sama like my story lah ... this part **I went to her house just now and my girlfriend told me her parents are saying why does it seem like he isn't planning for the future?**

bro, you have to think on her side, a 31 yrs old girl parent normally will rush? no?

You doctor man.. Some more own a clinic... Sure lots of money..
If you say no good business... Then tutup clinic lo.
I am sure you can afford to get marry.

women or rather, girls, are insecure by nature.

they do not know that we men have our own planning ahead nor will they try to see what their men are trying to do for their future.

to them, if you don't do what they want now, it means you have no planning.

well to be fair to her, her biological clock is already ticking hard so it is no wonder that she's insecure.

but marriage shouldn't be rushed.

i am not sure why women think of marriages as a safe haven for them because divorces can always happen.

she should put some faith in you. sadly, she doesn't and that goes to show you guys are not prepared for marriage yet

then dump her.
End of story.
If you want to help... Help willingly and not complaining.
Don't tell me it take 2 years to realise when she push you for marriage.

To her.. You a doctor and waterfish who can help her when she in need. I am sure she pay her dues to you in her own way.

If you still insist on keeping your house in order... Then don't get girlfriend lo..
Remember she is 31....and not young anymore. As she approach  40....it will be hard for biological clock.

You a doctor and I am sure you understand women.. Right???  No??

It seems like you have all the answers to your own question. You are still angry thus it's clear you aren't accepting any criticisms when your mind is clouded. You are not ready for marriage and also condemn her for not saving money. Critical of the costs of raising kids and maintaining a family, so much so you cry it's going to hold you back from expanding your clinic business. Complain 2 years is still not enough to get to know her better. Will 5 years be long enough for a doctor you? That means you keep her waiting till she's 36 to get married and have babies two years later at 38.

See the problem here? It's YOU. Not her, and certainly not her parents for doubting your preparedness. You are just a self-centered doctor who is in this relationship for yourself. Everything has to revolve around you.

Oh, so showing off your fingers absolve you off everything that you have just brought up? And automatically it's back to her and her parents' fault?

Is this a game to you? If you love her, then stop talking bullshit here and man up.

Dude u're in ur 2x while she's in her 3x. Her parents got every rights to get worried. If u can't afford her, let her go. She probably can find a richer man. People always say females in 3x are at their downturn years. U dragging her like this is unfair. Break up if u can't afford it. Don't act all macho just because u have a house. U're not guaranteeing her future. Remember, until u both gets married; ur hse is ur hse.

"Clinic"?

Her parents obviously don't think that much of your "clinic".

Since both of you agreed on kids subject.
Then get marry lo.
Why wait...
You also prepare the diamond customize ring already.
Just do it...

Like I said, just an immature mommy's boy indulging in pettiness.

Get lost from this man's world. Obviously from the way you treat women, you don't deserve to be called a man.

dont do wedding ceremony. dont ever borrow money to punch face as if fat.

just go straight to honeymoon in langkawi

Why don't u choose a 18yo girlfriend instead of a 31yo girlfriend? When you are in long term relationship, I expect this kind of shit happens. Don't worry, there re more shits waiting for u.

+1

Ts shld not waste her time if ts dun want to marry her.

Ts has to be reasonable...ts want to wait until 32 yo to marry her? By then she is 35 yo...wat guarantee she has to stay loyal to ts?  I know a guy whose gf stayed with him until she 36yo then he dumped her for younger girl. All ger heart ache to stay loyal for nothing.

you better leave her alone...you own a house does not mean you plan a future for a family life..you buy a house seriously just for your future..some couple marry even without owning a house mean they no plan for future?...

From all your replies, I can only see you're angry and hurt cuz your ego has been challenged "for not planning".

Communication is the key for every successful relationship. If you're already planning then why not discuss with her to see if she agrees to wait another year? By then she'd be 32 already... u must know the agreement for not having kids are only a decision between you two and maybe her parents have no idea about this thus they are pushing you guys into marriage thinking about fertility rate. In this part you have to understand her, she is being sandwiched between her parents and you .... as her man though ur frustrated being viewed as not capable or not serious, you have to put it aside and concentrate on how to reach an agreement..... don't harp on problems but find a solution...

ask her to save money too. see how much she can save for your future.

btw, how much you have save now?

So u are gonna dish out all the wedding expenditure urself?

I know of a girl, her family pressure the bf to marry her after 3 years. less than one month, the guy cheated on her and said he was forced to marry her. said her family very money minded (which is true because we are in the same high school group and she used to invite me to her house) and he wanted a divorce as soon as she finds out he cheats.

generally, she's the type of girl very miang those type..don't know how to save money.. any rich guys also can. so I usually only agree to let her tag along when I need some characters like that in gatherings..

in uni days, she cheated on her only bf (that she looked for herself from her circle of lala friends). while all the rest of her bfs are from my different circle of friends that broke up with her.

she's the type of girl that as soon as she got a bf, she'll just go mia. (but I don't need her anyway)

although she doesn't have the face, she has the height. With fake eye lashes all those heavy make up girls. she's a branded freak so thats ok haha

anyway I despise guys that any girl also can those type of guys anywhere also got.

ts, is your gf's family like the girl in my write up above?

Think of it this way, if you were to break up with her, thats 2 years of her life down the drain.