I agree ... it's better to move out once married than to share the same roof with parents and in-laws .. it can be disastrous because they will take over the house and create house rules ... though my bf and I are not married but I've already moved in with them until we get married then move out ... already I got lectured by his mother on how I should wash his clothing when she saw me doing his laundry. I was thinking, "Hey shouldn't you be glad your future daughter in law is already willingly washing your son's clothing even before marriage ... now you're lecturing me how I should wash his clothes properly?" 

That's why concern.. I earlier replied to another fellow LYN in this thread stating that it would be difficult for an 'outsider' to voice out that she needs professional help. Imagine out of nowhere a girlfriend moves in suddenly she says, "She needs professional psychological help" ... the mother would be the first to explode in anger .. I mean.. who would want to hear that from anybody that they need to seek professional help. It's like people telling you that, "You're a lunatic .. you need to go to asylum and see a psychiatric!" And I cannot imagine what would the relatives say .. I would leave a very bad reputation in the family.

Right now I'm depending on her sister/bf's aunt who is oh so down to earth and a very rational lady to speak LOGIC into the mother's heart and mind. That's why I called the aunt for help. She's the only one I can depend on for a very steady and calm talk. My bf also talks to the aunt and seek advice whenever his mother acts up. But I'm just not sure if that's enough. I will have to be patient and observe...

Sigh ...

Nothing ..just responding to some of the latest comments in gesture of agreement ...    Things seem to slow down now .. I'm on standby for the next big storm. Better be ready than to catch off guard and get asked to move out once again!