TS, is ok that you felt not ready right now. Don't worry, although we always heard ppl planning for kids, but actually there are plenty of couples get the unplanned baby too. But all raise the kid well.

Myself and hubby had been announcing "no child policy", and we got a big shock after knowing I conceived. Both of us doesn't know wat to do as we are worry about our ability to finance the child, time to care the child, and all the commitment for a child. But we are responsible to this little unborn, so I may as well take it as a mission that god given me. A mission as a mother to care for a child. And believe that there must be a reason that we are destine to have this child.

But I do see my hubby never prep himself for this at all. Since the big tummy is on me, he doesn't feel it... he sort of chosen not to get involve much. I do all the baby preparation shopping myself, I plan and suggested anything related to the pregnancy or the coming baby. And I do not recall whether he did try to touch my belly.

After I delivered, the way he sees the baby just like looking at someone's baby. When the baby went home, days past.. I notice he quietly smell the baby's head and can see the love from his eyes. Few weeks later, told him to feed water to the baby, it ended up the baby's face were fully wet.
Now my boy is 5yrs old... father and son are great buddies. They even went out without me (purposely). When my hubby works late and the boy was already sleeping, he insisted me to tell him what his boy said or did that day. Now I told him... he missed all the wonderful time when I was pregnant with the baby.. coz at tat moment he chosen to hide away. But now.. he is asking me to give him 1 more chance to feel the baby pregnancy... NO WAY.. now I am saying "1 child policy".

So, TS... what happen already happen. Your wife already conceive. Don't think too much of heavy responsibility.. just enjoy it as a special gift honour to you and your wife.. as god trusted that you can be a good father for this baby.. therefore he/she is here right now.