Sigh ...

what happened ???

Nothing ..just responding to some of the latest comments in gesture of agreement ... Things seem to slow down now .. I'm on standby for the next big storm. Better be ready than to catch off guard and get asked to move out once again!

why dun u and your boyfren move out ?

I did thought about it .. I am planning to find time to talk to him about it. I feel that as long as we are all under the same roof, his mother will continue to treat him like this.

Can't remember so apologies, just have to ask u some questions:

1) When are u and your bf getting married?
2) Have you bought your own place
3) Your MIL knows about (1) and (2) above

Has your BF told your MIL in so many words that:

"you are not out to replace her (MIL) in your son life. She is irreplaceable in her son life but her son needs to add a new chapter in his life and she will continue to play a role but in a different way"

maybe is time u shud show her who can live longer

Your bf's mom is a drama queen. She gets satisfaction from all that chaos she creates, she wants her own soap opera basically. Your best defense is a good offense. Turn the drama against her, she will think twice about starting a drama again

1) We do plan to register next year. He's waiting for the right time to propose
2) He bought a house already and it's on rental. He said once we're married we will move to that house
3) MIL only know about (1)

My bf have been trying to tell her to stop being so demanding as if she's the gf/wife while I'm just a ghost. But whenever he said that she would blow up like volcano and hence, argument starts all over again ....



Lol! Means who can live longer in that house?

trust me, not everybody can act in long series like A Kindred Spirit

when is say live longer, means live longer as human

In that case, I advise Neshimaru to watch Game of Thrones, confirm will pwn any of those HK KR dramas.

Lol I remember that show alright! Too damn long and too many tears and drama in that TVB series! Sometimes I curse these shows because they are the ones that gives the parents IDEAS ...

and you watched it, so u know how to play the games

Aaaaah lol that's very very true!


Yea I've been meaning to catch that.. ppl have been talking about it


Lol I didn't watch ALL! I know about it because my MOTHER followed the show like a religion .. and it gave her TONS OF IDEAS to use against us kids ... even ym father was fed up after she started learning THINGS from TVB dramas and using them against us .. sigh .. the power of media ...

don't you get it?
as long as you lived with them and the mother behaves in such way, you can only get the status "GUEST'..thus unable to make any decision and probably will need to endure constant mental stress..
If your financial ready and prepared, do get your bf into discussion with you about moving out..
But do note if he is making his stand as a filial son to his mum, this does not bode well to you either..

My Cluster B ex watched a ton of all these drama crap. She learned all her crazy shit from it, like how to manipulate people, how to say the right things to make you think she's an angel and all that.

What she didn't know is I watched better and more realistic dramas than her, like The Shield. LOL

1) the mom needs professional counseling, with your BF, sit down with her and convince her that she absolutely needs to attends and complete one.

2) don't be alone with her, she is utterly unpredictable and can be aggressive and hurt you

no relation is worth this kind of trouble

Yea I have the same thought .. that as long as we're under her roof I am still an outsider and he's still her "baby". Even if we don't move out now, by the time we are married we HAVE to move out or die trying. I don't want her to think that after marriage and we continue to stay there with her .. that would damage our marriage totally.


Ugh I hate those TVB crap ... all overboard drama and usually targeted to women .. and women who fall trap into TVB dramas would learn tons of nonsense there and use it against their partners and family members ... like how my mother now using it against us at home. I told my father we should seriously cancel Astro before she becomes part of the TVB characters! I even find the romance were just too overboard .. giving the girls ideas on what romance SHOULD BE when they are all just make believe...

I thought so too ... i believe if another round to happen again I will strike when the iron is hot and tell my bf that his mother is usspected going through some uncut umbilical cord syndrome and she really needs help. I just hope he understands when I bring this up. And no .. I will NEVER want to be alone with her ... I told my bf ... if I'm coming home .. he BETTER be at home!