i think better you dump her coz you cannot afford.

people already in their 30s. you know la for female the older they get the lesser value they are. don't waste ppl time. and also dont date girls who are older than you if you cannot afford

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Ts shld not waste her time if ts dun want to marry her.

Ts has to be reasonable...ts want to wait until 32 yo to marry her? By then she is 35 yo...wat guarantee she has to stay loyal to ts?  I know a guy whose gf stayed with him until she 36yo then he dumped her for younger girl. All ger heart ache to stay loyal for nothing.

Bro,

I understand your pain, my 2 points.

1. Plan your on your own way, if your gf cannot wait then sayonara bcos you both are not aiming to get a child so as long you already decided to be with her then her bio clock is not an issue d. Marriage is just a legal term.

2. If i were in your shoes, i would seriously consider whether want to continue with the marriage with your gf since she do not support or understand you. From your story, she needs you more than you need her so she should be more understanding and support in her own way like telling her parents that you have everything plan so chill and not telling ' Hey, my parents say this d, how ? Sometimes, the girl's parents is pressure by their relatives and frens therefore stating the those to manipulate you into marriage. Must see everything overall.

Furthermore, is your gf only child ? got other siblings ? all this must be taken to account. If your gf does not understand the current market situation and reckon you need to do fancy wedding and pay for everything then sooner or later GG.

I have a fren paid 35k wedding dowry and that is excluded from the wedding expenses which he need to fork out. Ok, he is well to do, earning good money so no problem. Married for 2 years, family problems comes. Siblings problems, family dinners, events whereby they all looking at my fren to foot the bill, why ? bcos he is able and already family. Tell the wife and the wife turn on him saying you don't love me anymore, small money wanna kira and all that crap. At the end divorce and have bitter battle for the kids.

Good morning. I do want to marry her but if you read my post right it's the act of saying I'm not doing anything to plan for the future when I'm already doing all the things I can to make it happen that is the crux of the problem.

Good morning. I do want to marry her but if you read my post right it's the act of saying I'm not doing anything to plan for the future when I'm already doing all the things I can to make it happen that is the crux of the problem.

you better leave her alone...you own a house does not mean you plan a future for a family life..you buy a house seriously just for your future..some couple marry even without owning a house mean they no plan for future?...

From all your replies, I can only see you're angry and hurt cuz your ego has been challenged "for not planning".

Communication is the key for every successful relationship. If you're already planning then why not discuss with her to see if she agrees to wait another year? By then she'd be 32 already... u must know the agreement for not having kids are only a decision between you two and maybe her parents have no idea about this thus they are pushing you guys into marriage thinking about fertility rate. In this part you have to understand her, she is being sandwiched between her parents and you .... as her man though ur frustrated being viewed as not capable or not serious, you have to put it aside and concentrate on how to reach an agreement..... don't harp on problems but find a solution...

I don't want to make my own family cram themselves to live with her in laws. it makes for a disastrous concoction when arguments arises.

Anyways guys i value your thoughts and thank you for your time. looks like I need to have another conversation with her again regarding this. seriously this is like the third conversation we had and no idea why they wanna rush. what am I gonna feed my guest? sand?

Don't rush into marriage. Enough said. Plan for the future. One with with her, one without her. Find a middle point just in case she leaves.

I don't want to make my own family cram themselves to live with her in laws. it makes for a disastrous concoction when arguments arises.

Anyways guys i value your thoughts and thank you for your time. looks like I need to have another conversation with her again regarding this. seriously this is like the third conversation we had and no idea why they wanna rush. what am I gonna feed my guest? sand?

Seriously in what age now a days people think that marrying young is good. I am just 28 years old and my girlfriend is 31 years old and we been only together for two years. I went to her house just now and my girlfriend told me her parents are saying why does it seem like he isn't planning for the future? we both had a huge argument and I drove off without saying good bye and she slammed the door.

what the fuck? with this shit economy its been years since I took a long vacation to go for travel from my clinic, I hardly go out these days and everything I can save I try to save. sometimes I need to think twice buying pizza for myself as I need to save up for my future.  i have a fucking house ready and yet to them it seems like I am not seriously growing up.

who here is getting the same shit? sorry for the rude words. I'm just so angry.

ask her to save money too. see how much she can save for your future.

btw, how much you have save now?

Total savings is near 60k since I started four years ago. all of that now is in my unit trust portfolio.

would you suggest  using  your life savings to spend on a wedding? I don't want to burden my divorced parents esp my dad.

Total savings is near 60k since I started four years ago. all of that now is in my unit trust portfolio.

would you suggest  using  your life savings to spend on a wedding? I don't want to burden my divorced parents esp my dad.