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Princess_Alicia
post Mar 1 2020, 01:13 AM

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QUOTE(Messiahword @ Feb 29 2020, 11:22 PM)
I am male and I starts to love long hair. But I only like girls. I love to see guys with long hair and when they transform their face to become almost 90% similar like woman I kind of amused and interested. What do you call that?
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You may face internal conflict. This is normal for most people. You can get help from any psychiatrist or counsellor. It may not be transgenderism, because transgender mostly has affection toward male (or the other way round for FTM).

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post Mar 1 2020, 10:25 PM

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QUOTE(Messiahword @ Mar 1 2020, 04:26 PM)
If the guy transform almost identical to look like a girl. Yes I'm turned on. Even deep down I know is a guy.
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You are straight man. To be a real transgender you have to pass several test. First you have to see counsellor, then proceed to psychologist, then psychiatrist, and lastly you will be referred to the endocrinologist. The hospital will give you a few paper test to evaluate your emotion and thinking. This of course including your sexual preference and desire. There will be a lot of blood test involved too; to check your chromosome, your active testosterone vs oestrogen, your liver and kidney function, etc. In conclusion, to be recognise as a true transgender, someone need to get a proper medical procedure, because many thinking that they are transgender but ended up regret and revert back. These group are probably caught in the fetishism.
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post Mar 8 2020, 09:15 AM

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QUOTE(superbike @ Mar 8 2020, 04:51 AM)
Hi there, i always identify myself as 100% straight guy and has always in a relationship with women and only had sex with women. Lately, there is an Indonesian guy who operates a food stall at a restaurant that i frequently go not far from my house in his mid 20s whom i find is quite cute (mind you this is the first time i find people my own gender cute). Sometimes i find myself stare at him a lot but it doesnt bother me at all unless i attracted to him sexually. However, everytime im intoxicated i find myself having dirty thoughts about doing it with him. For this reason, i ought to stay clean and sober up to today. The gay thought still persist though not as much as when im intoxicated. I still frequently go to the restaurant just to steal glare at him and buy my daily cigarette pack.

I am not sure if i suddenly turned bisexual (i still like women) after seeing him or i actually have a gay desire that is hidden in me that i unknowingly knew. I was actually homophobic, used to despise lgbts, especially gays a lot which i find disgusting but it turned out i was probably one.
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That’s normal. I think everyone has a shade of LGBT in their mind. The question is whether you want to accept it or not. Of course most of us try as much as we can to wash it away because we are afraid of the society stigma. At the end of the day, just be yourself and accept yourself.
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post Apr 3 2020, 10:29 PM

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QUOTE(rankalee @ Apr 3 2020, 04:29 PM)
Fetishism?  hmm.gif What's that like exactly?  sweat.gif
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Some man just have fetish toward female lingerie, they love to wear it. But that does not make them a transgender.
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post Apr 3 2020, 10:31 PM

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QUOTE(rankalee @ Apr 3 2020, 10:30 PM)
Ohh. Meaning can be any clothing?  hmm.gif
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Yes. Can be any clothing of the opposite sex.
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post Apr 4 2020, 06:31 PM

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QUOTE(rankalee @ Apr 4 2020, 04:21 PM)
Oh. So it wont lead to being a transgender? XD
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It may lead but most of the case it is just fetishism. Refer to my previous replied. You need to go and get ‘approval’ from a psychologist, a psychiatrist, and an endocrinologist.

A true transgender will have characteristic inclines toward the other gender, be it from emotion, acting, thinking, the way of talking, etc. You need to pass the transgender test set by the doctor.

Many men just love to wear sexily like a woman, but deep down they still love woman. Or to put it more precisely, the still prefer to have sex with women. Or the second question, will u remove your genital to be like a woman? If your answer is no. Then sorry you are not qualified. You may just be ‘hamsap’.

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post Apr 5 2020, 12:39 PM

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QUOTE(rankalee @ Apr 4 2020, 11:48 PM)
Ahh. That answers a lot. Hahaha. Okay then. Thank you ya. biggrin.gif Hehe. Just wanted to be clearer on it. Hehe.
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The reason to get approval from the 3 panels is, the psychologist is to confirm your behavior is inclining the opposite gender, the psychiatrist is to confirm that your body and mental is readily for the transformation to opposite gender, while endocrinologist is to confirm that your blood hormone level is at the opposite gender. Once u pass these 3 stages, the hospital will give you a confirmation letter. Something like a pass for you to wear and to use female facilities at public area. If you are caught entering a female toilet or changing room without this proper document, you will be sentence to jail.

Anyway, from your response and reply I may make an assumption you are just having ‘fetishism’. You can also go seek help from psychologist on this matter. Thank you.

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post Apr 6 2020, 07:33 PM

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QUOTE(sweet_pez @ Apr 6 2020, 07:06 PM)
This reminds me of a documentary I watched on NHK some time back. One of the girl - when she was young, had always behaved like a boy, wore like one and she never wanted to be a woman. It was consistent behaviour for years, diagnosed by doctors, psychologists etc multiple times. She confirmed that she wanted to be male and hated her female body. So when of certain age, she underwent sex change stages by stages, and even got started on hormone therapy, pills and all that.

Employment was tough after that because she would be considered as strange but she somehow managed to find job in restaurants that don't discriminate her gender. Several years later when the program followed up with her, they found that she stopped her pills and she was in depression. She struggled with her gender identity, somehow wanting to have breasts (but it was already removed from surgery when she was young) and not minding being a female or male. In the end she chose to be Asexual, someone not identified with either gender: male nor female. It's a little sad watching the documentary so really, before going ahead with such surgeries, one has to be very very sure of it.
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Correct. A proper evaluation from at least 3 or more doctors is necessary to confirm a person gender dysphoria to avoid bias. A person will also need to undergo psychological evaluation to determine his/her emotion, thinking and sexual preference. Any of these fail will not qualified the person as a transgender. In addition, a monthly blood test is required to record the consistency of hormone level of the person so that it is within the preferred range. Only when all these test have passed, the person will be granted a proper document that acknowledge his/her gender dysphoria. He/she may then take these document to perform gender reassignment surgery. And only after the surgeries, he/she can apply for identity rectification.

The problem why the society is afraid of ‘transgender’ is mainly because many are not sure the genuinity of the person dysphoria. He maybe just an imposter transgender, a straight man in disguise of women to enter woman facilities. In future, if you have encounter a man entering female washroom, you may just ask politely his letter from doctor to proof his dysphoria. If he failed, you may alarm the security then.

It is very common for a man to have fetishism towards female garment, be it dress or underwear. I have multiply encounter in Carousell when men disguise as woman to ask for dresses and underwear. It is very easy to notice their fake identity because a straight man will never be able to behave or talk or respond in a normal female way. Only female can recognise that.
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post Apr 7 2020, 03:07 AM

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QUOTE(rankalee @ Apr 7 2020, 01:18 AM)
Hmm. Yep. Thank you for your detailed response and patience. xD  laugh.gif  laugh.gif  thumbup.gif
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Being details because Im working close with the transgender community to help the society to break the bias toward them.

At the same time, please be aware that this is a serious kopitiam. You are not allow to troll here sir. Kopitiam is other side.

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post Apr 7 2020, 03:33 AM

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QUOTE(rankalee @ Apr 7 2020, 03:13 AM)
Sorry. Not trolling. smile.gif Hehe. Just wanted to make sure, honestly I've been searching and reading about it. But not many people talk about it. And most are closeted. So yeah..
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Thanks. Most of them are afraid being marginalised by the society. But based on my experience, the Chinese may tend to be more open to accept trans community, while Malay-muslim community is more restricted to their religious believe, hence the less acceptance. But sadly to say the Indian has the most bias toward trans community. Not really sure why.
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post Apr 7 2020, 08:59 PM

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QUOTE(rankalee @ Apr 7 2020, 08:03 PM)
Oh. Im not so sure about that, but religion do play its part too. Most religion don't accept it. But anyway, its quite hard to find people to talk to with this topic.  sweat.gif Most people are closed minded about these topics and would rather not talk about it. Not sure why too. But I think most races are the same. Maybe religion for Indians too. Not so sure.
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If you need more info I can always share with you. Besides races demographic. The level of education and social status also play important roles in their social acceptance. For instance, transgender who received higher education such as master and phd tend to get less rejection. In fact they are all welcome at some case. Those transgender who linger in high end society also tend to get less prejudice. In contrast, those who work as everyday labour and living in the lower income group will tend to be discriminated.
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post Apr 8 2020, 09:15 PM

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QUOTE(rankalee @ Apr 8 2020, 06:09 PM)
Sorry, I think it is okay for the moment first. Yeah, usually i think that should be the case. But at least I know now the difference about transgender and fetishism.
Oh. Im not so sure. Because mostly my friends just talk about other things, we never talk about gender differences or things like that. Haha. Most of my friends talk about cars, work, expensive drones etc. Haha... And gaming. That's all. Plus the jokes and trolls. xD
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Sure. Just sharing my knowledge. BTW if you really have either transgenderism or fetishism, go get help from psychologist. It need to be treated. For transgenderism, they will guide you the proper way for transformation; for fetishism, they will guide you to eliminate the bad habit.
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post Apr 10 2020, 02:04 PM

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QUOTE(rankalee @ Apr 10 2020, 01:19 PM)
Ah.. xD haha. Yeah.
Does it have to be done at the psychologists place or can i do it online? Honestly I'm still in between. xD And helpful links that I should check out? Thanks. smile.gif
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I’m not sure if it can be done online. But it is more efficient if you can talk to the doctor face to face. Don’t have to be shy because they are there to help you. What you can do is to go to any home clinic, tell the doctor that you have such problem and require a specialist treatment. The home doctor will then write a recommendation letter for you to refer to psychologist which he/she think is appropriate to your case.

If you have transgenderism, public hospital cannot help you much. They can only provide counselling session because transgenderism is forbidden by the Malaysian Laws. Private hospital on the other hands can help you to do mental and physical diagnosis, including blood test to evaluate your hormone level. They will then prescribe you with medication aka HRT. After 3 years of HRT, you may eligible for SRS, but it has to be done oversea. The nearest to do such SRS are Singapore and Thailand.

The best public hospital for such cases, either transgenderism or fetishism, is UMMC. If you opt for private hospital, you can go to SMC or ADMC.

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post Apr 19 2020, 01:30 AM

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QUOTE(rankalee @ Apr 10 2020, 03:17 PM)
Maybe. I know I have fetish for women clothing.

Yep, that is true.

This i am not so sure. I honestly feel neutral. lmao. but anyway, sometimes i do feel womanly and sometimes i do feel manly. xD So yeah. Hence why I said i'm more in between.
Ah. Okay then. Can't do much now with the MCO in effect. xD

I do not think I would go on that far honestly, because at this moment it just feels to be okay like that. As in closeted and in my own world. xD That's how I put it.

I will check it out soon. smile.gif

Thanks again! smile.gif
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You may check this out. I got a feeling this is similar to what you experiencing now.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/condit...vestic-disorder
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post Apr 19 2020, 01:31 AM

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QUOTE(Messiahword @ Apr 14 2020, 11:00 AM)
I have a dilemma. I just make it short. If you're the 3rd party will you interfere into your married lady boss relationship? Let say she likes you and have been WhatsApp you many times.
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First question are you male or female? Secondly, are you into lesbian?
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post Apr 20 2020, 02:24 PM

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QUOTE(rankalee @ Apr 20 2020, 11:25 AM)
Hmm. Its true, I started when I was a kid, yes, I think fetishism too, I like certain fabrics and cloths. But I dont think I suffer from  anxiety, depression, guilt. Shame maybe, because when I was young my sister caught me wearing her clothes and told my mom about it. And they caught me about once or twice after that. So since then I started to do it quietly. xD It doesnt affect my work though.  sweat.gif
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Yeah, because if you are suffering from transgenderism, you may not only love to dress like a woman, but you will also hate yourself as a man. Anyway, hope that you can go to see a doctor soon. Because when drag long it may cause other implication.
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post Apr 20 2020, 02:48 PM

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QUOTE(rankalee @ Apr 20 2020, 02:41 PM)
Yeah, but occasionally I will feel like dressing up like a woman. I dont hate myself as a man, I love myself. xD Sometimes when I look at woman I'll see the way they dress. xD And besides looking at their faces i will see how they dress. Honestly I've been like this for a very long time. About 20 years, safe to say. xD What other implication would it cause? Because recently because of this MCO, i feel more keen on dressing up. Since there's nothing to do at night.. xD And once I'm dressed up, I feel like not taking it off (sometimes).  sweat.gif
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Because seem like you are into dressing up. Any make up you like? I’m asking this because they are also some man that love to dress up in female clothing and masturbate with it. It is not a very healthy thing because prolong it will encourage them to do further like get into female washroom, peeping upskirt, etc. But since you are only desire in dressing up then I assume it is OK. You still staying with your family? How old are you BTW?
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post Dec 2 2020, 10:56 PM

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Hi all, just wondering anyone here are transgender? How do you live your life as a trans in Malaysia?

I have seen many (if not most) publication has stretched that the trans were treated badly, violently, and unfairly in almost all situation. Be it searching for legal jobs or running daily errands, they were marginalised for who they are.

But how true are these if I really seek an honest answer. I believes the society has started to slowly accept it as part of it.
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post Dec 11 2020, 01:14 AM

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Hi guys, I want to introduce a very touching Japanese small series about transgender. The title is 私が私であるために. I’ve watch it previously but cannot locate the site. Anyone can help me with this?
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post Apr 10 2021, 12:26 AM

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QUOTE(internaldisputes @ Apr 7 2021, 10:33 AM)
I second on the proper documentation part. Not sure what you mean about real medically-proven transgender though.  sweat.gif
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A real transgender need to go through a series of psychological assessment and evaluation as well as full medical check up that includes physical examination and blood test. The psychological assessment done by the professional can tells whether a person thinking and behaviour is aligned with the gender of his/her choice. The blood test is also needed to ensure that the person hormonal level is reflecting the preferred gender.

All these are very important to make sure that the person is genuinely born as a transgender, not under the environmental influence or societal pressure. It is also to prevent perverts to make advantages on the name of ‘transgender’ to cause harassment.

Those who pass the above assessment will be given an acknowledgement letter from the doctor. Only those who has the letter should be allowed to use the opposite sex facilities and to proceed with the SRS.

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