc. But since you are only desire in dressing up then I assume it is OK. You still staying with your family? How old are you BTW?

It seems like it's more like a fetish or hobby that you enjoy. It doesn't seem to affect your personal life (with family and friends), sexually (you still like woman) or socially, so I think is fine. Unless you are spending way too much time on it, then it's unhealthy.

For now, during MCO we have more time, so I suppose you wanting to dress up more is not unusual too.

Is like masturbation lo. We do it since young. Also maybe get caught. Again, I believe that as long as we are not too obsessed about it and it doesn't affect our daily lives, it's fine.

Masturbate 2 or 3 times - too frequent? Everyday is too frequent? No right or wrong, depends on individual. Key point is not to let it affect our lives too much.

Time for Malaysia to embrace LGBT community — Bakhtiar Talhah
Source: https://www.malaymail.com/news/what-you-thi...-talhah/1866866



MAY 17 — In 2018, two Malaysian women received six lashes in an open court in Terengganu.

Last year, five Malaysian men were fined, imprisoned, and caned for attempted sexual intercourse.

And many Malaysians are arrested and jailed every year for the way they dress.

These Malaysians share one commonality: they are all part of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) population that is part of the Malaysian fabric.

Despite the inhumane ways my country treats its LGBT population, I proudly and openly count myself as a LGBT Malaysian.

First and foremost, let me be honest and declare that I am a privileged Malaysian.

I am a Malay Bumiputera who attended the elite Malay College Kuala Kangsar (MCKK), the school that produced some of the best Malaysian leaders, intellectuals, and professionals who serve this country.

Stellar SPM results won me a full scholarship that took me to Princeton University, and subsequently a career that spanned the globe, and a (gay) marriage in France that almost made me write Malaysia off for good.

But I found myself back here, to the same place that rejected my very existence, among a populace that still thinks LGBT folks do not belong.

While I climbed the corporate ladder through those years, leaders in Malaysia continued to fuel homophobia with some referring to the LGBT people as enemies of Islam, along with liberalism and pluralism.

I look around and am immensely proud by the way Malaysians managed things amid the Covid-19 pandemic.

I see LGBT Malaysians everywhere; healthcare professionals at the frontlines, corporate leaders, social activists, educationists, legal practitioners, artists, chefs, entrepreneurs, Grab riders. The list goes on.

We are part and parcel of what makes Malaysia great. And it is time that the country embraces us for who we are.

We can start by creating positive spaces in our families and workplaces, where sexual orientation and gender identities should be irrelevant, or better still, celebrated.

It is a long, difficult way to change national and religious laws in this country, but if we can open up a little bit more to each other and share our stories, it would be the first step to break down barriers.

After all, I am certain every Malaysian knows an LGBT person, who is a family member, friend, neighbour, or colleague.

Michelle Obama (another Princeton alumnus!) said “We can’t afford to wait for the world to be equal to start feeling seen.”

I am not holding my breath for Malaysia to treat me as an equal, but today I choose to be unafraid to live openly as a proud, gay Malaysian.

* May 17 marks the International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia, created in 2004 to draw attention to the violence and discrimination experienced by lesbian, gay, bisexuals, transgender, intersex people and all other people with diverse sexual orientations, gender identities or expressions and sex characteristics.

May 17 was chosen because it commemorates the World Health Organization’s decision in 1990 to declassify homosexuality as a mental disorder.

In public, for Muslims, then yes. Correct me if I am wrong.

But you are not gonna wear in public right? If just indoors, so no issues there.

Yeah, based on sharia law for muslims (which is individually governed by each state), cross-dressing is illegal. It's not applicable for non-muslims. But in terms of stigma, I'm sure the society will judge everyone the same.