have you tried calling her? i understand that it feels so bad to feel worried about someone so far away and yet we couldnt reach them. give her some time. but after you've manage to get hold of her, tell her how much you are worried about her and maybe discuss it over, as in tell her to sms you at least once a day even how busy she is because you are very worried about her.

Sometimes,when he/she doesnt want or do not have the heart to do something,it's just useless to ask him/she to do it.As in messaging/emailing or calls..

ya lor... hahha no heart do what also fake ... any ways... i guess cuz she not yet settle down..(hope so thats the reason).. btw guys/gurls you all got any method to save money to call UK land live?? as in what brand of call card is the best or cheapest?? skype phone good idea??

yeah... all in all, depends on that person themselves.

yeah, maybe she really hasnt settle down. or she dont have line there or it could be some certain reasons. i'm not quite sure about the call card but i think if she calls you, it will be very much cheaper that you call her.

Guys, I'm resigning from LDR Fellowship not because she's coming back or I'm going over but this morning, she just asked for a breakup. Reason - she fell in love with her course mate. There's nothing else I could do but to back off.

YukioDream: Monday, 29 April 2002 > Thursday, 14 September 2006 = 1600 days .. 4 years, 4 months, 17 days. (YukioDream is a mixed name from our nicknames & that's what we called our relationship)

I, as a guy, admit that I cried badly just now. I went back home early from the uni because I needed some space. That's when I thought of what she said. The phrase.. "I fall in love with someone" kept on repeating in my mind. Hopefully I'll get over soon, yea soon....

This post has been edited by jdreamer: Sep 14 2006, 03:53 PM

The reason is the one which hurt the most, just like adding salt to your wound. Anyway, all the best to you and move on as soon as you could

i feel sad reading what you posted. i feel your pain. hey, you still have us supporting you here. i hope that you will recover soon. it's ok if you wanna cry. crying is a way to show that we are in pain. there is no such a rule which says that guys cannot cry. if you feel better after cry, by all mean, just do it. take care and you have my support. if you need someone to talk to, you can find me

I'm really hurted, badly. After crying, I still felt so sad. My heart as if it's locked with all the sorrow. I dont know how to explain the feeling but then, live still goes on. I need to move on. I wish u guys best of luck and may God be with u all, all the time.

Thanks for all these times that u guys supported me. Thanks, really. I appreciate u guys a lot.

i totally understand how you feel. the feel of a sudden unexpected break up. the hurt and the pain. i know how it is. hey, dont force yourself to be strong now. give yourself some rest. just be yourself. do whatever you wanna do that would make you feel better. cry, sleep, or whatever. just dont hurt yourself and dont hurt others. find your friends. they are who you need now. wish you all the best.

I tried not to think about her. But my mind is keep repeating those few sentences.

"I fall for someone"...."I dont have any feeling on u anymore"...."I want to break up"...............

It hurts u know... especially when she talked about that guy. She told me that he's a good guy, nice to everyone. But anyway, that guy hasnt knows that she likes him.....

I feel like doing everything in a very numb way. It's like my body is doing something, while my heart feels so empty. But then, it's very heavy, like locked with lots of things inside. Sigh...

i'm sorry to hear that man.
everyday, we are actually living on the edge. looking at another falling relationship. Where LDR only count on words and voices... it's getting harder each day. We try hard to get it going but ended that what we have been trying is fall back to ZERO again.

I did tell myself, if she fall for another man, i guess i know why. Simply becos she needed someone who can be there for her. Love aint everything in the end...

Yea, she said that she's tired of the distance. Probably thats why. And I know that Im not good enough for her. I was a lousy bf and I regreted that I didnt treat her the fullest when she was still my gf. But then, it's too late now. Nothing else I could do. All I can do for now is .. move on and wish her the best.

Im sorry to hear that,jdreamer.really do.Try coping up with your daily life and keep on posting here to share everything inside k.I definitely know how much you're going through now but I mysely do not know how to take this if i was in your place now.
Anyway,you take more rest for the day and try to start the day after this like a brand new day.

Best wishes.Move on k.

This post has been edited by max_cjs0101: Sep 15 2006, 01:24 AM

I tried so hard to forget her. But I realised that I cant. Everything that I do, or even the words from the others keep reminding me of her. How can she forget about the 1,600 days so fast while I cant ? I'm really suffering. I tried to be strong, and act like Im okie in front of my friends.. but I realised that, once I got into my room.. I felt so lonely and Im really sad.... I really miss her and love her so much......

This morning, the first thing I did was to check my hp to see whether she sends any morning sms to me or not which she used to. And I realised that she's not there anymore.......

I realised that.. I loved her, too much, even more than myself.

Come on. You have to cheer up yourself. The most important task now is to carry on with your life. You need to get used to yourself with this kind of situation. Try not to think so much, mix around, and have fun around. My best suggest is mix more around in churches activities(since you are christian, right?) You will find you will less missing/thinking about her.

All the best to you

God Bless

Seriously, I did tried. I tried my best not to think about it, but the more I avoid, the more the memory haunts me. And my tears..... they just keep flowing out....... Im really weak and I felt that I cant get over it just by a day. Its really painful.......

How can she forget a 4 years relationship just like that ... while I cant.........

I know the deep deep cut in your heart, I could feel that too. What else can you do? All you need is forget about the past, look forward and carry on.

Just cry it out if you are sad. That's the best solution to make you comfortable. Much more comfortable than not crying.

Why she can't? Is because she don't appreciate/value this relationship. Of course everyone won't easy forget such a long period of relationship, I am sure she won't forget what you guys done for 4 years easily too.

But over is over and you can't do much. Maybe she is just want to try something 'fresh' which is inmature. If she think that you are more suitable or more understand her the most, she will come back to you.

Pray to God more often to ask for guidance.

This post has been edited by Joshua_0718: Sep 15 2006, 08:55 AM

i know this kind of feeling. it's very familiar to me. i had it 3 years ago. my advice is to endulge in loving yourself and pampering yourself more. you have been loving and pampering her for 4 years liao, now is the time for you to pamper yourself.

do the things that you like to do. as for me last time, i went for lots and lots of shopping spree. i bought things that i like and want and pamper myself. i went for vacation and i refurnish and change the furniture arrangement in my room.

my advice is, do whatever things that will make you feel better. PAMPER yourself is the key. i wish you all the best, yeah.

p/s: i myself is not in a good condition with my bf now. in the verge of breaking up

Dear ello,

If possible, pay her a surprise visit to her place. Sometimes you should be considerate cause busy this kind of situation is hard to control and I believe that your gf also dont wish to be so busy and some sort of neglecting you. Just try not to think any stupid thinking and trust in her. Wish you all the best.

Dear jdreamer,
I was so surprised when you told us about your break up. Actually you dont need to force yourself not to think or reflash good memories between both of you last time as a 4-year relationship could not be so easily forgotten just like that.

No need to avoid them, be relax and calm. Try your best to think in different point of view: Be grateful and treasured as both of you could spend the 4-years happy moments together. Try to do some activities that you enjoy so much but might have neglected them during your coupleship. Mingle around with your friends, try to involve in more group activities.

Try to plan activities for every day so that you wont have any free time to be sad. Honestly, it's kind of useless to keep on thinking the reason she could forget easily a 4-year relationship as it wont turn back the time. As I have said before, not everyone are suitable for long distance relationship. A LDR could only work if BOTH committed to the relationship and BOTH are willing to sacrifice to make the relationship works. Do you realise that I mentioned the word BOTH for both of the ways?

Try not to always remind yourself how she could be so cruel to you or why she could fall in love for someone else. Hope that my advices could help you a bit.