Don't be too hard on yourself. We are only humans and we make mistakes from time to time. Sometimes yes we hate ourselves for it, but it's not the end of the world.

Hey thanks for comforting. Will try to do my best.

Have you done any mistake you wish you did not?

Me? A long time ago, I left my (then) gf to be with another girl after i found out I like another girl more. Then after I already started a new relationship with that other girl, it suddenly hit me and I start wondering whether what I did was right or not, and how I am a monster for breaking my ex-gf's heart like this.

These thoughts haunted me for quite a long time. In the beginning I would even walk in circles in the living room at night, pacing, my mind always repeating the same questions and thoughts.

It took me a long time to come to terms with myself.

How was your relationship with the new girl? Still going on or what?

How did you manage to get over this? Did things go your way or you made peace with everything?

In the end I chose to stick with my decision and stay with the new girl. It simply took time to make peace with what I have done.

I suppose what you are experiencing now is your rational mind trying to process the loss and guilt you feel. This takes time. As for the mistakes you have done, don't be too hard on yourself. We are only human with our raw instinct (such as lust, desire & jealousy) and sometimes we slip & give in to our instinct instead of keeping them in check with our rational minds. It happens, we are only earthly humans.

In relationships I believe most of us like to think that we are like knights in shining armor, ready to be the best bf to our gf. With that thinking in mind, when we make mistakes we tend to crush ourselves with overwhelming guilt that we've failed our gf and that we became the very monsters that we promise never to become. But sometimes this can be unrealistic and crippling. I don't think anyone should be condemned forever if they admit and learn from their mistakes.

I think nobody gets to go thru life unscathed in this grey world. We make mistake sometimes, we hurt others sometimes, but this is a learning process to overcome our mistakes and guilt. To learn to be better and to live with our earthly flawed selves.

These are some very wise words you have there. Thank you and I appreciate you sharing your thoughts to me.

Giving into your desire can be a very scary thing. I hope I can pick myself up asap.

Either I wanna move on or get her back, I know I have to pick myself up and be better.

No problem. Just trying to provide another perspective. Just don't be too hard on yourself, this takes time to process and overcome. Hang in there Bro

I would like to suggest you to google "David Goggins" for a start, learn about his life and how he overcame all the adversities. Do some self-reflection and set goals (micro, short-term and long-term)

At the end of the day, we make the decision to continue being sad and empty or to just go out there and reach out for something.

Stay hard bro and good luck

TS, one question.

What do you really want, right now?

Thank you bro. I will try and learn through this pain.

He's such a badass so tough.

Thanks! I will learn to pick myself up soon.

Another chance in this relationship.

You mean with your GF, right? Have you tried.... writing a letter to her? Some women still see this as to show sincerity...

As in handwritten letter? Nope. You think I should? But if I give, how do I get any reply from her?

This post has been edited by prelude23: Nov 7 2019, 02:27 PM

Well, life hasn't been kind to me either, tried a lot of things, most of them considered a failure now at this point, want to make a change for the better, now ended up digging a deeper hole for myself. Lol

Problem I am having now is I'm too unmotivated to do anything. What I knows, my ideas, required a lot of money to make it work, else it will be a waste of time and no point in trying.

whatever happen dun overthink.

Wanna tell me your story? Though I'm not in a good shape myself, I hope you are doing better.

Hard not to think about things you done bro

It could be working.
The letter should be short, consist of you want to be with her and feel whole when you're together.

"I will be waiting for your call, take all the time you need." Give the girl some time to reflect and feel for you.

https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comment...ed_to_share_it/

You are Mr Simon?