wah... flattered. i sometimes made mistakes too.

anyway, in my opinion, we shouldnt really put that much of emphathy on those special dates such as valentines and things like that. well, what's more important is, everyday also in love with each others and show affection for each others everyday, other than only just on those special occasion. well, of course me and my dear will celebrate those days, but if really busy and cant make it, also nevermind lorr... if didnt put so much emphathy on it, then will be better geh...

I hope my friend be pre-active a bit but she is a conservative minded girl, means guy should take action....like guy should call girl, etc...

I know what you girls/guys mentioned...but the problem is the LDR, she already felt sad abt the communication impaired/break down btw her and her bf (b'coz the boy was 'too' busy in his studies, according to her) furthermore this belated birthday wish

Although it's seems a small matter but it make her down...

This post has been edited by TarePanda: Aug 2 2006, 03:20 PM

I very pui-fook you oso leh..You very keng coz you can and try to control ur anger..

well, not 100% successful one leh, but at least i try. there's once that my dear was away from kl on valentine's due to his work. so didnt celebrate lorr... that was our first valentines. was down, but manage to think positively. well, as for anniversary, my dear is forgetful, so i would remind him lorr. but if he still forgets, then i plan for some activities lorr... in this way, both also happy mah, instead of me get angry that he forget our anniversary and both be unhappy because of quarrel, better still, i put some effort and plan the activities and enjoy together lorr... i definitely feel better this was than to get angry and quarrel with him.

well, sometimes, we have to see things from a different angle that we always see. "forget" is an accident. nobody can purposely forget one. try purposely forget something and see whether you can make it or not? cannot mah, because when you purposely forget means, you remember lorr.. so, if forget those birthday, anniversary or whatever occasion, it's not wrong mah, cos it's not intentional. so, look from a different angle, fix the problem and be happy. i would choose to fix the problem and be happy than to be sad and angry that he forgets.

This post has been edited by miyoko: Aug 2 2006, 05:29 PM

That's the problem..My gf said wanna try but maybe she's too preoccupied and stuff then the next day forget d..You very keng anyway,your bf is very lucky to have someone like you..

This post has been edited by max_cjs0101: Aug 2 2006, 07:24 PM

morning

miyoko went to some anger management sound pro ledi ~
anyway, not many ppl can do like this~ somehow and someway, ppl will get angry if their dear forget something very important such as annivessary, birthday, ect etc...

No, i didnt attend any anger management course. i learnt from past experiences and self-help books. also with my bf's guidance.

always have to remind myself that getting angry will not solve the problem but will create another problem. and always try to look at the matter in a different angle.

well, people will get angry when they expect their dear to remember those dates. what if we dont expect and already be prepared and know that they'll forget. so, when there's no expectation, there's no disappoinment, no anger lorr.

Well said Miyoko. That's how to make couple happy.

adding on to that, another point to ponder is ---> dont compare.

when we starts to compare. that's the bench mark, marking the starts of a doom relationship. that is where when those "my friend's bf can this and that, why you cannot?" and also "she can this and that, why you cannot?" and there goes the blaming and quarreling. not worth, aye?

This post has been edited by miyoko: Aug 3 2006, 01:19 PM

eh.. when can i get a gf like miyoko ar

Start searching now....... and enter to testing period.......

deVince wangpr

So busy these days login the web oso no time

@shysherly, suiteng
waah ... forget aniversary oso can ah? I forget the day her first pimple oso kena scold le but to some gf it's really unacceptabl ... I understand it coz my gf is like that ... sensitive girls are like tht wan

if she fprget ur birthday.. how!?

Forced to pretend nothing happened lor.

my 2nd year anniversary is coming ... another 2 weeks

Afternoon all! sorry for miss in action. very extremely busy with work recently. for my relationship, so far so good. he just bought me a novel and my favourite cartoon cd. haha! anyway, i was still thinking hard what to prepare for his surprise. the date is coming soon. i really scared i cant make it. must not be lazy anymore. anyway, have nice and blessful relationships ya!

can meh!?

forgive and work out ways to have a happy day lorr... as i said, forget is not intentional one mah...