well,when i see a guy which i like.. i will feel shy la.. my heart start to bee very fast.. face also turn pink colour..

no matter who makes the 1st move there's always a chance to fail and a chance to succeed... u juz gotta take the risk if u really want it... tat's the 1st rule in business... correct me if i'm wrong... not a business student nor businessman...

wah... will u be like tat if u see something else u like leh...? juz treat those guys like the things u like lar... like ur favourite pillow... or something else u have in mind...

i've never approached a guy i like.. but i have approached gurl i like many times already...

aiyoh? u want guys to be treated like things?

i hope u dont treat girls like things oso!!!

A girl once approached me....

I dont know her well...i know she is my schoolmate...her class is next to mine.

She asked a fren to arrange for us to meet.

I met her.

She told me she really likes me.
Wants me to be her bf.
She said she isnt forcing me, im free to make my choice.

I said sorry. I dont think thats possible.
Looking back at it....
I wish i wasnt so cruel and said NO right there.
I shud have taken time to consider...i mean longer time, eventhough i already decided not to be with her, i shud give her time.
After that meeting, i always runaway if she is around or we were walking on the same corridor, i would turn away...I avoid her..Why?
Coz I feel so embarassed.

And for girls...
Dont just tell that guy suddenly if u like him...eventhough ur so damn hot.
Get to know him as frens 1st. He might be not that great when u get to know him.
Anyways, it is better to be more intimate after u get to know someone better.
My case? Im ok if she wanted to be frens...but coz she suddenly said she likes me and wanna be my gf...i was shocked. And like i said...i tried to be frens with her...but cant coz i was so embarassed after that.

Lastly....
To that girl that pour her heart out to me, and all the gurls out there who tell the man they like their feelings, I salute u all.
Seriously, i know it wasnt easy for u guys to do it.
It takes more than just courage.Esp when u are a girl.

I respect u all.
And oso to that particular girl, im sorry if i hurt u by saying NO that time...and avoided seeing u after that. I didnt mean it.

This post has been edited by quiksilver: Oct 12 2006, 03:31 PM

i've been there... relax n take a deep breath...
when u two meet, look into his eyes n smile... say "hi"...
then u'll feel great after that...
who knows, it'll leave an impression...

u're right... chasing someone is like doing business...
just that it doesn't involved transaction...
no pain no gain...
besides u dun wanna regret the rest of ur life thinking y, y, y...

during schooldays, that's how i do it but not that directly...
thru letters n gossips...
i know guys will shy away but i felt i'll regret it if i din try...
like i said, take a deep breath, smile n "hi"
then i feel great...

err, how bout u smile to him then wave back to him if he waved to u when he see u from far......mayb 10-15m

When I was in school, one girl asked me to tutor her. After I'd been tutoring her for a while she said she liked me, but the feeling wasn't mutual, so I said so. I was pretty blunt back then. Probably because of being young.

It seems that I was blunt only when caught by surprise, during schooldays. When I was in uni, one girl was persistent and to this day I regret that I gave in and became her bf. It didn't work out, because it wasn't balanced as far as the love went. I only liked her a lot, anyway.

Yes, it took me a while, but by the time I was working, I'd learnt to say "I'm flattered, but I'm not ready for a relationship right now." And "No, I don't know when I'll be ready." After all, no one truly can, can they?

I hope this helps.

Don't be too concerned about the responses by guys from KL. The guys from KL are usually too young to have learnt to be gentle on a girl's heart.

err... sometimes from far away, sometimes in the school corridor...

i just have to "act" natural... hehehe...

i respect those girls who have the courage to confess to a guy first. although i don't see any cons on that, i still wouldn't confess to a guy first if i like him.. haha ego you might say..maybe and maybe not.

anyway i'm happy now

How bout those vry sociable girls??
How do they react to guyz they like??

Kinda hard to notice it, right??

i'm really reallyyy scared to approach the guy i like...i got cold sweat once i get near him...haha

1. i dont dare!!!
2. if we're really really close to each other and found out that he likes me too,hmm i'll confess..but of cos,hope for him to take the 1st move
3.ALWAYS

1. do you dare to approach the guy that u like?
I've nvr done that before bt if jz to b friends i think i'm fine wt it...

2. will you tell him that u like him and want to be friend with him? how? pls share and give me some ideas...
Haha, i've nvr try this either, sorry cant giv u any tips on tis...n i will nvr try it out...^^

3. do you ever think that you are not suitable for the guy? i mean u look down on yourself, think that the guy is so great that you are not the right one for him...
Nope i would never think of myself tat way...i'm sure i hav certain qualities that will someday makes me special to someone...i mean if u r nt confident about urself, hw do u expect guys ard u to b attracted to u...like some of my guy fwens say, they r more attracted to girls who r confidence n sure about themselves...of course each of us hav our own weaknesses bt let us all try to make it up by presentin ourselves as a more positive person who is owiz on the go n tryin to improve to b better...n finally if u r so insecure n feel so small n so darn uncomfortable ard tat guy well then i dun think it's a good choice either...i'd prefer to b ard someone who i'm comfortable wt...^^

haiya... love can start from friendship...
haiya... no need tips 1 lar... u will naturally treat him nicer n nicer then depend on ur luck whether he realise it...
my gf was like tat... hope she doesn't think tat way anymore... cuz i don think i'm any greater than any1...

This post has been edited by t3chn0m4nc3r: Oct 17 2006, 12:09 PM

wat u means by the phrases 'The guys from KL are usually too young to have learnt to be gentle on a girl's heart'......is that mean tat kl guys r very rude n not gentleman at all??u think u very gentleman?? zzzzz.....u wanna make a good impression on urself by saying how gentleman u r than us kl ppl???
feel lik wanna vomit......

yar lor... i agree... u can't judge ppl base on the ppl u know... we have to judge from a bigger point of view... n not all KL folks originate from KL rite...?

wah, then you got to eat fish oil to protect yourself from getting heart attack one day... and a tomato face...very obvious already, unless you put up a thick make up

LMAO, cool down my friend. There is no reason to get upset.