Does anyone know where to buy the "Silicon Massager" for breast pumps? Cuz i feel that mine isnt as sturdy as before... The sales girl said that theres no replacements for it. Is that true? Im using Pureen..

Thanks

SuggleBliss, i think the silicon massager is the one wif petals. u can find at those shops selling breastpumps n try ask them if they have any flower peyal silicon for ur pump.

Oh thx nicKit, will try to look around for them

Hi all, had talk to her n now she's finally feeding my son with bm.. I have a question in mind, will pumping out milk decrease milk supply? As my mil keep askin whether my baby had enuff by direct latch n say better to give him ebm. N she oso said my son will wan to suck on suckle on somethg due to direct latch as sometimes he just want to suckle for falling asleep.. I'm kinda frust of her keep asking me stop direct latch n giving bottle feed of ebm.. Actually i only wish to stop direct latch by 6th weeks as i'll start working d but now cant stand her keep adkin when my son still fuss after direct latch..
Really feel so hard especially confinement at my mil place!!
N i can only be with my boy when he's 8mths old.. My son will be staying at my mil place till 8mths old.. Sad~

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Added on September 25, 2011, 8:52 pmSbux, sry im using avent manual pump.. Seems like the pump making my aerola skin to peel off..

This post has been edited by Tess_87: Sep 25 2011, 08:52 PM

It's advisable not to pump during the first month as you are trying to establish the milk supply. However, some situation it's difficult to just direct feed. There are some mommies who managed to just feed ebm but they have to work extra extra hard to establish and maintain the supply. It's natural that your baby wants comfort. And it's not just suckling but also to be near your-smell you and hear your heartbeat.

I gather that u are leaving your son with your mil till 8 mths? I think u need to have a heart to heart talk with your hubby..before u talk to your mil. To let them know that this is what u want and you'll need their support in order to successfully bf.

This post has been edited by phythia79: Sep 25 2011, 11:24 PM

Tess_87, y do u have to leave baby for 8 long mths? wat happen before n after the 8 mths? how do u bf him then? or u send ebm to ur mil's place? sorry just curious...

This post has been edited by nicKit: Sep 25 2011, 10:49 PM

Hi, do you all ladies have any recommendation for coolerbags ie, store milk >8 hours?

As my wife's working, and has planned to express out milk for storage, can the usual icepacks cool for 8hours? place she works does not have fridge

kucingfight, last time i used 4 ice packs for 8 hrs... my total ebm is abt 5-9oz/pumping that time coz i can sneak back home during lunch hr to store the ebm... hehe... if u need longer hrs of cooling u might consider getting better insulated cooler bag n/or ice packs

This post has been edited by nicKit: Sep 26 2011, 10:27 PM

yesterday...twice Xander asked for milk (not nan nan)...is this the sign that he is weaning? Though he did ask for his nan nan before sleepign and for his dream feed.

phythia, i'm oso looking for weaning signs... wonder how it is like... sigh... scared of weaning actually... will miss DL n the closeness of him to me...

Phythia, too bad my hubby said unless there are proves to show my mil.. As my mil's fren that just give birth told her that its not a prob for her to maintain high milk supply even though no DL at all so guess she think every1 is the same.. Plus she dun like my boy to get use to suckling as she forbid pacifier to be use..
Another thg is i duno whether my bb is full onot thru DL.. Any1 know how to see whether bb is full onot as we do not know how many oz bb get thru DL.. He keeps waking up every hr asking for milk sometimes.. Thru bottle my boy drink 3-4oz now..

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Added on September 27, 2011, 7:18 pmNickit, due to bb is still too small so my mil suggest for bb to stay in hometown.. Bb will send to nanny in hometown for daycare n my mil will take care of him during nitetime.. According to her, nanny will only accept job which at least last up to 6mths, so pluS this 2mths of maternity total will be 8mths.. Ya, will send ebm back to hometown few times perweek when my hb is visiting cust near there.. Im going to miss my boy so damn much when im back to work..=(

This post has been edited by Tess_87: Sep 27 2011, 07:18 PM

Tess_87, the only way for you to know if baby is having enough milk is the number of wet diapers he has. If he pee and poo often...it's a good indication that he's getting enough.

Some babies just tend to drink every hour or so. Hence, the reason why the first couple of months are the toughest as this would determine whether bf can be successful or not. If you can go through this first hurdle..the next hurdle is not as bad.

Tell you MIL that every body is different. Some ladies are blessed with abundant milk but some don't (like me). I have to work very hard..but i still managed to fully bf for the 1st 6 months.

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Added on September 28, 2011, 12:31 pmsorry to pry..why not you take your son back to your own home..since you will be sending it to the nanny in the morning..night time.you take him back.

if you MIL said coz you need to work..you can thank her for her concerns but it's best that you see your baby everyday...and for the baby to know you.

Trust me on this..my friend sends her daughter to live with her mom..and ended that her daughter can't sleep without her mom...whenever she takes her daugther back in the weekend.

This post has been edited by phythia79: Sep 28 2011, 12:31 PM

Tess, i agree wif phythia... i tot ur mil full time jaga ur baby... if send to nanny then y not u bring the baby wif u, send to nanny in the morning n pick him up after work? it's the same plus u get to c him n bf

phythia, sometimes hor... elders ar... susah to knock sense into them la... coz the quote "i eat more rice than u / the older the ginger the spicier"... elders ma... to them younger gen should listen to them coz they're more experience... sigh...

My bb do pee & poo quite freq everyday.. Hope this is a good sign that he's drinking enuff.. I dont mind feeding him often just had enuff of nagging n doubting from cl n mil..
Btw i found that the side which my boy always latch on will produce more milk than the side which i always pump.. Is any1 facing this?
My left nipple is crack so i used to pump it out only, n i let my boy DL on the right breast all this while..
Sigh, as per my mil she wan us to focus on work 1st as baby will keep us awake at nitetime so she dowan us to bring baby back with us when i start work..my mil is still workin so baby send to nanny at daytime, nitetime only she'll take care of him.. Regarding this, even my hb oso support her..pity my boy cant be with his parents.. i'll be sad to be force to leave him like this..
Im scare too that my boy will get used to sleepin with granny instead of his parents.. 8mths is a LONG time.. even though this is only my 2nd wk of confinement so i still have 1mth plus to keep him by myside but sometimes thinking that i'll leave him here after i start work makes me cry.. =(

Tess_87, if it breaks ur heart so much y not tok to ur hb again? after all it's ur own kid not ur mil's... mayb u should try let him alternative latch... our body respond better to baby sucking than pump correct me if i'm wrong...

Tess_87...do talk to your hubby. I'm one example that I still manage to work in the morning despite the sleepless nights at times. At first, of coz it was not easy as we needed to adjust (everyone have to adjust as there's an additional member that has no other way to communicate except thru crying). After a couple of months..we got used to it. And also when I learnt how to bf while lying down..it made my life so much easier.

Y not u tell your mil this...since she's working too..she's also tired. And she isn't young anymore..furthermore she had her time to jaga her kids..now is her time to relax...don't need to jaga a baby all over again.

I guess my wife is pretty much in the same condition as you Tess_87, she's feeding with her right and pumping on the left most of the time.
Noticeably the right breast is abit larger than the left.

As for your MIL and CL issue, what I can advise is that, THE BABY IS YOURS, so you always have the FINAL SAY!

If you are in anyway uncomfortable with anything, just follow your instinct.

Talk to your HB in private.
Communications between both parent at this stage is very important.
A supporting HB does make alot of difference in helping a mother cope with the upbringing of a newborn baby.

Just my 2 cents.

Hi,

I think you should voice it out if you are unhappy with the arrangement. Instead of feeling sad, talk to your husband about it. If you can take care of your baby yourself at night, then go ahead and do so. It's tiring but at the same time you will be happier to be able to see your baby everyday.

Tess_87...my right breast has more milk than my left. It's pretty normal. And they are kind lopsided too

I agree with stupidbump and tessalyn..talk to your hubby.

Just to share with you...I was one who never knew how to carry a baby..i never carried a baby before my son..coz i was scared that i would drop them. I only carried toddlers. Only after i had my son..i immediately knew how to carry, change him and see to his needs. I think this is what you say woman's natural instinct. Your MIL or hubby may say that you don't know this or that or afraid that you can't handle...if you don't learn from now..when will you ever learn right?

And usually they would say..oh..you are working..must feel tired..but if you think about it..how about your mom or MIL handled when they were in the same situation? They still managed. I find that most of our parents are still 'protective' and wants us to feel comfortable..but then..we are now parents...when are we gonna learn?

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Added on September 29, 2011, 12:27 pmhttp://parenthots.com/parents_corner/soapbox/Determined-to-breastfeed-second-time-around.aspx

just to share...an inspiration for all new bf mommas

This post has been edited by phythia79: Sep 29 2011, 12:27 PM

whats the point in having a baby (through all the labour) when you dont get to stay with him/her??

i had similar suggestions from my mom and mil (right till my baby was 1yo), asking me to leave baby with them while i go to work. As it is i had to work office hours, at least night time it shd be mine and hubby's with baby. We talked to them.. my mom found it easier to understand my sentiments, but mil took a while.. even now she wont understand. I am proud to say that my son cant sleep without me.. and he never stayed without me (except when i was in hosp for delivery).. i watch him grow, know his temperaments, and understand him like no one else.. he is clingy to his dad, but even his dad doesnt know him as well as i do.. and why not so, i am his mother, carried him for 37 weeks and gave birth to him after 13 hrs labour

when i was working full time... we only had 3 of baby's awake hours with us, and we cherished it so much.. that time he used to wake up 2-3 times for milk at night, and hubby and i were willingly indulging in giving him attention and time.. tiring in the day, so i would catch lil nap during lunch hours.. those times are priceless

regarding MIL vs new methods.. its not abt the DL but there are a lot more baby and child care matters that will clash in the future. You and hubby need to take stand and go by it, of course hv your reasons and study for it. I once told hubby, no doubt mil has taken care of 4 kids and she is experienced, her methods are not wrong, but not necessarily right. When there is a lot of new research and developments, we need to walk with the time and follow the new style. Dont tell me you want to refuse using computer cos your MIL days got no computer? Try to explain hubby in this way...

few weeks ago PILs (heck even SIL butt in) were insisting on sarong for my baby... i told hubby that i have done my study and know why i dont want the sarong... and asked him to do some study as well so that he could help me find another solution for baby's sleeping hours... after that he kept quiet and let my ways be... mind you i have been staying at ILs for last 3 weeks