opps I remembered why I placed you into my ignored list already. in you go. back into the ignored list little two inch troll.

Since both of you agreed on kids subject.
Then get marry lo.
Why wait...
You also prepare the diamond customize ring already.
Just do it...

that's the plan. one more year of savings to get married it's the point that they see I'm not doing anything for my future that hurts.

Like I said, just an immature mommy's boy indulging in pettiness.

Get lost from this man's world. Obviously from the way you treat women, you don't deserve to be called a man.

and its off to ignored list for you kiddo. if you got no input for the conversation just stfu and go back to kopitiam. they need more sad freaks like you there.

ciao mostro

dont do wedding ceremony. dont ever borrow money to punch face as if fat.

just go straight to honeymoon in langkawi

Why don't u choose a 18yo girlfriend instead of a 31yo girlfriend? When you are in long term relationship, I expect this kind of shit happens. Don't worry, there re more shits waiting for u.

that's our plan but not in langkawi. that's for sure. it's just that I don't want to marry at this age

can't choose love when Aphrodite decides to work her magic. not gonna hurt someone just because I am not able to stand the heat. just upset that they decided to say that when I'm already saving every penny for the future.

Not a troll, but calling you a fraud, because that's what you are.

Don't get married if you're not mentally and emotionally ready. Don't do it "for her". You're going to resent her and her family if that is your motivation.

If you have to break up and let her find someone who is ready, sit down and explain the situation to her. It's going to hurt both ppl but better than being given ultimatums and forced into a more permanent life situation you don't want to be in.

Also, is there a need to be rude? I'm talking to everyone posting in this thread.

Hey brother, her parents is just worried because of their daughter's age. Thats all.

Good that you are doing preparation, regardless, if she understands your plan, thats all that matters. You can talk your plan with her plans to keep everyone on the same page. If you need one more year of time, just let them know.

1 year after all isn't that long anyways. Cheerios.

that's the plan

why not just communicate to her and the parents

man and woman doesn't think alike

they need assurance, we are more pragmatic

show them your plan

even if you want to come up with a surprise, still, tell her your plan vaguely

let her know both of you are not heading to no where

don't expect people to know you have a plan when you aren't showing any sign of it

anyway, good luck bro

whatever it is, all your reasons, etc... just talk and discuss with her. The frustration comes from not having the proper conversation, I believe. And talking ain't easy. But I guess you already know. But you have to face it. Talk, talk and talk... you're all grown up now. Fighting is like for kids. Set your mind up to it, discuss sincerely from the heart and therefore nobody needs to guess what's the other person is thinking about.

31 years punya galfren..dia memang patut sudah kawen..kalo 21 years old lain cerita laa..

IF BOTH of you do NOT intend to have kids, WHY need to marry? THINK about it.

NO good reason(s) right?


IF you get married and should you divorce she gets HALF of your assets that you own during the marriage! NOT to mention keeping that custom-made blue diamond ring.


(THIS IS CRUEL BUT...) IF not married, you can just go get a newer 21-year-old model 2-3 years down the road – clean and easy.

Oooohhh.....the self-centered doctor dispensing advice for free with no takers....grow up first before you come back to LYN to discuss your butthurt feelings should your girlfriend's parents ever scold you again.

Afterall, young arrogant ones need to be put in their place every now and again.

Bro,

I understand your pain, my 2 points.

1. Plan your on your own way, if your gf cannot wait then sayonara bcos you both are not aiming to get a child so as long you already decided to be with her then her bio clock is not an issue d. Marriage is just a legal term.

2. If i were in your shoes, i would seriously consider whether want to continue with the marriage with your gf since she do not support or understand you. From your story, she needs you more than you need her so she should be more understanding and support in her own way like telling her parents that you have everything plan so chill and not telling ' Hey, my parents say this d, how ? Sometimes, the girl's parents is pressure by their relatives and frens therefore stating the those to manipulate you into marriage. Must see everything overall.

Furthermore, is your gf only child ? got other siblings ? all this must be taken to account. If your gf does not understand the current market situation and reckon you need to do fancy wedding and pay for everything then sooner or later GG.

I have a fren paid 35k wedding dowry and that is excluded from the wedding expenses which he need to fork out. Ok, he is well to do, earning good money so no problem. Married for 2 years, family problems comes. Siblings problems, family dinners, events whereby they all looking at my fren to foot the bill, why ? bcos he is able and already family. Tell the wife and the wife turn on him saying you don't love me anymore, small money wanna kira and all that crap. At the end divorce and have bitter battle for the kids.

Seriously ? thats your feedback. The way you say shows you are the one immature. I feel you not yet ( Akil Baligh )

Agreed with above suggestion..

If you are ready to spend half a century++ with your gf, then she is the one..

Im not sure your gf is a big spender or earning less than enough or trying to afford luxury with limited resources, ZERO saving is something serious..

Nowadays, quite a number of ppl will ROM first then in coming 1-3years then only they have their wedding ceremony. Some just have a simple wedding ceremony and straight go to wedding vacation, skipping all the yam sing or boring session.

Some newly weds even say, just choose the inexpensive bridal photoshoot package coz the albums will just end up in the wardrobe or store room for most of the time..

It is your call !

Call ur gf n her parent up, discuss it with them, let them know ur plan. Unless you have gave up on her and her family..

R she the one for you?

i think better you dump her coz you cannot afford.

people already in their 30s. you know la for female the older they get the lesser value they are. don't waste ppl time. and also dont date girls who are older than you if you cannot afford