lesson learned?

Women can have expectations higher than stars. It is their choice. Doesn't matter if they are high or low earners. They want to set that expectations, then up to them to get it or not. It is stupid mentality for a woman to base the man she want on her earnings. So she is earning high income but want man who earn higher than her to take care of her? Someone who earn 5 figure income want another men who earn 5 figure also? Why? She want him to buy her LV bags every month? If that is not materialistic then I don't know what it is. Maybe she want to retire after that to take care of kids? The man's 5 figure income will make sure her high living lifestyle is maintained?

Can a man say the same? No? Why not? Isn't men and women supposed to be EQUAL? Haha..that's an excuse when women want something they can't get. But when the equation is heavily tilted they revert back to women is the softer gender. Women...bah...

It's all about how the society and environment the women is brought up that shape what the women want. Compared to men which always go back to basics instincts (if you know what I mean).

They will lower their standard as they age which eventually some ended up marrying for the sake of getting a partner. Maybe it still depends on criteria like wealth or look (i doubt) or convenience or others. It's up to them. Whatever make them happy. Some ended single forever and some ended really found what they want.

Another thing just came up my mind. Maybe it's all about positioning oneself in better position for a wealthy, good looking and nice guy. I mean, what is the girl does not have much in her looks? She have to add "points" with things like better career. So..that's probably what it is. But I have no idea....

Sorry I don't follow

@abubin, i think u should read this V
he explained manyak gooding. me agree although me no high expectation.

i mean should i said i learned that? i'm still trying to understand how different gender thinks.

This post has been edited by Eclipxe: Mar 31 2011, 02:03 PM

That's because you don't know what motivates them.

That's why I'm learning now lor.

ok, this just came up to my mind after looking at a collegue of mine who is still single.

More women are single because they can or they prefer so. You see, in the old days, most women does not work. Even for those who do, most of them are in lower earnings group. Therefore when they are old. They just get any man who is willing to marry them.

But times has change. Women are more and more independent now. They have the choice of not marrying just for the sake of getting someone to take care of them. Those who earn enough can support their own living. That is why they do not simply get a man for the sake of getting a companion.

^ Well, as I mentioned earlier, most of the 30+ girls I know especially my elder sister and her friends.. still being single due to problems they encountered during in the relationship. And what I learned, different genders have different needs, motivations and so. Women craze for emotional supports. Trust, loyalty, security, guidance and yada yada. Once it's being betrayed or abandoned, it'll bit hard to accept and reaccept it again.

And men? no comment, cos I'm still trying to learn and understand them.

Those things are universal. You think men don't want trust, loyalty, etc meh?

Simple, men want sex and sammich maker, hottie preferred, if rich then is bonus. All that crap about "click" or "common interests" are all bullshit, because if the woman don't have simple foundation like fulfilling the men's expectation (REAL expectations, mind you), all the "common interests" in the world will not help.

I.e. if there is a hot chick who totally digs kendo and anime and gaming and cars and traveling and swinging (basically all the same crap I like), but has this 1 tiny little problem of nagging (come on, admit it women, you know you nag), or is a shopaholic, it's not going to work.

This post has been edited by spanker: Mar 31 2011, 03:59 PM

yalar.. i mean everyone want them but women 'craze' for it ma.

Why?

ah, my england no good, dunno explain.

absorbing the informations

sorry 2 say but u r soo wrong~

maybe you're not the type for her ...

and mayb ur not her cup of tea lorr

damm i have a hard time finding single women...

Just wonder what you mean by "tactics. patient. earn the trust"

Mind to elaborate more? Wonder that, time really can make a girl fall in love with a guy?

even a preferred-be-a-single girl will need love.

men just too focus on the overall idea of relationship: to be a capable bf.
they tend to forget to be a gud lover.

define a good lover and a capable bf

but i do agree with everyone needs love.

It's been my experience that really successful women, the CEOs and GMs and MDs, don't necessarily want a man who earns as much or more than they do. Sometimes they just want a man who is their equal in other areas besides money - intelligence, charm, general knowledge, talent, etc. As long as he's not just leeching off her, she's quite happy to be the one paying the bills.