no it isn't.

and I differentiate marriage and relationships here only because of the morons that lurk around. if there's no sex in a relationship leading up to a marriage, the marriage won't happen for them anyway.

I think it gives the men more reason to stay in a relationship?

What do you think keeps them together over the years?

I think its the communication, romance, and undying love for each other, regardless of lacking in sex or not getting prettier/handsomer.
Takes years to build. If two people love each other for what/who they are, even loving them for their faults (like snoring, farting, forgetfulness etc), then their relationship will soar through the skies la.

Nah. After a while sex may be boring. It happens in all relationship, especially when stress from work/household/babies/kids etc creeps in.

I believe what keeps both together are their commitment to each other to make things work inspite of the shortfall both experience.

It is a bit subjective I guess.

Some would tell you that you need your limbs to survive. And some would tell you that there are people still surviving despite having no limbs at all.

All the more reason to have sex NOW, because you can't have sex anymore when you're old.


It's the same with everything else. Cuddling, holding hands, kissing, etc may be become boring after a while too, that's why you see many married couples seldom hold hands. Sex is as fun as you make it to be, just like every other aspects of your life. Only difference is BOTH have to be equally enthusiastic about it.

R.I.P. Yasmin Ahmad

it's not about sex. you will understand if you have experienced this kind of relationship at least once in your life, as our parents have, as our grandparents have.

This post has been edited by C-Fu: Sep 2 2010, 03:27 PM

Very touching video. Although I have watched it several times before, it never fails to bring tears to my eyes.

This post has been edited by sunriser: Sep 2 2010, 03:53 PM

People who think sex is overrated are just not doing it right.

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This post has been edited by n00b13: Sep 2 2010, 04:57 PM

Sex don't last. But cuddling and holding hands and being caring to each other does.
If you make sex such a big deal in your relationship, then it will be such a big deal, and would cause trouble if you don't have it.
As you've said it, it depends on how you make it to be.
Sex may be a factor, but shouldn't make it a core factor.

ah yes... i was looking for that word...just forgotten whats it called, lol. beautifully imperfect!

thank you!!!

The right way is to have both, only then its proper and wholesome. Both sides want the physical and emotional intimacy. You girls might think that girls prefer more cuddling and stuff, generally true, but I've also seen girls with really voracious sexual appetites. So if you think girls don't need or want sex, its normally only because they haven't really experienced it properly yet.


Sure they have all that, but I dare you to ask about their sex life, and I think you might go "OMG!! TOO MUCH INFORMATION!!!" You really think they didn't have a good sex life in their relationship?

Great, if you think sex isn't necessarily in a relationship, i dare you to take up the challenge and not have sex in your relationship, EVER.

If a relationship is going to work, its going to need sex at one point or another. This becomes more true the older you get, its a biological imperative. Which is why dating years become less as you grow older. You might be in a 5 year relationship, break up, and get married within 2 years of your next relationship.

A truly wholesome relationship requires the sex, it isn't really just a "bonus", its an essential ingredient for it to survive.

Why on earth is she discussing these with you?

In short, sex is a time limited factor, cuddling and holding hands and stuff aren't.

That makes sex a more valuable aspect of a relationship.

If you digested what you have just said, you're basically also saying that cuddling and holding hands shouldn't be a core factor either.

Seriously... why are men going through all the hassle and troubles to please a woman... it's to have sex

surely they would have had their own sexual tryst in the past. But at this age, and aching hips and joints, enjoying each other's company would be most pleasing. Well, or maybe you want me to 3gp them naked alone in the room, then upload for you to watch?

Never said cuddling and holding hands are core factor either.

for me, i believe having good communication, and loving each other even with their imperfections, can be core factor to keeping the relationship for as long as possible.

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Added on September 2, 2010, 6:02 pmSome men are genuinely very sweet and are really sincere. Women should reciprocate and both should be going through hassles and troubles to please each other. It shows that they care for each other and being selfless for one another.

This post has been edited by jaswong: Sep 2 2010, 06:02 PM

You could 3gp yourself, save it and in 60 years show it to your grandkids... grandma was a hottie!

choi..... hahahaa never store those in digital form... can always be leaked and haunt you....

+ 1

jaswong sounds like he never been in love

I do not think TS meant it to be a main factor in a relationship, but i would say it is part of a long lasting relationship. Believe it or not, a fulfilling sex life works wonder on a relationship.

This topic aroused cos she ask me am I a virgin still or been sleeping around with a lot of girls. Then she said her parents advised her million times not to do it with her bf. But she was like, I'm staying with him. How not to do? Then only come to this topic. Told me her past bf, complained bout him and etc.

But pls don't ask if she go back with me after the drink. I send her back only. Hahaha..