hello guys~! Reporting in

Just two days didnt log in, my previous thread already more than 3k posts Anyway, I wish to appreciate devince83 for opening the LDR V2. All merits belong to you, haha!

Anyway, sorry guys for so late to drop in here cause as what I have told all of you, I have taken 2 days leave from office to accompany my penang friend to stroll around Sabah.

So tired!!! Yesterday I just went to the Mt Kinabalu resort as well as Poring Hot Spring resort. We went to canopy walk for almost 1 hour (like half dead fish already ). Then we went to Mt Kinabalu Resort for jungle walk for almost 1 hour. Never in my life I have done so many "exercises" in one day.

Now I just come back to office. So many works waiting for me to complete but my whole body feels so numb. I feel sooooo tired. I am going to die soon Anyway, I am really happy to see all of you still leaving posts here. The previous thread, I should close it is it? Then it will lost from the Cupid thread from now onwards is it?

=.=" hey, the V1, should I close it?

Good morning everyone. How's everybody?
Why not all can maintain LDR?
It's because not all have the ability to: -
1) Face all the obstacles of LDR / Persistent
2) Bear the "miss" to their loved ones / Loneliness
5) Have enough trust towards their loved ones / Loyalty

hello everyone~! How's all of you? Recently I was very busy preparing a "special" present for my bf for our 100 days anniversary (he didnt aware of it, wish to give him a surprise). Though it might take some time for me to complete everything but I think it's worth it. Really hope that he will appreciate the gifts. Take care everyone ya!

Dear areankim,
Such a long time didnt see you post up anything here. So sweet your gal gal! You should be extremely happy on that day since she is willing to attend your convo. Try your best to make it to her convo cause I believe your presence will be the best convo present for her. Just have faith in your heart and sooner or later, your relationship will sure turn to SDR. Good luck!

Afternoon all! sorry for miss in action. very extremely busy with work recently. for my relationship, so far so good. he just bought me a novel and my favourite cartoon cd. haha! anyway, i was still thinking hard what to prepare for his surprise. the date is coming soon. i really scared i cant make it. must not be lazy anymore. anyway, have nice and blessful relationships ya!

hello guys!

Does anyone miss me? I know I know, all of you sure miss me till dead

Sorry for lost in action for such a looooooooooong time but i am glad that all of you still will drop some message in this thread.

At last, I successfully giving him the "surprise" that I have planned for such a long time for our 100 days anniversary. He was pretty happy to receive them and it caused all of my efforts paid off!

Anyway, just a brief details of the surprise I gave him:-

1) A t-shirt which I think he will look nice wearing it

2) A bottle containing a secret message (100 reasons why I love him <= I think of this for few days )

3) A souvenir that I bought during my vacation with my friend (to prove that I still think of him even I am enjoying with my friends)

4) A cd with 100 meaningful love songs (I even made the cd cover by myself to make it unique which only both of us having it) <= This really gave me a headache as I needed to search for 100 love songs that didnt have any negative meanings and not the type of songs which guys are singing for their gfs

5) A decoration (a guy which was awarded as the best and No. 1 in the world) <= To resemble him as the best bf in the world

I know the above might sound silly to some of you here but I think all of the gifts have special meanings in it and I am really glad that he appreciates them.

You can refer to the above for some suggestions or you can also refer to http://www.lovingyou.com for more ideas. They have stated lots of nice ideas for maintaining LDR relationship. Hope that it would help!

Afternoon guys! How are all my friends here? I just have one word to describe my life recently "BUSY". That's why seldom post anything here. Really sorry ya. Anyway, hope to see all of you happy with your loved ones!

I have logged in here to have a look everyday. Just that I didnt leave any post only. Miyoko, you are such a great advisor. I can put my 100% trust in you. Haha. Anyway, for those LDR couples, I understand the feeling of miss in your heart but dont let that to weaken your love for your loved one ok? We must strive hard together ok?

Dear miyoko,

You can go buy those nutrious food such as ginseng, bird nest or just the chicken essence for him. Besides that, you could also buy those food/drinks/snacks that he enjoys a lot and store them in the refrigerator when he didnt notice it. He will sure feel surprised or happy when he sees that. You could also buy those medicine that he might need such as flu, cough, headache, fever etc. for emergency use. These actions can show that you really care for him. Anyway, just my advice ya!

Dear ello,

If possible, pay her a surprise visit to her place. Sometimes you should be considerate cause busy this kind of situation is hard to control and I believe that your gf also dont wish to be so busy and some sort of neglecting you. Just try not to think any stupid thinking and trust in her. Wish you all the best.

Dear jdreamer,
I was so surprised when you told us about your break up. Actually you dont need to force yourself not to think or reflash good memories between both of you last time as a 4-year relationship could not be so easily forgotten just like that.

No need to avoid them, be relax and calm. Try your best to think in different point of view: Be grateful and treasured as both of you could spend the 4-years happy moments together. Try to do some activities that you enjoy so much but might have neglected them during your coupleship. Mingle around with your friends, try to involve in more group activities.

Try to plan activities for every day so that you wont have any free time to be sad. Honestly, it's kind of useless to keep on thinking the reason she could forget easily a 4-year relationship as it wont turn back the time. As I have said before, not everyone are suitable for long distance relationship. A LDR could only work if BOTH committed to the relationship and BOTH are willing to sacrifice to make the relationship works. Do you realise that I mentioned the word BOTH for both of the ways?

Try not to always remind yourself how she could be so cruel to you or why she could fall in love for someone else. Hope that my advices could help you a bit.

Dear miyoko,
Huh? What happened? Why so suddenly? I think you still can do something before it's too late right? Try to talk things out and communication is the BEST solution for your situation now. Try not to think or accuse whose wrong as this is not the right moment to do that. I believe if both of you treasure the relationship, both of you could find out ways to solve the current situation and wont so easily say the words "Break up" as breakup is not the solution but is the beginning of a sad story. Hope that both of you are ok soon.

Dear jdreamer,
I was so surprised when you told us about your break up. Actually you dont need to force yourself not to think or reflash good memories between both of you last time as a 4-year relationship could not be so easily forgotten just like that.

No need to avoid them, be relax and calm. Try your best to think in different point of view: Be grateful and treasured as both of you could spend the 4-years happy moments together. Try to do some activities that you enjoy so much but might have neglected them during your coupleship. Mingle around with your friends, try to involve in more group activities.

Try to plan activities for every day so that you wont have any free time to be sad. Honestly, it's kind of useless to keep on thinking the reason she could forget easily a 4-year relationship as it wont turn back the time. As I have said before, not everyone are suitable for long distance relationship. A LDR could only work if BOTH committed to the relationship and BOTH are willing to sacrifice to make the relationship works. Do you realise that I mentioned the word BOTH for both of the ways?

Try not to always remind yourself how she could be so cruel to you or why she could fall in love for someone else. Hope that my advices could help you a bit.

Dear Miyoko,
Just ask yourself, do you satisfy with this result? Do you happy with your action? Do you feel happier and less stressed? If all the answers are yes, then that's mean you are doing the right thing. No matter what, the most important thing is you feel happy and comfortable in everything that you do. I will support whatever your decision ok.

Hello~How are everyone? Jdreamer? Northasian? Miyoko? Skysherly?

brewoe_1988,

You could buy those cute cute toys, jewellery, memorable stuffs like personalised keychain....

Opps suiteng, i didnt forget about you. Just too many people in the list, so kinda "miss" one name. Sorry sorry!

Memorable gifts huh? There are lots to name actually but if you think it by yourself, more meaningful you see? You can make 100 stars, write 100 reasons you love her, put a secret message in a bottle bla bla bla.

Jdreamer,

Why dont you try this way -> When she really sms you, if it is not a question tht needs an answer, dont reply her anything. Must train yourself not to care everything of her so much. Reply short answer when there is an answer needed to let her know that you are not those people when she needs you, she will find you but when she has other interesting people or things to do, she will forget totally about you.

Sometimes this way will make the situation be better as she would realise how important are you in her life. Good luck!

Dear suiteng,
What's happened?
Mind to share with us?
Hope that you are okay

Dear brewoe_1988,
If you join here for fun only, you are still welcomed but just dont spam around ok?

Dear suiteng,
I think communication is the only way to solve your problem. Sometimes why dont use another way to communicate instead of arguing? Just sit down and express each other dissatisfaction or expectation from the relationship. Just liase with each other on the ways to make the relationship prosper as well as avoid unnecessary argument. Try to be more considerate with each other and try to stand in the point of view of the other party before expressing your point of view.

Anyway, hope that both of you will be ok soon. Send my regards to jorineb ya!


Dear wangpr,
Actually you no need purposely ask her where is she going, or who is she going with or what is she doing...If she cares about your feeling, she would tell those to you automatically. I think both of you also lack of communication. Why dont both of you discuss about each other expectation towards the relationship? Talk about ways that both of you are comfortable with to maintain the relationship. Discuss the importance of communication between each other as both of you are in LDR.

Anyway, as long as both of you are willing to discuss, communicate and solve the problems together, then there wont be any problems that are too major or difficult to solve. Trust in the power of your LOVE!

Dear skysherly,
I thought after hughie has moved to KL, your relationship will be stronger but who knows, there were more problems occured. Anyway, why dont both of you sit down and discuss as well as communicate? Tell honestly about each other feeling towards the relationship and discuss better ways to sustain the relationship. Actually it's hard and unnecessary to determine who loves who more or who sacrifices more for the relationship as it would only increase unnecessary problems. If both of you really love each other, no answer is needed for the question cause both of you can feel it with your heart without any words being expressed.

For the family matter, actually do you know what is the major reason that they dont agree with your relationship? Is it because of something that both of you done that made them doubt of the relationship? Have both of you seriously discuss on the ways to make them accept and trust in both of you? Have both of you play well the part to be a good son / daughter while sustaining the relationship? Sometimes even though both of you too loving to each other but dont neglect the feeling as well as responsibilities to the family. Maybe you can try to put some efforts to talk and communicate with his family (to have better understanding about their expectations and disagreement with the relationship)

Anyway, i seriously hope that both of you can overcome all the problems and stay loving to each other. Good luck!