u hav nvr seen a girl who complaining a lot @ 1st, & purl like a kitty after great sex.

Hell no.

Wow.. I'd be starved to death for 11 months without
But there are other means instead of the penetrative kind..

I have!

when u're a virgin, u think of sex as this holy donno what omg dramatic I-can-do-it-only-with-the-ONE thing

sooner or later u realize hey, it's just another activity u share n have fun with with your partner, an activity where u can joke about, learn, play, de-stress, get closer. Just like an activity such as err.. playing jet ski or a candle light dinner together with ur partner. it's no big deal.

just like u can "tam" (cantonese) a girl with a good pampering dinner, u can do the same with a good session of sex. Just like a session at spa will remove ur daily stress, a good sex can do the same too.

The thing with sex is, good sex requires lotsa virtues like communication, trust, confidence, not da cup size or tat sexy lingerie (they do affect somehow lol) .. it's da exploring n exchanging these virtues between couples that makes sex such a great activity to enhance intimacy between couple.

if u're able to do that with another activity say .... some sports, ok lah then u probably don't need sex. But sex gives a couple exclusive 1-to-1 time to learn n develop trust about each other n fulfill da animal instinct inside, and also serves as great stories to keep talking about between da couple .. to me no other activities come close to achieving that lol so my relationship has to have sex included. Besides, without sex, what makes ur partner different from other male/female intimate but platonic friends? hmm..

just don't see the point of abstaining when u already have all the right reasons to take on this fun activity, ok that's assuming u be responsible and do it SAFELY.

Besides, only learn sex after getting married? Too freaking late man! Good sex needs lotsa practice!

This post has been edited by LanEvo7: Sep 5 2010, 11:47 AM

Couples that come with sex first... is almost like a test drive.... You like the car... but it does not necessarily means it suits you... You test drive a few hours and you may decide you dun want it.. So which means, physically speaking, sex important so that you know whether you can spend the rest of your life with the person or not?

But, on the other hand, human are not a car! They have feelings... No matter how open one is.. The guilt is still there... Especially girls...Its whether they wana drown themselves in lust and forget about it or not.. So, in order to protect the so called dignity of a girl... Virginity is the reason they hold dear for.. And it also post as some kinda training like in kung fu... the understanding of each other and patience.. Are you wiling to go miles further than you can for the person you love?

But, I'd say that after those kinda waiting I think the sex will be more satisfying? You know like when you are a kid... In those days, if you wana have something, you will have to wait and earn urself for something.. And when u get it... Its a precious to you... Same concept..

Still it depends on how the person thinks... But I support abstinence..

This post has been edited by lilko: Sep 5 2010, 07:14 PM

Yup it needs training
I support abstinence for 13-21 (school and pre-U)
But I think those final year uni/college students can think for themselves, especially after finishing last semester and go ahead have sex if deemed fit. Those in between years if you can cope then go ahead too but you might break down if after sex no good and break up

totally agree.......

a lot of virgin girls (& some faggy guys too) tot dat sex is ez, just sex.
where 1st time must enjoy with "the 1" + absolutely perfect, romantic setting.

once dis kind girl loose her virginity, she den realized dat the ntgh similar to her imagination (coz there is no such thing as perfect),
1st time is not as enjoyable as she imagine (in fact too pain or fail entry),
& clumsy & dunno wat to do (girls, sex is not as simple as u just lay there.... ).

den she'll realized that it tek a lot of practice to be good & really enjoy sex.
NOBODY IS GOOD, NOR ENJOY THEIR FIRST FEW TIMES.

That's why never bother to find a virgin partner. Since when first time sex is enjoyable?
Anyway, the bottom line is, sex is important

IMHO,

Guy doesn't want it until after marriage + Girl doesn't want it until after marriage = Good example

Guy wants it + Girl doesn't want it = Sex is just a bonus

Girl wants it + Guy doesn't want it = Sex is just a bonus (rare case)

Guy wants it + Girl wants it = Sex is important

wow... everybody love sex~~
me too~~ but if we can wait until marriage it will be most valuble..

iam felt vary regretted coz had doing it

sex is never a bonus at all, it is important no matter you like it or not. It's limited as when we grow old, the desire towards it will change, hence it makes it to be even more precious for us to appreciate and enjoy it.

seriously, feelsbadman
i want it, i cant ask for it,

I reckon sex and marriage are sacred, and first time sex should be after marriage. I support abstinence all the way =P of course, this road is not easy as there'll be a lot of temptations, no doubt.

This post has been edited by onelove89: Sep 6 2010, 08:57 PM

well, i guess i'm just not stupid enough to endure dis test......

I love your bottom line.

The good example is so hard..

Why should you regret, history down the road, your ancestors have it. Be proud.. It's not guilty pleasure, it's something passed down in our blood to breed and multiply more.. But best is doing it with the right reasons (within marriage) or for those who are not bound by commitment/religion, do it wisely, don't dump babies, at your discretion and do it with your loved bf/gf, it's not a free service, it's a gift and a rare one..

It's an encouragement I would say, but I wouldn't say it's the sole reason to a longer relationship. A deeper connection and chemistry are what makes a couple stick together. Sex is just an option.

this video answer all:


u wanna do it.. be resposible at ur act..

The youtube clip's title is interesting (I asked my chinese friend to translate).

We as guys mana ada "tipu" girls to go to bed with us
Most will be willing to be to..

But be responsible for your doing. Don't throw away babies like garbage or unwanted pets (I don't condone pet or human dumping)!!

This post has been edited by SwooshY: Sep 8 2010, 11:15 AM

dont be like a friend of mine, the girl want to have sex but he thought that they shouldnt have sex...

end up she have sex with someone else and dump him...

Thanks and definitely I love my bottom line also
Can't live without it at all

To be honest, there are A LOT of GIRLS also tipu guys to go to bed with them, then after tummy getting bigger, tipu that guy to marry her. So what's wrong if guys tipu girls to go to bed?