hello everyone. i'm reporting in. hehehe... never thought that i'll be the 2nd highest poster in here after mandy. geez... i'm flattered with lots of butterflies in me. some more it's colouful butterflies. hehehe...

northasian,
actually, the value of the birthday present is not important. what is more valuable and important is your heart and thoughts. anyway, wish you happy birthday oh... (i dunno when's your birthday, so wish you in advance lah...) hehehe...

woi! where got spam that much oh? a bit nia... apalah... make me malu only.

hello everyone... it's monday.... another one hour, it's the end of a working monday... hehehe...

anyway, how's everyone? i had a great weekends. have a nice day ahead, everyone.

nevermind lah... sms her and call her. check on her condition.
anyway, when i'm sick and when my dear cannot be by my side, i always tell myself to be strong and always remind myself that even if my dear by my side also, i wont cure so fast one lah... later infect my dear lagi not good. hehehe... i feel better when i tell myself these. well, at least not so miss my dear liao lorr... then when he finally call me or sms me whenever he is available, i feel so much better and happy.

happy belated birthday oh.... why no celebrate with honey leh?

finally, monday is over, but i'm still working in office
friday..... i'm waiting for you...!!!

wish everyone here have a nice week ahead.

my bf also didnt attend my convo last time, but i understand lah... money matters mah... cos gotta spend on air tickets, hotel and etc.

hello everyone... how are you all? friday liao. this weekend can meet my dear dear liao yesterday got a bit conflict, well, not conflict actually, kind of misunderstanding in our communication and caused by my attitude lah... but we resolved it there and then. now, still happily in love. anyway, some point to ponder ---> i think, there really isnt any need to quarrel in a relationship. when there's any conflict, better if we talk in a low tone and control our emotion, then to shout and blame at each others. well, this is from my experience lah... my bf have always be on the patient and calm side will i sometimes can be explosive. well, from his advice, i try to change my explosive attitude and it works good for both of us. well, sometimes, i will accidentally explode lah... like yesterday, but i really thanks him for being patient with me and guide me when i did wrong. he never shout at me before. when i explode, he would try to calm me down. really love him a lot. guess, sometimes girls are just emotional, especially when it's that time of the month.

dont compare. i use to have a weakness that my bf point to me, which is, i always wanna win, no matter it's my fault or not (well, i still have it now, but i'm improving on it). i just wouldnt wanna lose and i will become very defencive and my word is kind of rude. after he pointed this, i'm working hard to improve this. now, whenever i have the urge to act that way, i will keep on reminding myself that no point if i win the battle if i lose the essense of relationship. therefore, i will try to change my attitude, for both my own good and my bf's too. however, there will still be the time that i would have exploded and need my bf to remind me that i'm acting that way again. however, both of us knows that changing an attitude needs time. reading lots of self-help book on this matter do help a lot. well, maybe you really gotta take time and talk with your girl and explain to her very very nicely. as i tell you, i use to be defensive when people point out my weakness, even my bf. but always he stay calm and control his temper and explain to me nicely and slowly. i guess, the way he speaks and send the message to me triggers my inner instinct to tell myself that my kind of attitude will not bring any positiveness to me, so i decided to change. of course, with his help. therefore, i really treasure him a lot, because, he taught me a lot, i grew a lot from our relationship, and i certainly matures from here. therefore, i love him very much i wish you all the best also, ok? slowly, and hope she will get the light after some time.

everyone is different one mah... some people might be busy, some might not. some might forget, some might remember mah... why not you talk with her about it leh?

^well, i think there are possibility that he forgot after someone pop up while he's typing the birthday message. well, anything can happen mah... as long as he apologize after that, is ok liao lorr...

engineering is on of the busy course mah... actually, whatever course also will be busy one lah... ask her to talk with him lorr... moreover, different uni, different one mah...

wah... flattered. i sometimes made mistakes too.

anyway, in my opinion, we shouldnt really put that much of emphathy on those special dates such as valentines and things like that. well, what's more important is, everyday also in love with each others and show affection for each others everyday, other than only just on those special occasion. well, of course me and my dear will celebrate those days, but if really busy and cant make it, also nevermind lorr... if didnt put so much emphathy on it, then will be better geh...

well, not 100% successful one leh, but at least i try. there's once that my dear was away from kl on valentine's due to his work. so didnt celebrate lorr... that was our first valentines. was down, but manage to think positively. well, as for anniversary, my dear is forgetful, so i would remind him lorr. but if he still forgets, then i plan for some activities lorr... in this way, both also happy mah, instead of me get angry that he forget our anniversary and both be unhappy because of quarrel, better still, i put some effort and plan the activities and enjoy together lorr... i definitely feel better this was than to get angry and quarrel with him.

well, sometimes, we have to see things from a different angle that we always see. "forget" is an accident. nobody can purposely forget one. try purposely forget something and see whether you can make it or not? cannot mah, because when you purposely forget means, you remember lorr.. so, if forget those birthday, anniversary or whatever occasion, it's not wrong mah, cos it's not intentional. so, look from a different angle, fix the problem and be happy. i would choose to fix the problem and be happy than to be sad and angry that he forgets.

This post has been edited by miyoko: Aug 2 2006, 05:29 PM

No, i didnt attend any anger management course. i learnt from past experiences and self-help books. also with my bf's guidance.

always have to remind myself that getting angry will not solve the problem but will create another problem. and always try to look at the matter in a different angle.

well, people will get angry when they expect their dear to remember those dates. what if we dont expect and already be prepared and know that they'll forget. so, when there's no expectation, there's no disappoinment, no anger lorr.

adding on to that, another point to ponder is ---> dont compare.

when we starts to compare. that's the bench mark, marking the starts of a doom relationship. that is where when those "my friend's bf can this and that, why you cannot?" and also "she can this and that, why you cannot?" and there goes the blaming and quarreling. not worth, aye?

This post has been edited by miyoko: Aug 3 2006, 01:19 PM

forgive and work out ways to have a happy day lorr... as i said, forget is not intentional one mah...

hello everyone, miyoko reporting in. yesterday i was sick, now back on track liao.

This post has been edited by miyoko: Aug 8 2006, 02:06 PM

ermm... are you trying to be sarcastic? erm... i am miyoko.

wei, you guys really dont remember me ah? am i in dejavu land?

ok, if my partner doesnt wanna work in Malaysia, i would consider these few things:

1) Does he plan to come back to Malaysia after a certain period of time?
2) How long will that certain period of time be?
3) How stable is our relationship?
4) If he will not be coming back to Malaysia, will there be any possibility that I can also develop my career there?
5) Do I wanna be in that country?
6) Will I be able to leave Malaysia? (family, particularly)
7) What is his plan if he will not be coming back to Malaysia?
8) What is his plan if he wanna bring me there?

Anyway, above all, i would say that i would look and evaluate the future, not the current condition. if his plan is just to go oversea to work a few years and gain some money, and come back to malaysia, then no problem with me. suffer now, but enjoy in the future. however, if he doesnt plan to come back, then the things above will be evaluated and the result will be used for me to make my decision.

as a conclusion, i look at the future, not the current condition.

hope this could help.

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