Face the truth. No time is just an excuse

it is not that bad laaa seriously...

when your wife deliver get a confinement lady to help her and you...

you will work like usual since the confinement lady can take care for you for first 1 or 2 month... if you $$$ loaded 2 month please,,,

after that you have 2 choice or maybe 3 or 4...

a. send your baby for nanny (weekdays night and day) only take baby back on weekends...

b. send your baby for nanny (weekdays working hour only) so night and weekend you are with baby...

c. tell your wife to resign (if she is working) and fulltime take care of baby lor

d. you quit and take care of baby... aha

not that bad laaa you still have time... look I still go out yam cha and hang out with my friends (my wife and baby follow lor...) it is not that bad... shopping you have a extra trolley to assist you to walk hehehe it is fun...

don't worry son..take your time~

When you are with your wife and baby, you feel that its damn great, watching babies grow so fast from firs month till young, seeing them getting tall and learning to play and make you happy before sleep is priceless. Is a sense of joy that makes you feel that no other stress, financial or emotional difficulties will go away effectively.

thread starter already MIA since OCT 22.

Busy, enjoying the precious moments, perhaps?

Share with you and all the world - when I was at the same situation as you, I couldnt take it too - went out a lot - didnt care for my pregnant wife - went to all of my vices outside.

Then the baby came out - ill in hospital for 2 months - eventually costs a total of RM30000.00 - like a price of half a car.

Regret? You bet!

Fast forward 10 years to today - one more kid came - my wife and I are like strangers - sleep apart - eat apart - all because kids take all the attention.

Regret? No sir. You just adapt and be the best you can be.

Life - you get borned - you work like a slave for some company - you get kids - you get sick - then you die

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Duh. Where got people "ready" to be father one. No big deal, just take it one step a time.

You can never be ready..... When it happens...u will be ready whether u like it or not

i can understand if u are not ready if your gf got pregnant..but its your wife who got pregnant now..you should think about this before you got married.My advice, later or sooner you are gonna be a dad. So just keep some money for your future baby because you gonna need a lot of money when your baby delivered.

On a side note, are u fan of scammer here?

https://forum.lowyat.net/topic/2447372

or ??

This post has been edited by Apis_LuaLua: Dec 10 2012, 11:01 AM

Ts shud be gratefull...some ppl not blessed to have a baby even after 20yrs of marriage n get doctor approval to be healthy...u should be proud or unless give it to someone who need rather u be the hater to the baby since u r not ready.....

TS, is ok that you felt not ready right now. Don't worry, although we always heard ppl planning for kids, but actually there are plenty of couples get the unplanned baby too. But all raise the kid well.

Myself and hubby had been announcing "no child policy", and we got a big shock after knowing I conceived. Both of us doesn't know wat to do as we are worry about our ability to finance the child, time to care the child, and all the commitment for a child. But we are responsible to this little unborn, so I may as well take it as a mission that god given me. A mission as a mother to care for a child. And believe that there must be a reason that we are destine to have this child.

But I do see my hubby never prep himself for this at all. Since the big tummy is on me, he doesn't feel it... he sort of chosen not to get involve much. I do all the baby preparation shopping myself, I plan and suggested anything related to the pregnancy or the coming baby. And I do not recall whether he did try to touch my belly.

After I delivered, the way he sees the baby just like looking at someone's baby. When the baby went home, days past.. I notice he quietly smell the baby's head and can see the love from his eyes. Few weeks later, told him to feed water to the baby, it ended up the baby's face were fully wet.
Now my boy is 5yrs old... father and son are great buddies. They even went out without me (purposely). When my hubby works late and the boy was already sleeping, he insisted me to tell him what his boy said or did that day. Now I told him... he missed all the wonderful time when I was pregnant with the baby.. coz at tat moment he chosen to hide away. But now.. he is asking me to give him 1 more chance to feel the baby pregnancy... NO WAY.. now I am saying "1 child policy".

So, TS... what happen already happen. Your wife already conceive. Don't think too much of heavy responsibility.. just enjoy it as a special gift honour to you and your wife.. as god trusted that you can be a good father for this baby.. therefore he/she is here right now.

Being parents means you are willing to change your lifestyle. There is a price for everything

No one is every ready for anything, it is a matter of whether you are willing to accommodate and go through the process together.

All the best

congratulations bro. it is supposed to be a good thing.

still can go cheong or okt if u wan de.

Wifey and I are 28, our boy is 4 months old. I must say that it has been an amazing journey! The arrival of this boy has added so much joy to the family, everything is so different now but in a good way. If you know how to manage your time properly you will get things done easily, and you will still have some of time to enjoy your hobby.

The key is you have to start with a good feeding and sleeping routine for your baby since birth. We attended a parenting class organized by some christian organisation and we have learnt so much from it. My son sleeps in his own room now, he doesnt throw tantrum and only cries when he needs to eat. We are still working on the night time feeds, waking up once or twice per night. hopefully he will drop his midnight feeds soon.

I say dont be afraid and enjoy the journey. Touching and bonding your own baby is the best feeling in the world. Have fun!

I only become a father for 2 hours and baby has passed away. i wish it would be longer. You should be grateful that you can be a father and spend the rest of your life with your kids. Not everyone can have that.

baby didn't breath correctly?