When I was in school, one girl asked me to tutor her. After I'd been tutoring her for a while she said she liked me, but the feeling wasn't mutual, so I said so. I was pretty blunt back then. Probably because of being young.

It seems that I was blunt only when caught by surprise, during schooldays. When I was in uni, one girl was persistent and to this day I regret that I gave in and became her bf. It didn't work out, because it wasn't balanced as far as the love went. I only liked her a lot, anyway.

Yes, it took me a while, but by the time I was working, I'd learnt to say "I'm flattered, but I'm not ready for a relationship right now." And "No, I don't know when I'll be ready." After all, no one truly can, can they?

I hope this helps.

Don't be too concerned about the responses by guys from KL. The guys from KL are usually too young to have learnt to be gentle on a girl's heart.

Well I wasn't talking about you in particular, but if you want, you can join that group. Like kianwee said, why so upset? I didn't single you out, did I?

Well, you two might just take note that I didn't say "ALL the guys from KL..." I'm much older than the two of you (you sound very young indeed,) and I have to say thats why I don't have a very good opinion of you touchy youngsters in KL.

Think a lot of yourself, do you? I know I don't. Otherwise I'd not have told you people about the first girl, would I?

And what about listening to the older generation when they give advice based on experience? Or do you two think you're wise enough to ignore it?

My grandmother used to say, like the blind leading the blind. Don't just listen to people you agree with, keep an open mind to those you don't.

Anyway, you people do what you like. After all, you can lead a horse to the water, but you can't make him drink.