If you're doing to often with your partner at the early stage of relationship, but lesser as time goes by, I felt that is really offensive to girls. Will girls really think, "early stage love me so much till wanna do it to me everynite, later part of relationship pulak must control control".

Will girls think that way? Will girls actually mind if the guy want it so frequent? 2-3 times a week is it too much?

Wrong, as women grow older, their sexual appetite increases, all the way up to menopause, after which, it can go either way.

When you're in love with someone, sex won't be the 1st thing that comes to your mind. Especially for girls, they prefer more cuddling, kissing, hugging and talking than just sex. Usually, only guys would be all hamsap, which i think deprive the girl of a more wholesome relationship.

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Added on September 2, 2010, 11:40 am
My grandparents, being all white hair and impotent ( almost 80++, no more sex i think..) still are lovely and cuddly. They walk also hold hands, feed each other, and my grandad likes to kiss her forehead too, and smells her hair.  They have been like this since courtship, according to my mother. haha...

very happy for them 

What do you think keeps them together over the years?

I think its the communication, romance, and undying love for each other, regardless of lacking in sex or not getting prettier/handsomer.
Takes years to build. If two people love each other for what/who they are, even loving them for their faults (like snoring, farting, forgetfulness etc), then their relationship will soar through the skies la.
Nah. After a while sex may be boring. It happens in all relationship, especially when stress from work/household/babies/kids etc creeps in.

I believe what keeps both together are their commitment to each other to make things work inspite of the shortfall both experience. 

All the more reason to have sex NOW, because you can't have sex anymore when you're old.
It's the same with everything else. Cuddling, holding hands, kissing, etc may be become boring after a while too, that's why you see many married couples seldom hold hands. Sex is as fun as you make it to be, just like every other aspects of your life. Only difference is BOTH have to be equally enthusiastic about it.

Sex don't last. But cuddling and holding hands and being caring to each other does.
If you make sex such a big deal in your relationship, then it will be such a big deal, and would cause trouble if you don't have it.
As you've said it, it depends on how you make it to be.
Sex may be a factor, but shouldn't make it a core factor.
ah yes... i was looking for that word...just forgotten whats it called, lol. beautifully imperfect!

thank you!!! 

You could 3gp yourself, save it and in 60 years show it to your grandkids... grandma was a hottie!

choi..... hahahaa never store those in digital form... can always be leaked and haunt you.... 

This topic aroused cos she ask me am I a virgin still or been sleeping around with a lot of girls. Then she said her parents advised her million times not to do it with her bf. But she was like, I'm staying with him. How not to do? Then only come to this topic. Told me her past bf, complained bout him and etc.

But pls don't ask if she go back with me after the drink. I send her back only. Hahaha..

Your pistol isn't the only thing that can please her laa. 

im in an 11 month relationship, everything is going great, we have never had sex though. i really want it.

u hav nvr seen a girl who complaining a lot @ 1st, & purl like a kitty after great sex.

Couples that come with sex first... is almost like a test drive.... You like the car... but it does not necessarily means it suits you... You test drive a few hours and you may decide you dun want it.. So which means, physically speaking, sex important so that you know whether you can spend the rest of your life with the person or not?

But, on the other hand, human are not a car! They have feelings... No matter how open one is.. The guilt is still there... Especially girls...Its whether they wana drown themselves in lust and forget about it or not.. So, in order to protect the so called dignity of a girl... Virginity is the reason they hold dear for.. And it also post as some kinda training like in kung fu... the understanding of each other and patience.. Are you wiling to go miles further than you can for the person you love?

But, I'd say that after those kinda waiting I think the sex will be more satisfying? You know like when you are a kid... In those days, if you wana have something, you will have to wait and earn urself for something.. And when u get it... Its a precious to you... Same concept..

Still it depends on how the person thinks... But I support abstinence.. 

That's why never bother to find a virgin partner. Since when first time sex is enjoyable?
Anyway, the bottom line is, sex is important

IMHO,

Guy doesn't want it until after marriage + Girl doesn't want it until after marriage = Good example

Guy wants it + Girl doesn't want it = Sex is just a bonus

Girl wants it + Guy doesn't want it = Sex is just a bonus (rare case)

Guy wants it + Girl wants it = Sex is important

wow... everybody love sex~~
me too~~ but if we can wait until marriage it will be most valuble..

iam felt vary regretted coz had doing it 

I reckon sex and marriage are sacred, and first time sex should be after marriage. I support abstinence all the way =P of course, this road is not easy as there'll be a lot of temptations, no doubt.

this video answer all:


u wanna do it.. be resposible at ur act..

dont be like a friend of mine, the girl want to have sex but he thought that they shouldnt have sex...

end up she have sex with someone else and dump him...

Thanks and definitely I love my bottom line also
Can't live without it at all
To be honest, there are A LOT of GIRLS also tipu guys to go to bed with them, then after tummy getting bigger, tipu that guy to marry her. So what's wrong if guys tipu girls to go to bed? 

I'm 27. At my age, sex is a strong biological need. When I don't have any girlfriend, I satisfy the urge by masturbating. I never tried and has no interest to prostitution. Occasionally, I have sex with like-minded girls who want to have sex with no string attached. The funny thing is, I still in contact with them (so it's not one night stand, never did any).

When I have a girlfriend, I express my sexual desire with her. If she happen to be a virgin, and doesn't ready to have sex, I resort to masturbation,
Conclusion: For those who treat sex as "special" (will only do in marriage), find someone who share your belief. You're not wrong. For those who treat sex as "just another activity", don't overrate it.

Hm, in my opinion, sex and relationship is like car engine oil. Using mineral oil (no sex) enigne still can run, use semi-synthetic (sex) engine also run, maybe got a plus or more. Depends how you see it, but honestly most of the guys also want sex 

Sex is good shit la!